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Girlfriend at Uni

My girlfriend of 8 months has recently gone off to Uni in Newcastle. Before she went she lived less than a mile away from me in Birmingham. It's a long way and so we don't see each other often at all. I love her but, you know how it is a man gets lonely without a girlfriend, especially when you're my age (20) and plus most of my mates have girlfriends. I'm sure loads of people are going through this. I'd feel guilty if I found another girl and went out with her. What have other people done in my position?

Reply 1

username47781

20

You got tough it out and stick with her, it will work if you both work at the relationship, people do survive when they are apart for a time. Basically when the next time you see her you can look forward to it more.

Reply 2

zain88

1

It depends how strong your relationship is and how much you love each other. I think that when people are in a truly loving relationship, they should love their partner more than they love having a partner.

But often this is not the case with relationships between young people.

How does she feel about it?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

How does she feel about it?

She was upset that she had to go but she knew and I knew that she had to go, to make a life for herself. We talk most days on the phone keeps saying she can't wait to come down, which helps me because she hasn't lost interest in our relationship and is still the same person. I bet Uni can change peoples personality.

Reply 4

username47781

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Anonymous

She was upset that she had to go but she knew and I knew that she had to go, to make a life for herself. We talk most days on the phone keeps saying she can't wait to come down, which helps me because she hasn't lost interest in our relationship and is still the same person. I bet Uni can change peoples personality.

Yes it is true that Uni changes people but the fact you two talk alot on the phone and the fact she can't wait to see you next does show she hasn't lost interest at all.

Reply 5

zain88

1

Carl1982

Yes it is true that Uni changes people but the fact you two talk alot on the phone and the fact she can't wait to see you next does show she hasn't lost interest at all.

Yep, it's definitely a good sign!

Uni does change a lot of people. I think this is because a lot of people are in a phase of life where they are still finding themselves, and what they really want to be like. So being exposed to a great variety of influences will shape them in a way.

Reply 6

andy_cole2

14

Anonymous

but she knew and I knew that she had to go, to make a life for herself.

lol thats a nice way to put it, you seem really genuine and caring, i don't think uni changes the basic things someone looks for in a guy. when she changes it will probs mainlyn be down to you disliking the change that will stop the relationship. But from the way you talk i don't think that will happen. go op :biggrin:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

lol thats a nice way to put it, you seem really genuine and caring,

Thanks

Reply 8

zain88

1

andy_cole2

go op

Yep, OP I like you :smile:

You just seem like a nice guy. Go you!

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Yep, OP I like you You just seem like a nice guy. Go you!

When you find the right girl that's what happens to you!!

Reply 10

andy_cole2

14

i think you have your answer then :rolleyes:

you won't find anyone...and you shall go to the ball (assuming the uni has one)

Reply 11

zain88

1

Anonymous

When you find the right girl that's what happens to you!!

Awww! *wipes away metaphorical tear* :smile:

Reply 12

region2

3

to young to be doing the long distance thing imo.

it never works out when people go to uni.

Reply 13

username47781

20

region2

to young to be doing the long distance thing imo.

it never works out when people go to uni.

Sorry that is the biggest load of cobblers, people do survive when they go away to University, me and my girlfriend did for two years.

Reply 14

WokSz

17

It depends on how your relationship really is. If it's strong, then when you see each other next it'll be crazy. Unfortunately, that's life and you gotta live it.