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So, if you've just recently broken up with someone over the last few weeks/months - how long did it take to get back into the whole dating game?

Obviously it would've hurt, but I'm just interested to see how quickly people managed to do so, and how they did move on.

I broke up with the significant other a while back, and now feel ready to move on, but I'm not sure how to go about doing so.

If people don't mind sharing experiences then it would help a lot.

Thanks

Reply 1

username47781

Well i wouldn't want to rush straight back into a relationship after a break up, i would personally give it at least two or three months.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Well my long term relationship ended over a year ago. I've kissed other guys and been on a couple of dates.
The thing is I have no experience with 'pulling' someone, I was with my ex for 2 yrs so when I came out of the relationship I'd missed the years when all my friends had learnt how to go out meet random people etc!
I'd quite like a fling, maybe leading to something more but maybe not. I'm quite happy with my life, could anyone give me some hints?
I meet people in bars etc, and occasionally this leads to kissing and dancing etc, but I can't imagine ever just going home with them/them going home with me! How does it actually happen? Does one of you ask? Or does it just happen!?

Reply 3

britishseapower

4 years and waiting, I suspect it doesn't take as long for most people though

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

Been nearly 3 months since i broke up, and still not ready really, flirting is alright, but i don't think i am interested in another relationship for a while yet, more stress than they're worth for now.

Reply 5

fairycakes

it's about 4 months since me and my bf broke up. i went out with on my first date with a guy on monday, and i found that it was too soon from my bf. i don't think i'l be ready for a relationship for a while, and i hope he won't either. maybe random pulling, but nothing do to with feelings. i'm too hurt and too tired still.

Reply 6

bone-machine

broke up with my ex of 2 years about 6 months ago...after the first two months i got asked out..had nothing to lose and so i went out a few atimes with him, but realised i wasnt really ready to be dating again and was being unfair on him...so that fizzled out...im feeling sort of ready now..its been 6 months but im not REALLY looking as im enjoying this new found freedom, so im keeping my eyes open but no real rush.

im finding a good way of chatting to new people and seeing if you click is house parties...good stuff

Reply 7

The Guru

It's been about 8 months now, I thought I could get over it but I can't. :frown:

Reply 8

britishseapower

The Guru

It's been about 8 months now, I thought I could get over it but I can't. :frown:

you will eventually

Reply 9

Phantom Phoenix

I took about 18 months getting over the first guy I was in love with - dated a couple of guys during that time, but didn't feel anything. Oh, and drank far too much and was generally miserable for a while. After that I got a crush on someone and went out with him a couple of times and he dumped me, meh. Three and a half months later I was in a steady relationship again. [shrug] I guess it depends on all kinds of factors - how much you feel for the guy, whether you've slept together, how long you were together, who broke up with who...there's all kinds of things that can affect how you feel for someone and how much you miss them.

Time is a great healer, though. Trust me, you eventually get over it, however much it hurts now. Hope it's sooner rather than later :smile:

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