OMG I'm a 29 year old virgin Watch

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So recently turned 29 and can't beleive I'm still haven't had sex.
I've been saying this and thinking it since I was in my early twenties, yet time just goes.
I've had opportunity to lose it over the years even since I was at college many years ago.
IBe always had issues about having sex with someone I'm not really in a relatinship with so back out through fear or lack of confidence or just not finding them attractive enough to go further with.
I was in a long term distance relationship a few years ago but cos of my lack of experience I kept putting it off, also maybe he wasn't the right one lack of attraction.
Maybe I also am afraid of getting hurt or pregnant, can't be on the pill or don't want to be cos already taking medication which is annoying enough. So I then worry would I guy want to keep up with protection.
Basically I'm asking with this mindset will I soon be 40 and still inexperienced?
I go on various dates with people I meet, but not often do I see people on a regular basis and again if soon I meet someone multiple times I will then worry and telling them my situation.
Any advice would be helpful..
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Im 29 and a virgin too its a little more common than people think, we just dont speak out hah.
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Advice? If you want to have sex and have the opportunity to, then have sex :erm:
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Go to Amsterdam.

Pay for a foursome and lose it in style.

Acquire greatness.
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Virgin group hug :jumphug:
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Is it worth telling somone new I've been dating say for a few months that I'm inexperienced?
I told someone last year I'd done it a couple of times but been put off cos it was rubbish and maybe it didn't quite count perhaps lol
Sometimes I want it as obv curious and sometimes think I'd just like a long term relationship without sex cos it's easier but I know that's unlikely!
The online dating game is hard enough before worrying about getting physical.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Is it worth telling somone new I've been dating say for a few months that I'm inexperienced?
I told someone last year I'd done it a couple of times but been put off cos it was rubbish and maybe it didn't quite count perhaps lol
Sometimes I want it as obv curious and sometimes think I'd just like a long term relationship without sex cos it's easier but I know that's unlikely!
The online dating game is hard enough before worrying about getting physical.
You don't have to tell anybody you're a virgin if you don't want to. Plenty of people lose their virginity without announcing it beforehand. Some don't even announce it afterwards. They just keep it to themselves.

I relate to you. I'm 26 and am still a virgin. I also have mixed feelings about revealing it or not revealing it. If you reveal it I guess it will ease your anxiety and perhaps bring you closer to your partner, since you're sharing such an intimate secret with her. She might also try to make it "special", whatever that means.

On the other hand there is a possibility that a woman will lose some of her attraction for you if you reveal this to her. Let's face it, virgins aren't exactly common after high school graduation. They're even less common after college graduation. She might still be accepting but she will probably wonder why. This could make or break you.

As you can see there is a lot to think about before you reveal it or not.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Is it worth telling somone new I've been dating say for a few months that I'm inexperienced?
I told someone last year I'd done it a couple of times but been put off cos it was rubbish and maybe it didn't quite count perhaps lol
Sometimes I want it as obv curious and sometimes think I'd just like a long term relationship without sex cos it's easier but I know that's unlikely!
The online dating game is hard enough before worrying about getting physical.
Dont lie to people, what do you mean you told someone you were dating that you'd had sex a few times but it was rubbish? when in reality you hadnt? Is that what you're saying? If so dont do that lol. Just either be honest or say that you'd rather not talk about it, but dont lie/make things up. That is always the worst start to a relationship.
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It's no big deal tbh
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Don't rush it tho, you never know they might just be that one person that on his way to you to be the first....destiny... But seriously let it be the right person for you when it happens
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This isnt healthy. Pay an escort and get it over with, then go see a therapist.
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Are you male or female?
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When I'm older I want to be just like you! Oh wait.. I already am
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(Original post by sherlockfan)
Are you male or female?
"Maybe I also am afraid of getting hurt or pregnant,"

shes female
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This isn't unusual and I actually think it's a good thing
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I know older virgins. Don't victimise like yourself is my advice.
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(Original post by wsxcde)
"Maybe I also am afraid of getting hurt or pregnant,"

shes female
As a 23 year old virgin i wouldn't advocate telling a man the truth. It will put him off. I would just say ive done it, what difference does it make ha.
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(Original post by sherlockfan)
As a 23 year old virgin i wouldn't advocate telling a man the truth. It will put him off. I would just say ive done it, what difference does it make ha.
because youre lying which is wrong (to a partner youre supposed to be going into a relationship with, which requires trust and honesty, and forming a relationship on lies is bad) and also because youre wrong that it would put a man off, why would a man want his partner to sleep with someone else?
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Yes I'm female!
I don't really care but I'm worried I may not be able to have a long term relationship, cos in the past I've made people wait and then get dumped.
It's so weird to get past the initial dating stage now, I just say I'm after friendship to start now.
Most men just want sex ultimately..
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(Original post by wsxcde)
because youre lying which is wrong (to a partner youre supposed to be going into a relationship with, which requires trust and honesty, and forming a relationship on lies is bad) and also because youre wrong that it would put a man off, why would a man want his partner to sleep with someone else?
You cant always trust someone though. It depends on how much importance you place on your virginity. I would be inclined to think that men would think it weird that a 29 yr old woman is still a virgin and they would begin to wonder what was wrong with them, rightly or wrongly.
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