best m8s...

my best friends are sleeping together, not that it is any of my business but they are also cheating on their partners in the process, again which is none of my business but after each time they both come moaning to me about how immoral it is and how they feel horrible for cheating on their partners. it happens on a daily basis and is now beginning to frustrate me because i try my best to help them stop sleeping together by reminding them of how they felt last time but they just don't listen! what do i do? i don't want to offend them by asking them to stop telling me how they feel and i understand completely that they can't control their emotions and they can't help it if it happens naturally but then why regret it after each time when they know its going to happen again? i love them both a lot so i really don't want to upset them or lose them but i'm confused.

Reply 1

username47781

Naturally you don't want to offend them but what they are doing is wrong, you could tell them why don't they end it with their partners as it seems they cannot stay faithful. Failing that unfortunatly the only way is to let them get on with it and let them find out the hard way what happens.

Reply 2

ph9

i've been in this situation. you tell them both to control themselves and stop doing it (which isn't likey going to happen, you'll find) or piss off and stop bugging you about it. **** man, they're asking for your advice and not taking it. i wouldn't put up with it anymore. sometimes, saying no is the best form of love and all that, etc.

Reply 3

Wangers

sit them both down and talk about what is happening - the cheating is obviously contributing to the bad relationship. they both want twice the action they're getting, so get them to talk and then hopefully get them a room.

Be honest, it is awkward, but sometimes the truth is kinder.

Reply 4

nik89

it really depends a lot on your relationship with them (how close you are etc.)....

Reply 5

*knowitall*

Refuse to listen - you are making the problem worse by trying to reason with them - and you risk being caught in the cross fire when it all gets nasty.

So when they start taliking on line about their relationship do not respond; if they text you about it don't reply.

Why would they think you are intersted in their sordid little affair?!

Reply 6

Anna10

On the subject of Best Mates ... what do people think about going out with their best m8???

I consider this guy i know one of my best guy mates ... he can be a very flirty guy and i have gone through times of rele liking him; and times where i have just decided that it would be better if we were just mates!

Not so long ago we had a conversation admitting to each other that we had both liked each other in the past and actually, started liking each other at the same time. He has sed he wld kiss me; but i wldnt want it to stop there i wld want a relationship. He said that he cldnt see that between us .... he didnt think we wld have the guts to kiss either - as we are such good mates.

I am starting to think again that we are best off as mates ....

Any opinions??

Reply 7

Sazarina88

Tell them that you're not comfortable/happy with them both moaning to you about what they're doing. It's not fair on you at all.

You've tried to help them but if they're still "at it" I'd leave them to it...

Reply 8

Dragon24

I would say, sorry I have heard it before and am not interested. Just ignore them and change the subject - don't let them get you involved. Its bad enough them cheating and if they cared they wouldn't cheat at all or moan to their friends.