Love is Blind...?

I have plenty of friends willing to tell me I'm really, really stupid over this one but I'd like some opionions.

What's the situation? Well... Three weeks ago I went to the Houses of Parliament for the day as a guest of my MP. It was an absolutly fantastic experience, yadda yadda... thing is, I was hosted by his researcher, who coincidentally went to the school I am at. I'm 17, incidentally, he's 24. We got on pretty well, e-mailed each other the next day, I popped in to see him at the local offices, etc... A few days later he took me out to dinner, we ended up sleeping together pretty rapidly. We saw each other every day for the best part of a fortnight, had fantastic long debates and conversations; we share a lot of the same interests. His attitudes to some issues worried me slightly, but everyone is entitled to a different opinion!!
However... it all tailed off slightly after that. He's moving to London at the end of the year (not all that far from me). Either way, the e-mails certainly dropped off and I was left with the distinct impression that I was the one intiating things, going round, etc. My Dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease last week, and that was kind of a turning point. I was upset, he said he couldn't empathise. We went out to the cinema on Friday, and back to his... I kind of pushed things on the physical front in an effort to make him happy...
All was well and good, he asked if I'd have sex without protection. I'm not on the pill, and very very very very stupidly I said yes. I didn't hear from him until Sunday evening, where we spoke briefly. I saw him Monday, at his office, and for some unknown STUPID reason I did it again... On asking him last night what it was all about, he was non commital, and on asking if it was all about sex simply said 'No'.
I've not heard from him today. I doubt I will unless I contact him.

Anyone any idea what's happened? Have I been really really stupid and not seen that I was being used...?

Reply 1

FoeGeddaBowDeet

Maybe, or maybe he just got bored.

More importantly, did you take a morning after pill?

Reply 2

username47781

Well he's now had his cake and eaten it so now he's got what he wants, as HenvY said did you take the morning after pill if not i would consider doing a pregnancy test soon.

Reply 3

FoeGeddaBowDeet

any chemists, i think its ok for 72 hours so if you get it tommorow it should be fine

Reply 4

username47781

Family planning clinics do it for free.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Yeah, it's 72 hours, so I'm just going to have to cross my fingers for Friday. He withdrew before yadda yadda, so I'm hoping I'm ok.
Thing is... It's bloody hard for me to get to a chemist. Argh.
Why have I been so stupid!!

Reply 6

The Bishman

OK, first things first, get the morning after pill, that is only going to work (if at all, there is always a percentage of how it works) within I think, please people correct me, within about 72 hours at most.

The best thing is not to worry, it will delay your period and make you freak out, just relax.

If you are pregnant, there are loads of options, I dont encourage or support any one of them, I'm indifferent, just see your GP for advice.

As for the situation, I would procede with caution, discarding commitment, the main reason a guy wont want to use protection is because 'it feels better without'. I'm not saying this is the reason, I'm just saying it could be.

Proceed with caution, in my opinion the guy has had his cake and eaten it, but doesn't want to live with the consequences of his actions, don't be screwed over by this.

I wish you the best of luck, be strong and if I were you, talk to this guy about this, it can potentially get things sorted.

Reply 7

Invocation

Carl1982

Well he's now had his cake and eaten it so now he's got what he wants, as HenvY said did you take the morning after pill if not i would consider doing a pregnancy test soon.

What is it with you and cake ? :biggrin:

Reply 8

username47781

the_chauffeur

What is it with you and cake ? :biggrin:

Cake is nice :p:

Reply 9

jonas123

tell him you're pregnant, then you can have YOUR cake and eat it.

Reply 10

The Guru

Carl1982

Cake is nice :p:

So are muffins! :biggrin:

Oh er wrong thread :rolleyes:

Reply 11

andy_cole2

hurry to the chemist and don't get used...step back from a situation to see what's actaully going on before doing stuff you could potentially massively regret.

Reply 12

deekinee

Maybe as a MP he didn't think you'd help him in his career.

He made it clear he only wanted sex. You made a mistake by giving it to him so quickly.

Claiming to be pregnant won't help. It will just make bad publicity for you.

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

You're too immature to be having sex as you don't understand the emotions as a consequence. Nothing to do with love with a complete stranger :rolleyes:

You were used.

Reply 14

Aleric

Owned by politicians.

the voice of goverment is god....virgin mary

Reply 15

Aleric

Where did my ****ing post go?

Reply 16

Aleric

Where did my ****ing post go?

Reply 17

notsoperfect

i'm sorry that this happened to you. i had an ex boyfriend who used me in this way too, only i couldn't really see it at the time. he hurt me during the process, but i'd shrug it off and try and make him happy by doing things that i wasn't comfortable with.

this man sounds like a nasty piece of work, especially in the fact that he said he could not empathise with you over your dad's illness... what is that all about!? even if i didn't know somebody very well, i'd still try and make them feel better!

the best that you can do is try to get over it. he may contact you in future but i don't think you should respond. he sounds like the type who may try and play games with you. don't respond. he sounds like a **** and you shouldn't let him back into your life.

Reply 18

Feefifofum

You need to take a pregnancy test at the very least. If Friday was the first time you had unprotected sex with him, then you're already out of the time limit for the morning after pill. Get yourself to a doctor for proper advice, or buy one from a chemist, whichever you feel more comfortable with.

The only things I can suggest are to talk to him and get it sorted out - ask him what he really wants, and don't let him push you around. Also, I'd stop having unprotected sex with him. Insist that if he cares about you, he'd use a condom. If you want to stay together, then there is always the contraceptive pill, or various other things to try, but you need to use SOME kind of protection. How do you know he hasn't got any STIs, for example?