Current vs Ex

So it’s a choice between the familiar and a short distance relationship or the unfamiliar but current girlfriend and a long distance relationship.

Well with your ex girlfriend you did have your reasons for breaking up and going back to her well wouldn't that being almost letting her have possession of you again and no only that your current girl friend may feel quite betrayed by the whole situation kind of like you were using her off the rebound.

Communication is the key to this one. Basically you need to talk to your current girl friend about her feelings about your relationships (between you and her (your current girlfriend) and if she feels the relationship is going anywhere\if she wants it to go somewhere.

Until you have that communication a decision on the two cannot be fairly made. Think about this though as once decided no going back. Good luck, hope I have helped somewhat and not added to the situation.

You have a good point I know exactly where my ex would like our relationship to go if we were to get back together however as for my current gf I have no idea it seems at the moment to just be going with the flow!

I think it is very unfair on your current gf, imagine if she was going through this dilemma which you were non the wiser. If your ex was so wonderful she would still be your girlfriend now, make the effort with your gf and tell her your concerns about your relationship. If you don't talk to your gf how can she tell there's a problem? She may have concerns too - communication is the key.

Well I do like to know where I am with things however she does give me the impression that she is sure that I have cheated on her with every girl I have met and made friends with at uni (just for the record I have not cheated)....

She is insecure, reassure her that you love her although if she found out about your ex situation this would confirm her suspicions even though you haven't done anything physically. Tell her you need your friends and she is the one you want. If she is going to get all jealous after much reassurance then a possessive relationship will be very unhealthy which will end up in you resenting her.

Thats all well and good but i have spent around 3 weeks convincing her that i can go out witha few girls I know from my course without cheating and now in the last week I have met a girl from back home and 2 nights ago went out with her and her flat mates and my gf is now being funny about it making all sorts of comments and then when asked straight out i get a sarcastic 'no of course i know you wouldn't cheat'

Well this is the thing im her 1st boyfriend so its not as if she has had any really bad experiences with boyfriends in the past so its a little bit confusing as to why she feels im going to cheat! I mean its not even if her family has been torn apart by cheating as her family are all still together and stable etc.

Probably friends bad experiences have had an influence or what she has read in the media resulting in little trust in men.

There is that possibility she does usually have a good read of magazines such as heat etc and all those reality mags But she has known me for around 2 years before and she knows I have never cheated before so its still a little confusing.

There you go its magazines look at heat probably goes on about Darren Day the cheat and I know Cosmo and Glamour always feature articles about 'Is your man cheating?'. Thing they scaremonger people into thinking everyone does this when it isn't true. Personally I wouldn't buy gossip mags as its just gossip and can be false. Ask her if its the magazines that has made her feel a lack of trust or if she still doesn't know you/trust you enough.

Great thanks very much for the help

Totally agree.

About the cheating thing, you said it, was once, probably you were weak and could not resist the temptation. I am not going to throw hasty value judgments and I am not going to tell you what to do as I said before, because is your situation.

Now for everyone, seriously, make things too easy about moral exigency. Things like this can happen to everyone and in my opinion does not have to do with the love you declare or not.

We all are not virtuous people enable to become immune to the temptation for having a couple; those who are, lucky you are but there is no way something demandable to someone and you can not judge someone for not being it.



Enough said, those magazines are tendentious rubbish.

Ok did you read the quote that said I had NEVER cheated before or did you skip that one out???