I don't have that many friends at college- yes another one of those threads!

Just wanted to ask if it was normal not to have that many friends at college, but to go onto University and make more friends there were you can hang out and stuff?

I'm always alone at College and I'm ok with it and I'm happy, but sometimes I would like to have a few mates that I can go out with. I feel as If I'm the only one at college!

Hopefully this will change at university.

Reply 1

Toy Soldier

Completely down to you. Put in the effort when you get there and you'll make plenty of friends. Don't put in the effort, and you won't have any. Pretty much that simple.

Reply 2

wackysparkle

well everyone is in the same boat as you when you're at uni, so everyone will want to make friends + everyone will approach you, and introduce themselves, its upto you to just make friends then and there.

Reply 3

LukeatForest

I don't think effort + friendliness necessarily equals friends. Some nice, friendly people don't have friends.

Reply 4

wackysparkle

thats coz nice + friendly people are just that, nice and friendly. i know people who are like that, and they get back-stabbed, talked about, and are just naive. thats what happens, and thus they don't have friends in the end. i guess its more than that. you have to be plain forward with it, be more confident about yourself, be nice, be aware, basically be you....

Reply 5

Toy Soldier

LukeatForest

I don't think effort + friendliness necessarily equals friends. Some nice, friendly people don't have friends.

Who said anything about being nice? Ugh, niceness. Friendliness and niceness are not the same thing.

Still, I think (at Uni especially) finding a group to fit into is purely down to effort. Everyone will fit in somewhere.

Reply 6

*knowitall*

Finding friends is being prepared to give EVERYONE a chance - try and leave all your preconceived ideas behind you - like I don't like chavs/nerds/rahs/shy people/quiet people/noisy people.....

Your future friends may even be girls who wear jeans tucked into boots, big belts, padded jacket things with no sleeves, rugby shirts with the collar turned up and who have long tousled dyed blonde hair...(aaagh I hear you cry...not those girls....)

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

At College/Sixth form I had a group of friends I spent most of my time with and a lot of people I would chat to and have a laugh with. Then again these were people I went through school with.

When I went to uni last year the only people I bothered to make an effort with were my housemates. Two of them were in my lectures and so I didn't feel the need to talk to anyone else in them. This year everyone from my house, except two, have moved on and I now live with them, my boyfriend and some new people.

I don't have any other friends because I find it very difficult to just start conversation with people. It does get me down but at least I have a couple of friends.

The only way Uni is going to be easier in terms of making friends is if you are confident enough to make the effort.

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