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Naturally Skinny - and Sick of Rude Comments
Hello, everyone. I'm new to this forum so sorry if something like this has been posted before - I really need a rant!
First of all, I've been really slim all my life. My metabolism is fast, and it is impossible for me to put on weight. The only time I ever gain a tiny amount of weight is the week leading up to my period (im sure every girl experiences this!).
I'm just really sick and tired of people commenting negatively on my body all the time - and I'm not talking about people I know. Nope, absolute strangers feel the need to make nasty remarks either to my face, or so loud that I can hear, when I'm out and about and it really truly gets me down.
I've lost count of the number of times I've heard people saying "oh my god, she's sooo skinny!" (in a disgusted way) to their friends in a shop, or heard people whispering about me being anorexic. Oh, and I visited London recently and I walked past a guy who said, really loudly, "PUT SOME WEIGHT ON LOVE!". I was so incensed with rage (and feeling the effects of PMT - lol) that I marched up to him and went absolutely mental, telling him he was so rude and asking him if he had even considered that there's nothing I can do about my weight. He totally backed down but he was still saying "Listen love i think youre beautiful but seriously... you need to put some weight on" - as if popping a little compliment in would make it better! I've been to the doctor about putting weight on and she basically said there's nothing I can do. And speaking of doctors.... I went to a different doctor a few months ago about going on the pill and she made a good few snidey comments about my weight, eventually saying "I'll put you on this pill, it doesnt have any side effects other than it might make you put on some weight.... but that wouldnt do you any harm". (and for the record... the pill didnt help me gain any pounds)
I can't really moan about it to my friends because they just say the usual 'friend' things "oh people are just jealous, wouldnt you rather be too thin than too fat, blah blah" - well, actually, i'd just like to be a happy medium thank you very much!
I honestly don't know what I weigh because I really don't want to know. I'm 5' 7 and a size 6 to 8. I'm a 32 - 23 - 32. People assume that because i'm skinny i have no shape but thats the thing - i do have boobs and a bum and hips! Argh. Please don't say I'm sitting about feeling sorry for myself without any reason to, because I do think I have reason; it's hurtful that people assume im ill, and feel like its ok for them to openly say things about my weight. I'm one of those people who takes things to heart and I find it difficult to brush their comments off.
Soooooooo - are any of you in the same boat as me? Also, what are your opinions about this - do any of you think youre more likely to comment to your pals about someone you see who is too skinny, than too fat?
And if youve got any tips for ignoring what others say, then please tell me them! Because I'm pathetically sensitive!
First of all, I've been really slim all my life. My metabolism is fast, and it is impossible for me to put on weight. The only time I ever gain a tiny amount of weight is the week leading up to my period (im sure every girl experiences this!).
I'm just really sick and tired of people commenting negatively on my body all the time - and I'm not talking about people I know. Nope, absolute strangers feel the need to make nasty remarks either to my face, or so loud that I can hear, when I'm out and about and it really truly gets me down.
I've lost count of the number of times I've heard people saying "oh my god, she's sooo skinny!" (in a disgusted way) to their friends in a shop, or heard people whispering about me being anorexic. Oh, and I visited London recently and I walked past a guy who said, really loudly, "PUT SOME WEIGHT ON LOVE!". I was so incensed with rage (and feeling the effects of PMT - lol) that I marched up to him and went absolutely mental, telling him he was so rude and asking him if he had even considered that there's nothing I can do about my weight. He totally backed down but he was still saying "Listen love i think youre beautiful but seriously... you need to put some weight on" - as if popping a little compliment in would make it better! I've been to the doctor about putting weight on and she basically said there's nothing I can do. And speaking of doctors.... I went to a different doctor a few months ago about going on the pill and she made a good few snidey comments about my weight, eventually saying "I'll put you on this pill, it doesnt have any side effects other than it might make you put on some weight.... but that wouldnt do you any harm". (and for the record... the pill didnt help me gain any pounds)
I can't really moan about it to my friends because they just say the usual 'friend' things "oh people are just jealous, wouldnt you rather be too thin than too fat, blah blah" - well, actually, i'd just like to be a happy medium thank you very much!
I honestly don't know what I weigh because I really don't want to know. I'm 5' 7 and a size 6 to 8. I'm a 32 - 23 - 32. People assume that because i'm skinny i have no shape but thats the thing - i do have boobs and a bum and hips! Argh. Please don't say I'm sitting about feeling sorry for myself without any reason to, because I do think I have reason; it's hurtful that people assume im ill, and feel like its ok for them to openly say things about my weight. I'm one of those people who takes things to heart and I find it difficult to brush their comments off.
Soooooooo - are any of you in the same boat as me? Also, what are your opinions about this - do any of you think youre more likely to comment to your pals about someone you see who is too skinny, than too fat?
And if youve got any tips for ignoring what others say, then please tell me them! Because I'm pathetically sensitive!
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This thread isnt going to get a good response. i have exactly the same dimensions as you (32-23-32) and i for one definatly have boobs, and wide looking hips and generally a curvy body, as i'm sure you have.
I think you really just have to be think skinned about it, as long as your happy with your body other peoples opinions dont hurt. If someone takes the piss about my ears i find it hurtful because im ridiculasly sensitive about them, but if your happy this shouldnt effest you too much.
Overall Love yourself and your body and these comments will bonce off you. My male friends brung up my weight recently and the all thought i weighted 5-6stone! I'd be dead if i weighted 5 stone, but similarly they always joke about my 'back' because i've got a curvy bum (blush).
If theres not bones sticking out then what have you got to worry about.
I think you really just have to be think skinned about it, as long as your happy with your body other peoples opinions dont hurt. If someone takes the piss about my ears i find it hurtful because im ridiculasly sensitive about them, but if your happy this shouldnt effest you too much.
Overall Love yourself and your body and these comments will bonce off you. My male friends brung up my weight recently and the all thought i weighted 5-6stone! I'd be dead if i weighted 5 stone, but similarly they always joke about my 'back' because i've got a curvy bum (blush).
If theres not bones sticking out then what have you got to worry about.
No pet, i'm the opposite
I think if you are eating properly and exercising regulary then it only becomes an issue if you let be one. The people making comments about you probably have nothing better to do.
I know how you feel. I am underweight (due to a medical condition) and I find it extremely hard to put weight on - in fact it's a continuous battle for me. I too get funny looks and the occasional odd remark about my "skinnyness" but I've kind of got used to it now - I just tell myself that they're being shallow and if they knew the real reason behind my weight they wouldn't be so quick to judge!
I think people assume that if you're underweight/thin then you've done it on purpose or you're anorexic. (There may be a touch of jealousy there too). And you're right, people consider it hurtful to comment on a person's obesity but the same rules don't seem to apply to people who are skinny! TBH, I try to ignore it but I can understand you're frustration.
Obviously, I have a medical reason for being underweight, so if someone says something particularly rude or hurtful to me (and if I'm in the right mood and can be bothered) I'll give them a lecture about WHY I'm underweight! They soon shut up then!
I think people assume that if you're underweight/thin then you've done it on purpose or you're anorexic. (There may be a touch of jealousy there too). And you're right, people consider it hurtful to comment on a person's obesity but the same rules don't seem to apply to people who are skinny! TBH, I try to ignore it but I can understand you're frustration.
Obviously, I have a medical reason for being underweight, so if someone says something particularly rude or hurtful to me (and if I'm in the right mood and can be bothered) I'll give them a lecture about WHY I'm underweight! They soon shut up then!
your friends are right, the girls who say it probably are just a bit jealous.
you have to ignore it - and the more it gets said the easier that will be. Try responding positively to their comments - smile and say thank you if they say look how skinny she is.
you have to ignore it - and the more it gets said the easier that will be. Try responding positively to their comments - smile and say thank you if they say look how skinny she is.
how much do you eat? In numbers, please.
lets_begin
how much do you eat? In numbers, please.
seriously??? im sure some people just needs to diss... i mean.. you dont wanna call a fat man fat... skinny is better that means it saves you from heart problems... plus arent all catwalk models rather skinny??? if you are skinny as them then damn.. youre body is fit (in my dictionary)
HenvY
Laura Lou
eh?
I mean I dont want a meaningless answer like "omg SO MUCH AND MORE THAN ALL MY FRIENDS", but something with numbers like actually how many calories she eats.
lets_begin
I mean I dont want a meaningless answer like "omg SO MUCH AND MORE THAN ALL MY FRIENDS", but something with numbers like actually how many calories she eats.
oh, just didn't get why you had quoted me, thought you were asking me
HenvY
oh, just didn't get why you had quoted me, thought you were asking me
sorry, I didnt realise I had. Editted now.
My male friends brung up my weight recently and the all thought i weighted 5-6stone!
lol, imagine! but yeah i'm the same as you with the bum thing - mine sticks out too and one of my pals calls me "bum"
if she was curvy, the man wouldn't have told her to put weight on...
that's not true. i had a short coat on, skinny jeans and heels. so he probably took one look at my legs and thought "shes too thin". people seem to lose sight of what curvy means. it is possible to get curvy thin girls, and bigger girls who have a more straight up and down shape.
ph9
if she was curvy, the man wouldn't have told her to put weight on...
She obviously is curvy, at least compared to most of the self-described "curvy" girls on TSR. The girls who wear 12s and 14s are always going on about how curvy they are, even if they have 28 inch waists and 35 inch hips. The OP is obviously curvier than that, as she has a lower waist:hip ratio.
Being curvy isn't about how much weight you have, it's about your proportions.
And why is her status as being "curvy" or not completely dependant on one man's reaction?
to lets_begin: i dont know how many calories i eat because im unsure of the calorie content of diff foods.
this is how my meals usually are:
breakfast: cuppa tea (milk, 3 sugars), scrambled eggs, 2 or 3 slices of toast (buttered) and sometimes like a bowl of crunchy nut cornflakes depending on how late i am.
snack: salt and vinegar crisps, bottle of water
lunch: cola, 2 or 3 sandwiches / m&s pasta with pesto sauce & some fruit. little bag of minstrels or shortbread from starbucks.
i'll usually have a coffee in between lunch and dinner.
dinner: varies all the time, obviously, but today it was beef stroganoff + rice, with salad, can of pepsi followed by some trifle.
in between dinner and bed i'll just have snacky things really. biscuits, fruit, water, chocolate.
basically i have 3 big meals a day and eat when im hungry in between.
this is how my meals usually are:
breakfast: cuppa tea (milk, 3 sugars), scrambled eggs, 2 or 3 slices of toast (buttered) and sometimes like a bowl of crunchy nut cornflakes depending on how late i am.
snack: salt and vinegar crisps, bottle of water
lunch: cola, 2 or 3 sandwiches / m&s pasta with pesto sauce & some fruit. little bag of minstrels or shortbread from starbucks.
i'll usually have a coffee in between lunch and dinner.
dinner: varies all the time, obviously, but today it was beef stroganoff + rice, with salad, can of pepsi followed by some trifle.
in between dinner and bed i'll just have snacky things really. biscuits, fruit, water, chocolate.
basically i have 3 big meals a day and eat when im hungry in between.
pixiechick
it is possible to get curvy thin girls
When I see one, I'll believe you. It seems more and more than thinner girls are trying to describe themselves as 'curvy' to make themselves feel better, but as I've said, when I see one, I'll believe you.
Having said that, though, people shouldn't make comments about you, and if your doctor says you're a healthy size for your height, then that is fine.
Angelil
When I see one, I'll believe you. It seems more and more than thinner girls are trying to describe themselves as 'curvy' to make themselves feel better, but as I've said, when I see one, I'll believe you.
It seems to me that there are many more bigger girls who describe themselves as "curvy" to make themselves feel better about being fat.
Take this example: which girl is curvier, the size 6 OP with 32-23-32 measurements, or a bigger girl with 38-30-38 measurements? The answer is obvious.
Angelil
When I see one, I'll believe you. It seems more and more than thinner girls are trying to describe themselves as 'curvy' to make themselves feel better, but as I've said, when I see one, I'll believe you.
Having said that, though, people shouldn't make comments about you, and if your doctor says you're a healthy size for your height, then that is fine.
Having said that, though, people shouldn't make comments about you, and if your doctor says you're a healthy size for your height, then that is fine.
All I can say is that I don't think it's necessarily thinner girls describing themselves as curvy to make themselves feel better. I'd post a picture but I'm a bit wary of posting pics in forums etc.
My doctor didnt say that I'm a healthy size for my height, because I'm not - she acknowledged that I am underweight for my height. I already knew this. However, she also acknowledged that this is nothing to do with the way I eat or anything - it's simply genetics (my mum was the same when she was younger).
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