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Earlier today I went shopping and bought some crisps (such an exciting life I lead). The girls in the queue behind me started blatantly taking about the fact that I'm thin and eat junk food, saying that I needed more because at the moment I'm 'a useless twig no man would want'. This didn't bother me directly, but it did get me thinking of the number of times I've seen/ read about skinny shaming.

For the record, these girls were not obese and I'm not trying to start a size war.

Basically, what makes it ok for society to decide to hate people because of their weight? Why is being thin something that allowed other people to tell you to eat? I'm aware that the same happens for people who are overweight too, but it seems to be less common in some respects.

Take the old A&F thing about only settling below a certain size. They were wrong to say they only wanted cool people etc but the fact that so many complained about a shop only selling before a certain size was staggering when you think of how many ships only sell above a certain size. The reason was people skinny shaming because no ' real women' could ever wear those clothes.

What do you guys think about size shaming? Is it something new or something the media has just started showing more? How do we stop it?
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I'm so glad someone has decided to touch on this! It seems that society now believes that those of us who are a size 8 or below are an "unhealthy" size and need to put "more meat on our bones". This irritates me immensely as I can fit into size 4 clothing, yet I eat like a pig? You wouldn't dare tell an overweight person that they need to lose weight in fear of hurting their feelings, so what gives you the right to tell a skinny person they need to eat more?
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fat acceptance movement
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Fat people hate what they can't eat.
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I'm so glad someone has decided to touch on this! It seems that society now believes that those of us who are a size 8 or below are an "unhealthy" size and need to put "more meat on our bones". This irritates me immensely as I can fit into size 4 clothing, yet I eat like a pig? You wouldn't dare tell an overweight person that they need to lose weight in fear of hurting their feelings, so what gives you the right to tell a skinny person they need to eat more?
So annoying isn't it?! I'm size 4/6 but usually have to go for an 8 because those sizes are so hard to get hold of. I hate that people think I'm I'll just because my clothes have a certain number on them. I'm 5'2 and a half (that half means a lot to me) so I'm never going to be a bigger size if I maintain my normal healthy weight!

The double standards are so annoying! I think a lot of it has to do with deflecting attention from people who are overweight because they automatically assume that people who are think are happy and confident with their weight so it doesn't matter what they say.
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It's been around forever, you just hear about it more because it now has this sensationalist title so it's easier to notice. Also smaller people find it easier to talk about it now thanks to the title and the fact that equality is such a huge thing today. We've surpassed gender/racial equality, now we're on the hunt for equality over the smaller things.

I've experienced both fat shaming and skinny shaming, and I have to say while I dislike the skinny shaming it's NOTHING compared to fat shaming. It's actually a compliment because in my experence it's always insecure fat cows that make those comments and they do it out of jealousy. When I was 10yo I was overweight and I was told by my friends (the "plastics" of my primary school) that they didn't want to be my friend because I was "too fat". Now I'm a lot smaller than I used to be and the worst comments I receive are probably about my boobs (32DD, it's not like I have a man chest!). Those comments are made by a few of my fatter friends (from different friendship groups) and I just reply saying "I'd rather have smaller boobs than thunder thighs/a beach ball for a stomach" and that makes them shut up. I give worse than I get when someone pisses me off. The body part I refer to depends on which friend makes the comment and which body part they're most insecure about, so the friends who have thick thighs get the thunder thigh comment and the friends who have tyres around their waists get the beach ball comment. :yy: Instead of sulking fight fire with hell fire. When someone comments on your weight either say thanks and smile so your resistance pisses them off or say something to make them feel ****ter than they make you feel. I've had enough **** like this to last a lifetime so I've become veeery prorevenge. Things like this bring out the ruthless psychopath in me.

Also, you don't have to be obese to feel insecure about someone else's size. All my friends are around size 10/12/14 yet the insecure ones (usually those who knew me when I was fatter than them) start size wars all the time because I've entered the single digits by losing enough weight to fit a size 8, and sometimes a 6. Hearing that makes them so insecure and jealous, you can just see their skin turning green.

And society doesn't hate people because they're fat/skinny/on extreme sides of any spectrum. Society likes to take anything/anyone who's even a little bit out of the ordinary and pick on them because that's what it takes to feed it's attention-hungry ego. Those girls weren't commenting on your eating habits because they think you'll find it difficult to find a man, they were commenting on it because they think that they need to be *****y in order to seem interesting or have something to talk about. In their opinion you're a "useless twig no man would want" but in every sane person who's ever lived, those girls are useless malicious *****es no man would want. "Any publicity is good publicity" - even though they're saying something negative about you, at least they're talking about you. You've made such an impression on them that you didn't even have to interact with them to make them feel threatene/intimidated by you. :borat:
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(Original post by ThatHealthyLife)
Hi guys

Earlier today I went shopping and bought some crisps (such an exciting life I lead). The girls in the queue behind me started blatantly taking about the fact that I'm thin and eat junk food, saying that I needed more because at the moment I'm 'a useless twig no man would want'. This didn't bother me directly, but it did get me thinking of the number of times I've seen/ read about skinny shaming.

For the record, these girls were not obese and I'm not trying to start a size war.

Basically, what makes it ok for society to decide to hate people because of their weight? Why is being thin something that allowed other people to tell you to eat? I'm aware that the same happens for people who are overweight too, but it seems to be less common in some respects.

Take the old A&F thing about only settling below a certain size. They were wrong to say they only wanted cool people etc but the fact that so many complained about a shop only selling before a certain size was staggering when you think of how many ships only sell above a certain size. The reason was people skinny shaming because no ' real women' could ever wear those clothes.

What do you guys think about size shaming? Is it something new or something the media has just started showing more? How do we stop it?
It is always correct to shame those who are overweight and underweight. Being in either category increases your mortality and morbidity and thus shaming these people is acceptable given the health system is a socialist one.
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Hi guys

Earlier today I went shopping and bought some crisps (such an exciting life I lead). The girls in the queue behind me started blatantly taking about the fact that I'm thin and eat junk food, saying that I needed more because at the moment I'm 'a useless twig no man would want'. This didn't bother me directly, but it did get me thinking of the number of times I've seen/ read about skinny shaming.

For the record, these girls were not obese and I'm not trying to start a size war.

Basically, what makes it ok for society to decide to hate people because of their weight? Why is being thin something that allowed other people to tell you to eat? I'm aware that the same happens for people who are overweight too, but it seems to be less common in some respects.

Take the old A&F thing about only settling below a certain size. They were wrong to say they only wanted cool people etc but the fact that so many complained about a shop only selling before a certain size was staggering when you think of how many ships only sell above a certain size. The reason was people skinny shaming because no ' real women' could ever wear those clothes.

What do you guys think about size shaming? Is it something new or something the media has just started showing more? How do we stop it?
My nickname was sticky in school and it wasn't meant as a compliment. I've always been slender, less 'skinny' now though and it is just the way I am.

I personally hate it when the media/people portray 'curvy' or large women as 'real' women. We're all women, no matter what size we are.
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I would suggest you invest in massive earplugs so you never have to interact with the public peeps.
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Hi guys

Earlier today I went shopping and bought some crisps (such an exciting life I lead). The girls in the queue behind me started blatantly taking about the fact that I'm thin and eat junk food, saying that I needed more because at the moment I'm 'a useless twig no man would want'. This didn't bother me directly, but it did get me thinking of the number of times I've seen/ read about skinny shaming.

For the record, these girls were not obese and I'm not trying to start a size war.

Basically, what makes it ok for society to decide to hate people because of their weight? Why is being thin something that allowed other people to tell you to eat? I'm aware that the same happens for people who are overweight too, but it seems to be less common in some respects.

Take the old A&F thing about only settling below a certain size. They were wrong to say they only wanted cool people etc but the fact that so many complained about a shop only selling before a certain size was staggering when you think of how many ships only sell above a certain size. The reason was people skinny shaming because no ' real women' could ever wear those clothes.

What do you guys think about size shaming? Is it something new or something the media has just started showing more? How do we stop it?
It's increased a lot towards men in recent years, who have become very concerned about their body images. I get told that I'm "so skinny" a lot, I'm fairly tall and I used to unwittingly under eat at breakfast and lunch and then have a massive dinner, but now I've realised I need to make every meal really big. I have been doing so and consume about 3,000 calories a day and have gained a little bit of weight, but it's fairly slow. I just think people should realise that many people are really unhappy with the fact that they're skinny so for other people to highlight it can be just as offensive as calling an overweight person fat!


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It is always correct to shame those who are overweight and underweight. Being in either category increases your mortality and morbidity and thus shaming these people is acceptable given the health system is a socialist one.
Idiots like you and jealous ones are the problem.

I highly doubt it was acceptible for me to have "skinny *****" yelled at across the street daily by a year 9 boy then have him run up behind me and start HUMPING me. I was a year 7. But no, this is "correct" to do you say.
I was also called anorexic because of my weight as people are uneducated to know that they are saying I have a mental illness. You might as well go round accusing random people of having schizophrenia. Yet according to you shaming is correct so we should encourage the random accusations of having a mental illness.

Just recently I got on a bus and had the driver (who was very fat by the way) tell me I "Look like I need a McDonald's". Now I can't even get public transport without being insulted. Highly unprofessional.

All this is shaming yet you say it is "correct" to do? Hahahaha you make me laugh.

Despite me being skinny I was always the best in the class at PE and would always finish first in the cross country races and badminton tournaments. The PE teachers once said to the class that everyone but me needs to think about their personal fitness.
Yet I have a ridiculously low BMI. But according to you I have increased mortality just because I'd be classed as underweight despite going for regular runs and keeping fit.
It is not correct to shame someone for the appearance of their body. You have no idea what their life style is like.

Tl;dr you're wrong.
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Idiots like you and jealous ones are the problem.

I highly doubt it was acceptible for me to have "skinny *****" yelled at across the street daily by a year 9 boy then have him run up behind me and start HUMPING me. I was a year 7. But no, this is "correct" to do you say.
I was also called anorexic because of my weight as people are uneducated to know that they are saying I have a mental illness. You might as well go round accusing random people of having schizophrenia. Yet according to you shaming is correct so we should encourage the random accusations of having a mental illness.

Just recently I got on a bus and had the driver (who was very fat by the way) tell me I "Look like I need a McDonald's". Now I can't even get public transport without being insulted. Highly unprofessional.

All this is shaming yet you say it is "correct" to do? Hahahaha you make me laugh.

Despite me being skinny I was always the best in the class at PE and would always finish first in the cross country races and badminton tournaments. The PE teachers once said to the class that everyone but me needs to think about their personal fitness.
Yet I have a ridiculously low BMI. But according to you I have increased mortality just because I'd be classed as underweight despite going for regular runs and keeping fit.
It is not correct to shame someone for the appearance of their body. You have no idea what their life style is like.

Tl;dr you're wrong.
I'm glad I made someone laugh, that was the intention of my post.
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I think that society portrays skinny girls or guys as people that have forced themselves to be skinny through dieting and exercise. Actually forgetting that most skinny people are naturally skinny it's very annoying.
I am just a skinny girl that wears size 8 doesn't mean I haven't got a figure. I guess if they are not praising curvy girls then they are praising skinny girls. Can't be avoided unfortunately.


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Fat girls will always hate. If skinny shaming is acceptable then I say fat/walrus shaming should be too.
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I'm glad I made someone laugh, that was the intention of my post.
While supporting the humping of year 7 girls...Hmmm
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While supporting the humping of year 7 girls...Hmmm
My first post was just a joke. I'm sorry you got humped in year 7.
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Skinny guy checking in.
It's really annoying, skinny is not seen as a conventionally attractive trait (much like fat), especially on a male. The amount of times it's been the first thing some I've met has said to me!
"Why are you so skinny?"
What exactly am I meant to say to that?
I just don't get why someone pointing out an others unattractive physical trait to a near-stranger is so accepted.
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Skinny guy checking in.
It's really annoying, skinny is not seen as a conventionally attractive trait (much like fat), especially on a male. The amount of times it's been the first thing some I've met has said to me!
"Why are you so skinny?"
What exactly am I meant to say to that?
I just don't get why someone pointing out an others unattractive physical trait to a near-stranger is so accepted.
I'd respond: "Why are you so ****ing nosy?"
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Skinny women have it much easier, but us skinny men have it much harder
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ITT lots of people who (unintentionally) under eat.

Having been on both sides of the spectrum (obese ~85kg at 14, then full-blown anorexia) it is fair to say that fat and skinny shaming exist and in my experience can actually be harmful. Granted I had a mental illness, which probably made things much worse, but skinny shaming just made me annoyed (because I often disagreed) and would motivate me to become even skinnier (down to 45kg about 5 years ago, age 16). Vicious cycle.

Now I'm at a healthy weight (82kg at 5'11) with a fairly muscular frame having been lifting for a couple of years and all the shaming comments have dissipated.

Something that I notice as an ex-ED sufferer is that in the vast majority of cases, nobody knows how much they are actually eating on a day-to-day basis. For me it's second nature to have a ballpark estimate, even if I'm not counting, but most people just seem to have no idea – and if they do think they have an idea, then after running through it with them they're almost always miles off. This is why we have people who claim to "not eat much" and are obese, and "eat like a pig" but yet are stick thin; in both cases these groups are grossly under/over estimating their caloric intake.
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