Getting to know people more/socialising.

Kinda having trouble with this at college.

People are very different. I mean, During the first few days, I asked this guy if he did his homework, that's it, and now he talks to me everyday. Funny how it started off from just me asking about homework...
Then there are other people who when you have a good first-time chat with them, that is all. hey hardly ever talk to you anymore, for whatever reason.

So how could I start off a convo or keep it flowing, part from the usual such as where do you live/what course you doing/have you recently seen this or that, etc.

Even after you get to know the person, how do you get to socialise with them outside college? Two things are bothering me right now:

1. How to ask a friend for their number? It'd be weird just talking to them and mid-conversation asking "can I have your number?" Girls may even freak out over that sometimes, dunno. (girls, do you?) I always tend to think if I ask someone for their number they freak out, thinking "what the hell odes he need my number for?" Because I asked my mate (not anymore) for his number last time on MSN, and never gave me it. Wha if you ask a guy, do they think you're gay? :s-smilie:

God, I hope not. Just need a decen, effecive way to ask someone this, whether it's a girl or boy.

2. In the Summer, some really good movies came up and I asked my school friends if they wanted to come, bu they're absolue lasy-arses, so I had no-one. I didn't want to go on my own either. I kept thinking to myself "if only I could ask someone from college..." So how do you go about this as well? I always thought saying "hey, doing anything this weekend? Wanna go to movies?" would work, but they all say I'm busy.

And no, I'm not a boring person, but I've been told that I'm quiet and I'm cool when I get going.

Sorry if this ended up a bit long, but really need to get it off my chest and get some advice. :smile:

Reply 1

*Sparkle*

well to get someones number you plan a night out and be like "i'll text you details, whats your number?"

It's annoying though trying to make friends, it should just happen, life would be so much easier.

Reply 2

shirley7

I find that I can tell if i'm going to be friends with someone because the conversation will just flow and we wont have to put much effort into it. See if this works for you.

As for getting their number, maybe suggest going out for a drink, to the cinema or looking around town and then ask for their number saying I will text you . . . or something along those lines.

Reply 3

prash_s90

if you want their number you should first ask them a question from maths or something lol , and after they explain it you should say, 'wow thanks man , oh can i have your number so i can ring ya if i need any help' <<something like that !!

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