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Housemate - Am I in the wrong

My housemate is a close friend of mine. We share a house together in London, and go to the same uni --> just some background info :rolleyes:

But recently she is getting right on my NERVES, she takes up the whole house space with all her stuff, and when I try and put some of my stuff around the place she moves it around, and if I put it back she moves it again and again and again after I move it back. But I think this is soo rude, its my house as well and I don't move her stuff around the place.

Lately, she been giving me weird looks as well, won't say hi when I come into the house.

What do you think is the best course of action to take, bearing in mind we are suppose to be friends,

Reply 1

Toy Soldier

3

Find someone else to live with. Some people, no matter how good friends they are, just aren't compatible housemates.

Reply 2

xXMessedUpXx

15

amen to that! arrggg i lived with 2 of my housemates last year but this year has been completly different! they are so bothered about cleaning every day, there can be NO mess...its almost complusive!

maybe your friend has things on her mind? maybe you could have a night in and have a chat. call it a house meeting if you like, just try and explain what's bothering you, and maybe you'll find what's bothering her?

Reply 3

Toy Soldier

3

I reckon one of my housemates has some form of tourettes. He makes the weirdest noises. Constantly. Especially while watching TV. It... does... my... head... in! "eeeooowwrrmmm... mrrrrmmmm..... hur!hmmnnn" :mad:

*rant*

*rant*

Heh, me and 3 other guys (who have another flat just now) want to get a bigger 4-person place. But don't quite know how to break it to my current flatmates...

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for the responses

Do you think I am overreacting when she moves my stuff around the place even after I constantly move it back.

I know its sounds really petty but its irritating the hell out of me :frown:

Reply 5

Toy Soldier

3

Anonymous

Do you think I am overreacting when she moves my stuff around the place even after I constantly move it back.

Hmm, dunno. Depends what sort of "stuff". If you're leaving things lying around making the place untidy, then I don't think it's unreasonable for your housemate to tidy up. However if she's moving things away from where you actually want them to be, then yeah. But of course if you haven't explicitly (and politely, not confrontationaly) said that it bothers you, you can't really complain.

Reply 6

xXMessedUpXx

15

two of my housemates seem to be in battle over whether the couch belongs next to the wall..or away from the wall. its like tug of war..only with a sofa. and the rest of us are caught in the middle of it...one day its neatr the wall...10 mins later it isn't...

...honestly i despair sometimes :rolleyes;

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Toy Soldier

Hmm, dunno. Depends what sort of "stuff". If you're leaving things lying around making the place untidy, then I don't think it's unreasonable for your housemate to tidy up. However if she's moving things away from where you actually want them to be, then yeah. But of course if you haven't explicitly (and politely, not confrontationaly) said that it bothers you, you can't really complain.

Thats the thing, its not as though I'm leaving mess aroud, its just its where I want it to be and the fact that I'm also putting it back goes to show I want it there... were not really speaking but i'm going to ask her to stop or ask her why she is constantly moving MY things.

She visits this site and I've back it super obvivous esp with the background info :rolleyes:

Reply 8

slackerbeeatch

2

I'd just ask her if there's any issues she feels you two should talk about with regard to the flat and then tell her what you told us here.

Try not to be confrontational about it...saying stuff like "why do you always move my stuff when I never move yours?" is going to get her more defensive than saying something like "I've noticed that you quite often move my stuff... Does it bother you that I put it in the places I do?"

Reply 9

Toy Soldier

3

I'd personally say "Quit moving my stuff, *****". But that's just how me and my friends talk to each other :p:

Reply 10

OliviaG

Firs step: Talk to her about it.

Reply 11

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

I don't think you're overreacting but it does sound like she has some kind of problem with you...try and talk to her about. I live with two girls who were best mates until they started living together this year....now they barely speak. It happens but to make it liveable until you get out next year try and keep the dialogue open :smile:

Reply 12

hippieglitter

19

Anonymous

Thanks for the responses

Do you think I am overreacting when she moves my stuff around the place even after I constantly move it back.

I know its sounds really petty but its irritating the hell out of me :frown:

I don't think you're overeactting, i'd be annoyed if someone moved my stuff around, as you said, its your house too. She can't just take over and act like its her place only and she his first rights over everything.

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