Terrible day

Argh I had an awful day at school and really need to vent...

Basically I'm applying to do french at uni, and just realised today how much I actually hate the subject. I really don't like my teachers (and they probably don't like me) and I just find the work really really boring. I used to like it - and I'm quite good at it, so it seemed like the clear answer as to what to do at uni - but I just hate it so much! And I only realised today that I’m going to be spending the next four years of my life doing a subject I really can’t stand! So that got me thinking, ‘well what else could I do’ and came to the conclusion that there’s actually nothing I want to do with my life. It’s not like I’m stuff for options – I’ve had 4 offers at top UK unis – and I keep thinking I’m being pathetic, and others are far worse off than me – but I’m just totally despairing, I can’t think straight and the more I think about it, I don’t want to be studying for the next 4 years of my life! Espec. as I can’t see where a French degree is going to leave me. And not going to uni isn’t an option for me (parents viewpoint). I know this is more about uni than anything H&R but it’s making me so depressed and is affecting relationships with friends and family – I was in a terrible mood at school and think my friends all hate me :frown:

Sorry about this crazy rant but need some advice! Do other people feel this way?!

Reply 1

HeadShock

don't worry we all have bad days...

Reply 2

JayD

1

Take a year out.

Reply 3

hell_o

1

aw, try not to see it as the end of the world, you've always got options even if it doesn't seem like it. i kind of know what you mean. I've applied to do law with german and i'm not really sure whether i want to do law any more. what i've decided to do is see where, if anywhere, i get offers, then deicde whether i actually want to take them and if not i'm going to take a gap year, spend half of it earning money, half of it travelling, then reapply next year to do german and french. and language degrees are highly sort after and i would say they're a good idea especially if you're not sure what you want to do eg. be a lawyer, doctor etc. hope this helps a bit :smile:

Reply 4

*starry_eyed_*

14

just see today as a 'one of those days' :smile:

if it comes to it, you can always defer your entry, but i think you'll find once you're actually doing the degree, you'll actually enjoy it a lot more; doing what you want to do. Teaching at uni is much more flexible. Don't worry about it though :smile:

Reply 5

username68316

3

As stated above. We all have these days, but get through them. :smile:

Remember, there is no obligation to go to uni, just because everyone else seems to be. Take some time out (cancel ucas for this year), and talk to a careers adviser. You never know, a year out may help you to re-think whether you want to continue french, or whether you'd be suited to a particular job.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

I did actually consider taking a year out when I was applying for ucas - but my parents talked me through it and I realised if I went travelling, I'd probably not want to come back and go to uni at all - and I know I've got to - I think uni's got to be my only option. I just keep thinking, i'm going to be paying all this money for uni and what if I don't even enjoy it?!

Reply 7

Mackieee

Anonymous

I did actually consider taking a year out when I was applying for ucas - but my parents talked me through it and I realised if I went travelling, I'd probably not want to come back and go to uni at all - and I know I've got to - I think uni's got to be my only option. I just keep thinking, i'm going to be paying all this money for uni and what if I don't even enjoy it?!

you'll totally enjoy uni! Dont think that way!

Like others said, you have to think clearly what you want to do, the choice wont take overnight. It certainly didn't for me!

When I was in A2, I was totally unsure of what I wanted to do as well. I felt so insecure about any of my choices because I wasn't sure if any would benefit me. I took a year out, thought all my possible options - see what’s worth it and how you feel about them!

you'll pick whats best for you, and as for the French subject, Best not study something you dont enjoy.. But how about doing a french exchange? find your passion for learning french again :O!

Reply 8

-TMG-

9

Francais est facile...vraiment. But then the question is - WHY in the world would you want to study it at uni!?

You want to be a translator or whatever?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Mackieee

you'll totally enjoy uni! Dont think that way!

Like others said, you have to think clearly what you want to do, the choice wont take overnight. It certainly didn't for me!

When I was in A2, I was totally unsure of what I wanted to do as well. I felt so insecure about any of my choices because I wasn't sure if any would benefit me. I took a year out, thought all my possible options - see what’s worth it and how you feel about them!

you'll pick whats best for you, and as for the French subject, Best not study something you dont enjoy.. But how about doing a french exchange? find your passion for learning french again :O!

But I do actually like speaking French - I think I only like it because I'm good at it, it's my strongest subject etc. But I hate lessons at school because they're just so boring!

Ah well, thanks for all advice everyone

Reply 10

Sithius

16

Yes such a terrible day.... :rolleyes:

Reply 11

Jennybean

13

Although my ambition has nothing to do with French, I understand exactly how you're feeling. If you've been good at something for a while, and have a plan to go to university and study that subject, you can often get so close to it that the reasons you liked it in the first place begin to blur. I wanted to be a vet all my life - I accumulated animals like nobody's business, I studied hard for my grades, I killed myself doing work experience every holiday God sent - and yet when it came round to UCAS time, there were definitely moments where it was like I resented my ambition for not allowing me the freedom all my friends had, of being able to choose what they wanted to study at A Level and at Uni, and I often found myself thinking "I wish I didn't want to be a vet", which of course makes no sense at all, especially when you consider that I had never spared a thought for another career path. Applying to uni was really stressful and although I was elated when I got my offers, on results day when I knew I was in, the first thing I thought was, "Great, now I have to study for five more years". I would also be lying if I said I enjoyed my science A Levels, even though I knew they would be forming the basis of my degree. BUT, now I am at university, I don't think I've ever been happier. You'll find that the work is far more tailored than at A Level, more interesting, more varied, you get more respect from your teachers and more than anything you have your freedom and independence. I think if you really can't face going straight onto uni then a year out is a good idea to rest your brain but if your parents won't let you (like mine wouldn't) then I really do think it's worth just gritting your teeth and getting through this rough patch of negative thinking, because once you get to uni you never know how happy you might be .

Reply 12

kemiandtheboy

1

Anonymous

but my parents talked me through it and I realised if I went travelling, I'd probably not want to come back and go to uni at all

that's not a terrible thing, you know.

seriously, if this is how you really feel and not just a monday bad day at school... talk to your parents about this just tell them what you're thinking.

that it will be a waste of money, you'll get wasted and drunk and party all the time and never actually get round to doing any work cos you're not motivated. make sure they understand your heart's not in it. they'll try to help you find an alternative if you make them feel you're resorting to their superior wisdom.

Terrible day

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