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Bf... Army :(
I'm 16 and me and my bf go to the same highschool. We can't see each other that much just because we do different things like he works with his dad and I'm focusing on my exams and getting a job too. But thats fine. I love him he loves me and our being apart only makes us stronger. We have different interests mostly and our personalities are sortof opposite. But we both have the same morals and feelings about things and we get along great as a couple. We've changed a lot since we started going out... hes become more caring and sensible, and i've became more confident and affectionate so things are great. The only thing that concerns me is.. he wants to go to the army next year. 
Don't get me wrong i would wait forever for him and i can cope in long distance realtionships. I'd be very worried of course. It's what hes always wanted to do and he says if we are still together when he comes back he would love to settle down with me, and get married. Do relationships that consist of the guy being in the army for a while usually work? I hope they do. I just want to now how things work realisticly
Thanks for reading
Don't get me wrong i would wait forever for him and i can cope in long distance realtionships. I'd be very worried of course. It's what hes always wanted to do and he says if we are still together when he comes back he would love to settle down with me, and get married. Do relationships that consist of the guy being in the army for a while usually work? I hope they do. I just want to now how things work realisticly Thanks for reading
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Reply 1
I'm pretty sure there are lots of married army guys out there.
My fiance is in the RAF and has been since years befoe we got together but thankfully he's leaving next october.
My fiance is in the RAF and has been since years befoe we got together but thankfully he's leaving next october.
Reply 2
he will normally be allowed to use his mobile during the evening so you can still talk to him. long distant relationship only survives if both of you have trust and unshakable faith on each other.
Reply 3
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I am at uni atm, but i am in a scholarship scheme set up by the RAF to become a pilot, so i kinda know what it is like to be away from your gf (in my case) but bf in yours for a little while.
Firstly, don't whatever you do, seriously don't try and persuade him not to join the army, if its a life long dream even the notion of you saying i don't want you joining and leaving me is firstly very selfish on your part and secondly if i had my gf say that to me, i would run so fast you wouldn't see me leave. Don't tell him not to do his dream, that is number 1.
Secondly, the forces are not as bad as they seem, I went for IOT (Initial Officer Training) over the summer at RAF Cranwell over the summer which is a 12 week intensive course which basically teaches you discipline, guns, etc...during this time you are not really allowed to see anyone else and certainly when i went it was very much a 'closed camp' however this does not mean i didn't stay in touch, we had email and telephones to call our parents and gf from nearly every day (unless we were camping out in the middle of nowhere...!) so although you don't see your loved ones for a long and arduous 12 weeks you still talk to them and tbh i you don't see each other very much atm i doubt it would be much different.
I don't know what the army training is like, but if he wants to be an officer he will also go through IOT, if he wants to be a cadet i think it is a 6 week initial course but an 18 month training period? I can't remember of the top of the head and am basing most of it on what the RAF Regiment have to go through.
As a whole the forces understand the need for soldiers to have a physical contact with a member of the opposite sex, hell its a great motivator and improves morale, a night with a soldiers wife is equal to no other morale boost if you get my drift, but at the same time your bf will be in full term employment and his main duties will be with HM most of the time.
He will still see you, of course, but you have to realise that he has other duties which he took an oath to fulfil.
Graham
Firstly, don't whatever you do, seriously don't try and persuade him not to join the army, if its a life long dream even the notion of you saying i don't want you joining and leaving me is firstly very selfish on your part and secondly if i had my gf say that to me, i would run so fast you wouldn't see me leave. Don't tell him not to do his dream, that is number 1.
Secondly, the forces are not as bad as they seem, I went for IOT (Initial Officer Training) over the summer at RAF Cranwell over the summer which is a 12 week intensive course which basically teaches you discipline, guns, etc...during this time you are not really allowed to see anyone else and certainly when i went it was very much a 'closed camp' however this does not mean i didn't stay in touch, we had email and telephones to call our parents and gf from nearly every day (unless we were camping out in the middle of nowhere...!) so although you don't see your loved ones for a long and arduous 12 weeks you still talk to them and tbh i you don't see each other very much atm i doubt it would be much different.
I don't know what the army training is like, but if he wants to be an officer he will also go through IOT, if he wants to be a cadet i think it is a 6 week initial course but an 18 month training period? I can't remember of the top of the head and am basing most of it on what the RAF Regiment have to go through.
As a whole the forces understand the need for soldiers to have a physical contact with a member of the opposite sex, hell its a great motivator and improves morale, a night with a soldiers wife is equal to no other morale boost if you get my drift, but at the same time your bf will be in full term employment and his main duties will be with HM most of the time.
He will still see you, of course, but you have to realise that he has other duties which he took an oath to fulfil.
Graham
Reply 4
Sorry, this is totally off-topic, but what happened with the Anon Username/Thread details in the OP?
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Reply 5
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Its a computer...don't even bother asking!
Reply 6
lol i know its weird, maybe its a mod or something elite privelages of anon feature, or maybe its part of the updates to the search function 
anyway yeah loads of relationships are like that, there are plenty of men in the army who are engaged or married and stuff.
anyway yeah loads of relationships are like that, there are plenty of men in the army who are engaged or married and stuff.Reply 7
actually they do, as long as you trust and care for each other, it'll be hard during his basic 14 and 24 weeks (infantry training) because ge wont be allowed home every weekend, but after hes been posted to a battalion i'm sure hes allowed home on the weekends and evenings are his to do with as he pleases, so give it a go,
Reply 8
Thanks for the comments Yeh I trust him 100%. hes worried i will find some1 else but i couldn't
& gbduo, I would never tell him not to do it, he even said to me would you rather i didn't and i sayed no, whatever you choose is up to you i just want you to be happy and i'll be proud of u.
Yeh I trust him 100%. hes worried i will find some1 else but i couldn't & gbduo, I would never tell him not to do it, he even said to me would you rather i didn't and i sayed no, whatever you choose is up to you i just want you to be happy and i'll be proud of u.
Reply 9
Man With No Name
What is all this rubbish?
Erm... Someone whos trying to help me?
Reply 10
aw screw this lol im coming off anon =/ it keeps coming off by itself anyway lol. gbduo, i was gonna rep u for something yesterday so i will do it now =]
Reply 11
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Thank You!
Graham
Graham
Reply 12
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Anonymous
Erm... Someone whos trying to help me?
For someone who claims to be a RAF bursar he seems to know very little.
Reply 13
I know lol.
Reply 14
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Man With No Name
For someone who claims to be a RAF bursar he seems to know very little.
If i typed out everything i knew, it would be so long no one would bother reading it. So i tailored my post to the OPs post and hopefully made it concise enough for it to give her the information she required instead of boring her with useless and ultimately pointless detailed military information.
You don't need to write out a detailed military response, instead a personal response from your experience usually surfices.
If the OP wants to know more...just ask!
Graham
Reply 15
gbduo
I am at uni atm, but i am in a scholarship scheme set up by the RAF to become a pilot, so i kinda know what it is like to be away from your gf (in my case) but bf in yours for a little while.
Firstly, don't whatever you do, seriously don't try and persuade him not to join the army, if its a life long dream even the notion of you saying i don't want you joining and leaving me is firstly very selfish on your part and secondly if i had my gf say that to me, i would run so fast you wouldn't see me leave. Don't tell him not to do his dream, that is number 1.
Secondly, the forces are not as bad as they seem, I went for IOT (Initial Officer Training) over the summer at RAF Cranwell over the summer which is a 12 week intensive course which basically teaches you discipline, guns, etc...during this time you are not really allowed to see anyone else and certainly when i went it was very much a 'closed camp' however this does not mean i didn't stay in touch, we had email and telephones to call our parents and gf from nearly every day (unless we were camping out in the middle of nowhere...!) so although you don't see your loved ones for a long and arduous 12 weeks you still talk to them and tbh i you don't see each other very much atm i doubt it would be much different.
Firstly, don't whatever you do, seriously don't try and persuade him not to join the army, if its a life long dream even the notion of you saying i don't want you joining and leaving me is firstly very selfish on your part and secondly if i had my gf say that to me, i would run so fast you wouldn't see me leave. Don't tell him not to do his dream, that is number 1.
Secondly, the forces are not as bad as they seem, I went for IOT (Initial Officer Training) over the summer at RAF Cranwell over the summer which is a 12 week intensive course which basically teaches you discipline, guns, etc...during this time you are not really allowed to see anyone else and certainly when i went it was very much a 'closed camp' however this does not mean i didn't stay in touch, we had email and telephones to call our parents and gf from nearly every day (unless we were camping out in the middle of nowhere...!) so although you don't see your loved ones for a long and arduous 12 weeks you still talk to them and tbh i you don't see each other very much atm i doubt it would be much different.
Erm, what? How are you at uni, yet a commissioned officer in HM Forces as a pilot after 12 weeks?
Reply 16
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The RAF offers a University Scholarship, basically you go to RAF Cranwell (OASC) in your 6th form year, there are two phases, first phase you go through aptitude, medical and an interview. This narrows down candidates from around 500 people to about 50 people. Phase 2 is then more intense looking at fitness, teamwork, more aptitude tests and interviews. If you get through this, and are the final 2 candidates you get into the university scholarship scheme.
Basically this means that you have to attend your UAS every Tuesday (in my case) and you go to bases over your holiday where you are taught how to fly as well as teach you the basics of military life so you do drills, exercises and so forth. Over the summer you do Initial Officer Training which means that you basically do the above but on an intense course and by the end of it you are not an officer but you have completed the first stage. You then go back to a base (probably Cranwell) and complete the rest of this stage to be commissioned. I am not a commissioned pilot, i am a cadet pilot. I will be a commissioned pilot by the end of my studies at uni.
Let me make this clear, i have not yet finished my IOT, i have to go for another 18 weeks at Cranwell until i have finished the course and i am commissioned. The RAF tailor the course around your university holidays.
There is more information here: http://www.rafcareers.com/nextsteps/
Graham
Basically this means that you have to attend your UAS every Tuesday (in my case) and you go to bases over your holiday where you are taught how to fly as well as teach you the basics of military life so you do drills, exercises and so forth. Over the summer you do Initial Officer Training which means that you basically do the above but on an intense course and by the end of it you are not an officer but you have completed the first stage. You then go back to a base (probably Cranwell) and complete the rest of this stage to be commissioned. I am not a commissioned pilot, i am a cadet pilot. I will be a commissioned pilot by the end of my studies at uni.
Let me make this clear, i have not yet finished my IOT, i have to go for another 18 weeks at Cranwell until i have finished the course and i am commissioned. The RAF tailor the course around your university holidays.
There is more information here: http://www.rafcareers.com/nextsteps/
Graham
Reply 17
I know a bit about it. 
Your post just made you sound as though you were commissioned and that IOT was 12 weeks when it's 30. 32 if you count the time off. I was just wondering. You should post in the armed forces sub forum sometime. Plently others like yourself.
Your post just made you sound as though you were commissioned and that IOT was 12 weeks when it's 30. 32 if you count the time off. I was just wondering. You should post in the armed forces sub forum sometime. Plently others like yourself.Reply 18
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Lol, yeh just re-read that post and it is quite misleading on that point!
Thanks mate, i might wonder on over there if i get a minute!
Graham
Thanks mate, i might wonder on over there if i get a minute!
Graham
Reply 19
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Apologies for the further thread hijack, but I had a few questions about one of your posts; I hope you wouldn't mind answering.
Basically this means that you have to attend your UAS every Tuesday (in my case) and you go to bases over your holiday where you are taught how to fly as well as teach you the basics of military life so you do drills, exercises and so forth.
I thought UASs had stopped summer camps, and flying was limited to the regular term-time flying? Aren't base visits during holidays limited to SVAs?
Over the summer you do Initial Officer Training which means that you basically do the above but on an intense course and by the end of it you are not an officer but you have completed the first stage. You then go back to a base (probably Cranwell) and complete the rest of this stage to be commissioned.
This really confused me. I've heard of cadets going to Cranwell for VRIC, UBIC or UCIC induction courses, but IOT's designed as a once-through course. Are you saying you do IOT in 12 weeks at university during the holidays, then go back somewhere for an 18 week "top-up?"
I am not a commissioned pilot, i am a cadet pilot. I will be a commissioned pilot by the end of my studies at uni.
Are you serious that they're going to conduct IOT with you during university in such a manner that you're commissioned as soon as you finish?
Let me make this clear, i have not yet finished my IOT, i have to go for another 18 weeks at Cranwell until i have finished the course and i am commissioned. The RAF tailor the course around your university holidays.
This really surprises me. Since when has the RAF offered IOT up in bite-sized chunks to be completed during holidays?
Go on, save me emailing UBAS to ask what they're doing!
gbduo
I thought UASs had stopped summer camps, and flying was limited to the regular term-time flying? Aren't base visits during holidays limited to SVAs?
gbduo
This really confused me. I've heard of cadets going to Cranwell for VRIC, UBIC or UCIC induction courses, but IOT's designed as a once-through course. Are you saying you do IOT in 12 weeks at university during the holidays, then go back somewhere for an 18 week "top-up?"
gbduo
Are you serious that they're going to conduct IOT with you during university in such a manner that you're commissioned as soon as you finish?
gbduo
This really surprises me. Since when has the RAF offered IOT up in bite-sized chunks to be completed during holidays?
Go on, save me emailing UBAS to ask what they're doing!
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