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is he just using me?

this lad in school got flirting with me, i flirted back. were both 16. well weve gotten as far as snogging. last friday after we snogged for the first time, i gave him my home number, he said he wanted to see me on saturday, and that hell ring to arrange things. he never rang. today he said that he couldnt get through on the phone. so today i gave him my mobile number. but then we got kissing again, and he tried to take my shirt off which i thought was going a bit too far so i kinda stopped it. then he said ' dont tell anyone about this, i dont want anyone knowing'.
the thing is i want to go out with him but i think he wants me to go further with him, i dont think he wants a long term relationship with me. its like all wants me for is snogging. im not falling for him, im fine with snogging, but today kinda shocked me when he put his hand up my shirt.

do you reckon hes using me?

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Reply 1
lol, snog.
Reply 2
and yes, i do reckon so
Reply 3
Maybe he's just a horny bugger? He is at that age as well.

As for the not wanting people to know part, its probably him feeling embarrassed at what happened, as opposed to him saying 'don't tell anyone about us.' Stuff like that is embarrassing, I would'nt want the world to know!

Maybe it'd be worthwhile to ask him what exactly he wants from you?

Good luck :smile:

w00tt
Well i would slow down for a minute and have a talk about what you both want.
Reply 5
Hes a clever guy, I've been thinking of trying that but have never got round to it :frown:
Reply 6
I think he just wants you for sex, it sounds like it.
Reply 7
Yep someone's lookin to get laid... Is he fit? if so, feel flattered he's chosen you haha. I wudn't get too attatched to this lad doh, he's probably tryin it on with loads of other gals. I know plenty of boys like that, they're good for a bit of fun but that's it...
Reply 8
yeah hes dead popular like. very confident with the ladies. im not getting too attached to him, i dont mind snogging him, im not going to get hurt. lyk its just for a bit of fun. thats ok isnt it? its not sleazy. im drawing the line at kissing however
Reply 9
snogging haha. am i the only immature person laughing at this word
So how will you feel when he starts kissing another girl?
Reply 11
i was just shocked at his hand going up thats all
Reply 12
i think id feel fine if he was kissing another girl, im not falling for him, like but i do fancy him and he knows this
was it cold or something?
Reply 14
Well kissing leads to another. But then why would you keep kissing him knowing that he'd be kissing other girls too? Don't kiss him becasue he's popular and you're doing it to make yourself look cool because you've kissed a popular guy!

And although it might be a bit of fun, things like that can sometimes turn nasty. But as long as you're using your common sense then everything should be ok.

errr common sense. Common sense?
Reply 15
you know what, i'd reject him.

if you're only going to get as far as kissing this boy, not even a relationship/something meaningful/whatever, then what's the point?

i'd feel a lot better knowing i rejected the "hot boy in school"
Reply 16
cold?
Reply 17
Yeah probably, that's what many guys are put on this Earth for.
True you keep kissing him he will try and take it further again.
Anonymous
this lad in school got flirting with me, i flirted back. were both 16. well weve gotten as far as snogging. last friday after we snogged for the first time, i gave him my home number, he said he wanted to see me on saturday, and that hell ring to arrange things. he never rang. today he said that he couldnt get through on the phone. so today i gave him my mobile number. but then we got kissing again, and he tried to take my shirt off which i thought was going a bit too far so i kinda stopped it. then he said ' dont tell anyone about this, i dont want anyone knowing'.
the thing is i want to go out with him but i think he wants me to go further with him, i dont think he wants a long term relationship with me. its like all wants me for is snogging. im not falling for him, im fine with snogging, but today kinda shocked me when he put his hand up my shirt.

do you reckon hes using me?


you both need to talk get to know each other