Having no friends

I2 years ago I was happy, my phone ringed alot and I had lots of friends. I was out most of the time and I loved it.

Now, I dont have any, Im a guy and on my phone I dont even have a girls number (yeah i know) Before I had loads.

Its a realling gut renchin feeling, being an outsider. I just cant understand why it happens. I try to scoalise but people just dont want to talk back. I have one good mate outside school (im in six form) and hes leaving for another country.

I really dont know what to do, I feel pissed off, and so, so jealous of those hanging out with their mates and stuff.

Sometimes i just walk out of school because I dont want the shame of being seen alone. I want to be a good role model for my sister, but maybe its the other way round (her phone rings off the hook and she has great mates).

I dont know what to do, people say get out more, Im always trying to get out as much as possible.

I feel like a tit posting this, but i dont know what else to do and I see people post problems here.

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

I2 years ago I was happy, my phone ringed alot and I had lots of friends. I was out most of the time and I loved it.

Now, I dont have any, Im a guy and on my phone I dont even have a girls number (yeah i know) Before I had loads.

Its a realling gut renchin feeling, being an outsider. I just cant understand why it happens. I try to scoalise but people just dont want to talk back. I have one good mate outside school (im in six form) and hes leaving for another country.

I really dont know what to do, I feel pissed off, and so, so jealous of those hanging out with their mates and stuff.

Sometimes i just walk out of school because I dont want the shame of being seen alone. I want to be a good role model for my sister, but maybe its the other way round (her phone rings off the hook and she has great mates).

I dont know what to do, people say get out more, Im always trying to get out as much as possible.

I feel like a tit posting this, but i dont know what else to do and I see people post problems here.

sorry i meant 2 years ago not 12

Reply 2

region2

3

from the way you write you seem like a sound bloke so i really dont know what to tell you

how come you lost all your friends did they go a diff college or somethin?

people will say clubs (like scouts not nightclubs) and that but i never really agreed with that solution. I reckon getting just a crappy like part time job somewhere normally helps ive met a few good lads through work who i hang out alot with now

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Nah I have like people i breifly know within school, but no close mates and I dont know any girls. If i sign on msn there are loads of people online but no1 will talk to me unless I talk to them. I say hello to people, shake their hand, but i dont hang around with anyone. Sometimes i tag around, and that makes me feel like a dog so I just walk off and its embrassing, I feel so ashamed.

Im really suprised actually since all the people I used to know 2 years ago are in six form, some i were ridcously close to. now we dont even say hi.

My mum is even like sometimes, "why dont your phone ever ring?" and its just times like that I just feel like running away, i dont know what to say.

Its really effectin me, I have exams coming up and i want to joke around with people an relive some of the work stress. I want to tell people problems i have at home. i want a girl to spend some time on.

This is going to sound so cheesy but man if you got a good group of mates consider yourself lucky. dont take it for granted! (hey look Im giving the advice now).

Reply 4

Toy Soldier

3

You're in 6th form (and on TSR) - so presumably you'll be going to Uni next year. Problem solved. No one knows anyone, and no cliques are formed for a few months, so it's a perfect opportunity to make sure you make plenty of friends. Just don't let your problems now knock your confidence to the point that you find it hard to make friends later. The phase you're in at the moment just isn't a great time for making friends. I did have plenty of good friends at school... but I have to say in the last 3 or 4 years of school I didn't really make one "new" friend. In contrast, I made hundreds of good friends within the first month of Uni... because everyone is looking for friends.

Even if you're not planning on going to Uni, everyone moves on after school - so you should have plenty of opportunities to meet new people. Just ride it out for now, I reckon you'll be fine.

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

im sorta in a similar situation..

i used to have lots of friends at my old school and we used to go out all the time..

and i still do this..but only in my country of origin where i go on the summer/winter holidays.

but @ my current school..no party/film etc invitations (whilst having lots in my home country + old school).

i guess i could contribute this partly to my radical political views and often used to engage in debates etc..could also have been that when we first began going to discos..i didnt bother (im quite shy around girls i dont know)..so i guess i kinda missed out...

i have lots of people who i talk to at school and we all hang out together and i guess we enjoy each others company etc...have many similar interests etc...but it just doesnt feel like a real friendship should...i mean..i barely use a mobile nowadays and have instead reverting to using my parents ones when i need to...

im pretty sure i can reinvent myself at Uni with a downsize on the whole politics stuff and i guess i could go to bars/drink seeing as thats what you people do in this country...guess ill have to think of something intresting to say for the first coupla days when ppl ask to look at my mobile and wonder why i have no numbers there :biggrin:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Its just at six form I am loosing confidence. Im really really paraniod. I think a bad day has become of me leaving my draw open or the tv flap open.

Im nervous around girls too, I was never like this before. Sometimes when a pretty girl talks to me I just go bright red. Before I never used to do it. I always was around girls and I had alot of girl mates.

I guess I should wait it out, maybe this will make later life experiences sweeter.

Thanks.

Reply 7

Toy Soldier

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Anonymous

i guess i could go to bars/drink seeing as thats what you people do in this country...

Yes! Embrace our culture!

Reply 8

Eternity Forever

12

You can be my friend. :hugs:

Reply 9

Toy Soldier

3

Anon1 (OP)

i want a girl to spend some time on

Madémoisélle Charlotté

You can be my friend. :hugs:

Will you be that friend? :biggrin:

Reply 10

username47781

20

If you haven't got a part time job, maybe see if you can get one.

Reply 11

Anthonyjm71

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Toy Soldier

Yes! Embrace our culture!

yeah thats it cant be bad :wink:

Reply 12

Eternity Forever

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Toy Soldier

Will you be that friend? :biggrin:

I'll be anything you want me to be. :wink:

Reply 13

sidi

1

Instead of just drifting waiting for invites from other people see if you can instigate something. Suggest to various people that you go to a movie, have a pizza or whatever, nothing major, no big invite, just a 'if you're free on tuesday d'you fancy going for a pizza' type thing but to lots of people then surely some will say yes. Ask the people you used to be friends with, ask new people, ask your sisters friends???