Asking for help

This is quite a peculiar question, but here goes! Basically theres quite a lot of stuff going on for me atm, at school both socially and with work, as well as with problems at home. My friends don't know whats going on and i dont really want to tell them, but i really need to talk to someone about it, just someone who'll listen and...care...really.

There's a teacher at college who I really trust and whose opinion I value and i'd like her just to know whats going on and for someone to listen. But i dont know how to approach her. It would feel weird going up to her and just telling her kinda outta the blue. Any ideas on the best way to approach it :confused:

Any help would be so gratefully received

Reply 1

Draculara

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i think just be honest. tell her you are struggling and didn't know who to turn to. the hardest bit is the initial asking for help i know, but it will be worth it in the end if she can come to support you. make sure you pick a time when you know she isn't rushing off to be somewhere, nothing worse than having to cut an important conversation short.

Reply 2

alexcutts

To be honest, I'm not so sure a teacher would be the best person to talk to - I could be wrong, but generally someone like that wouldn't want to compromise their position of authority. Can I ask if they are the same gender as you?

I could be wrong, but if you still want to try it, I'd suggest asking if he/she would mind if you had a chat with them about stuff that was getting you down. If you just come up to them with it, they might have to rush through talking to you to get somewhere.

Hope this helps (even if only slightly :smile:

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Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

This is quite a peculiar question, but here goes! Basically theres quite a lot of stuff going on for me atm, at school both socially and with work, as well as with problems at home. My friends don't know whats going on and i dont really want to tell them, but i really need to talk to someone about it, just someone who'll listen and...care...really.

There's a teacher at college who I really trust and whose opinion I value and i'd like her just to know whats going on and for someone to listen. But i dont know how to approach her. It would feel weird going up to her and just telling her kinda outta the blue. Any ideas on the best way to approach it :confused:

Any help would be so gratefully received

That sounds a bit like me! Apart from the fact that when I went to talk to them they said that they wanted to help byt couldn't so they kept trying to fob me off to someone who's "qualified for that sort of thing". :frown:

So it didn't really work out that well. Maybe ask yourself whether this might happen or not in your situation first? And ask yourself if they really are the best person to turn to.

Reply 4

fizzerz

my mum is a teacher, and I think one that people go to quite a lot with their problems, once she drove a girl to the family planning clinic! And I'm sure if you chose the right teacher at the right time then they won't make you feel anything other than welcome. Maybe if you ask them when they are free becuase you are strugling and would really like somebody to talk to, they will be able to fit you in and be able to listen to you.
just be bold, she won't think you are being stupid for asking for help.
hope this helps

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

Sorry this is a bit of a random question but still to the point, do you think if you had a personal problem (both in and out of school out of) and went to see a teacher they could help? :confused:

Reply 6

Draculara

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i think they would help if they could yes, but it depends on what kind of person the teacher is aswell i think. i was close with a few of my teachers and built up some pretty strong friendships. i ended up helping one of my teachers through his divorce! teachers are there for pastoral care of students as well as just educating them. if you think you can trust the teacher, go for it.

Reply 7

The Guru

Sorry are you at school or college? Teachers build their careers on trust and knowledge but even though you might feel that it's best to share your problems with them, it may not be their forte. Some will be able to listen and maybe give common sense or impartial advice, but nothing that would cause them consequence. You should seek guidence from a school counsellor or college counsellor really.

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