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I don't actually like partying

Since I've come to uni, I have socialised more than at any time of my life. I see my friends every day and we do something most nights, have been going out clubbing etc.

But to be honest I'm just getting a but bored of it. When it comes down to it, I much prefer going to a meditation workshop (I'm a buddhist), or discussing a goo book that I read, or going out for a nice meal and some conversation or to the theatre. I find myself having to get drunk just so I can enjoy dancing to moronic music until three in the morning.

Does anyone else share this experience, or am I just a little bit prematurely middle aged or something?

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Reply 1

nope fully agree.. not sure i'd go with you on the meditation workshop bit but your choice.

It's also a question of culture.. it is far more cultured to spend an evening at the theatre, a wine bar or out for a meal than it is 'biggin it up' in a club. Your other sugestion, having a discussion about something, also has far more use and is *shock horror* cheaper.

Besides you get a certain type of person in a club, not normally the type i'd rather mix with thanks

Reply 2

Im with you there. No need to be anon :smile:.

Reply 3

Nah I think everyone feels abit that way after partying too hard, we all need time out. Not all of us like to go out and drink most days, and we're not all party animals.

Reply 4

If you don't like it then don't do it, it's not rocket science.

I'm sure the people who are enjoying being out partying and clubbing don't want some bloke sitting there looking miserable ruining the atmosphere anyway.

Reply 5

I like dancing in clubs and stuff - but generally not all night. I like it for a few hours, depending on how much I like the music.
But I'll take conversation over dancing anyday, you know?

Reply 6

I truly wonder about those who say you can't have a conversation in a club. Do you have trouble with raising your voice above a certain level, or perhaps trouble with your hearing? Having a conversation in a club is obviously not as easy as in a quiet room, but if you lean in closer and raise your voice it's easy.

Reply 7

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy
I truly wonder about those who say you can't have a conversation in a club. Do you have trouble with raising your voice above a certain level, or perhaps trouble with your hearing? Having a conversation in a club is obviously not as easy as in a quiet room, but if you lean in closer and raise your voice it's easy.


Some people, for various reasons have sensitive voices. Because of the amount of singing i do, it means i have a quite weak speaking voice, especially as i sing the highest male part. For the same reason excessive shouting also hurts my voice and leads to pains.

Reply 8

Anonymous
Some people, for various reasons have sensitive voices. Because of the amount of singing i do, it means i have a quite weak speaking voice, especially as i sing the highest male part. For the same reason excessive shouting also hurts my voice and leads to pains.

If you can't raise your voice that's different, but the overwhelming majority of people aren't going to have any difficulty with it or with hearing if they lean in close in a club environment.

Reply 9

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy
If you don't like it then don't do it, it's not rocket science.

I'm sure the people who are enjoying being out partying and clubbing don't want some bloke sitting there looking miserable ruining the atmosphere anyway.


I join in fine, and don't ruin it for anyone else. Anyway, its difficult when your friends, who are in my case people I really like rather than just people I hang ot with cos its better than being alone, like going out and dancing. If I were to never do it, I would totally exclude myself from the group.

Reply 10

Unfortunately for you, you're in the minority in terms of your interests. It's a shame you didn't make friends at the start of term who share your interests.

Reply 11

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy
I truly wonder about those who say you can't have a conversation in a club. Do you have trouble with raising your voice above a certain level, or perhaps trouble with your hearing?

Yes. Trying to talk ina club is a lot of effort, I find. I have to strain to hear things and I often miss them. Also, if you lean in and shout you can talk to one person (albeit slowly) - you can't have a group conversation.

Reply 12

I don't exactly think you are in the minority just the non vocal and less heard majority. I share the same experience, no need to be anon you are not alone. :smile:

Reply 13

Zoecb
Yes. Trying to talk ina club is a lot of effort, I find. I have to strain to hear things and I often miss them. Also, if you lean in and shout you can talk to one person (albeit slowly) - you can't have a group conversation.


Have you tried putting your fingers in your ears?

Reply 14

I'm only posting anonymously because my friends go on this website and I don't want to offend them.

Reply 15

I'm with you too, saying you don't enjoy clubbing shouldn't offend your friends.

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy
I truly wonder about those who say you can't have a conversation in a club. Do you have trouble with raising your voice above a certain level, or perhaps trouble with your hearing? Having a conversation in a club is obviously not as easy as in a quiet room, but if you lean in closer and raise your voice it's easy.


What? I think that really depends on what kind of conversation you want to have, I dont think it is really possible to argue that you can have a decent stimulating conversation in a club. I just end up being bored, and worse, spending money being bored, listening to terrible music and drinking in the same way that I did when I was 15.

The justification my friends give is 'we go to dance and take the piss, its just a laugh', but jokes kind of tend to wear off after about 10 mins max for me? Give me a quiet pub and intelligent people anyday. :smile:

If your by any small chance at Leicester PM me, Im trying to get a big enough group of people to go to the theatre/ do interesting things with :smile:

Reply 16

Arn't Buddhists forbidden from drinking anyway?

Reply 17

I didn't think Buddhism and alcohol are really compatiable. How can you adhere to 'Right mindfullness' in the eightfold path, and drink. Are you actually a Buddhist, or a fashion Buddhist?

Reply 18

me and tomber on same wavelength, beat me to it

Reply 19

pritnep
I don't exactly think you are in the minority just the non vocal and less heard majority. I share the same experience, no need to be anon you are not alone. :smile:


Agreed.

Some social circles I used to move in went out clubbing quite a few nights a week, I myself preferring less-commercial music linked to Rock genres and Drum and Bass, so couldn't stand 99% of the tunes being played.

I'd get on with it, I was in good company and the juice was working its magic. Yet there is no doubt it got seriously old, fast. The people I went out with were intelligent, friendly people with a good conversation sat just behind their lips, but the environment and state we were in made that irrelevent.

I much prefer sitting in a good pub with my close mates, cranking some music on the jukebox, playing some pool, drinking some beers, smoking some cigars and having a good old natter.

THEN, once I'm thoroughly pissed and have had a great night, it's off to the clubs to drool over some poor damsel.