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So is there anything you can do that isn't intimate that can be described as cheating on your boyfriend?

like spending loads and loads of time with someone and lying about it...
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Inb4 monopoly + academic exams

Emotional cheating exists doesn't it?
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In my opinion anything that you feel you have to hide (from deleting/hiding texts and meeting up behind their back to kissing and intimacy) is cheating.

Why be with someone if you have to hide things from them?
I think that's too broad a definition.

If you meet up with a boy innocently and you know that this will make your boyfriend jealous would hiding it not be a better way to go?
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Yeah I think emotional cheating is a thing and if anything is worse or at least on par with physical cheating. I'd bet extremely upset if I found out my boyfriend was having log deep/intimate conversations with another girl.
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(Original post by Carpe Vinum)
Yeah I think emotional cheating is a thing and if anything is worse or at least on par with physical cheating. I'd bet extremely upset if I found out my boyfriend was having log deep/intimate conversations with another girl.
How is it worse?! Lol

Basically why in talking about is like meeting a boy like nearly every day, telling each other how great you think the other is and how you're perfect for each other but nothing sexual or intimate.

That is harmless, it's basically 'advanced friendship' isn't it?
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(Original post by Carpe Vinum)
Yeah I think emotional cheating is a thing and if anything is worse or at least on par with physical cheating. I'd bet extremely upset if I found out my boyfriend was having log deep/intimate conversations with another girl.
WTF....I didnt know people saw it in that way
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(Original post by skd1996)
In my opinion anything that you feel you have to hide (from deleting/hiding texts and meeting up behind their back to kissing and intimacy) is cheating.

Why be with someone if you have to hide things from them?
Some people need their privacy, you can't always be all up in their business, it can get awkward and uncomfortable.:hand:
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(Original post by Carpe Vinum)
Yeah I think emotional cheating is a thing and if anything is worse or at least on par with physical cheating. I'd bet extremely upset if I found out my boyfriend was having log deep/intimate conversations with another girl.
Do you get jealous of your boyfriend's mother then?
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How is it worse?! Lol

Basically why in talking about is like meeting a boy like nearly every day, telling each other how great you think the other is and how you're perfect for each other but nothing sexual or intimate.

That is harmless, it's basically 'advanced friendship' isn't it?
You'd be okay with your partner meeting up with a boy every day and telling each other they were perfect for each other? Ehhhh that's crossing the line for me. It's hardly harmless, just because they're not kissing or having sex, what they're basically saying is "if I didn't have my bf/gf I'd be with you in a heartbeat and the only reason I'm not sleeping with you is because I have a bf/gf"... And in my opinion that's not okay :s if you feel that strongly about someone else then what's the point of being in your current relationship?
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Do you get jealous of your boyfriend's mother then?
Yeah I get jealous of my boyfriend's mother.
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(Original post by Carpe Vinum)
You'd be okay with your partner meeting up with a boy every day and telling each other they were perfect for each other? Ehhhh that's crossing the line for me. It's hardly harmless, just because they're not kissing or having sex, what they're basically saying is "if I didn't have my bf/gf I'd be with you in a heartbeat and the only reason I'm not sleeping with you is because I have a bf/gf"... And in my opinion that's not okay :s if you feel that strongly about someone else then what's the point of being in your current relationship?
Yes exactly. Because sometimes in life there are circumstances you can't change and relationships you can't get out of easily. And some people have enough character not to want to cheat on their partner.

I would not at all be ok with my partner doing that, not because it crosses some cheating line, I wouldn't be angry about it, id just be sad that I'm not good enough for her.
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If it's not sexual then it's not cheating. You can have close friends of the opposite sex.
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Yes exactly. Because sometimes in life there are circumstances you can't change and relationships you can't get out of easily. And some people have enough character not to want to cheat on their partner.
Well obviously there are exceptions to everything, and i accept that you can't always just end a relationship as easy as that, but in my own case I'd consider that cheating.
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(Original post by Twinpeaks)
If it's not sexual then it's not cheating. You can have close friends of the opposite sex.
Yeh exactly!
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(Original post by Carpe Vinum)
Yeah I get jealous of my boyfriend's mother.
Is that a serious response or are you just being flippant?
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Is that a serious response or are you just being flippant?
I'm not being serious. His mother was there before me, of course I'm not going to be jealous of a mother-son relationship. If he had a very close female friend before I came on the scene then I would accept that as well. But if a random new girl came out of nowhere and they started talking for hours about emotional stuff then of course I'd get jealous/upset. I don't think you'll find many girls who wouldn't.
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(Original post by Carpe Vinum)
I'm not being serious. His mother was there before me, of course I'm not going to be jealous of a mother-son relationship. If he had a very close female friend before I came on the scene then I would accept that as well. But if a random new girl came out of nowhere and they started talking for hours about emotional stuff then of course I'd get jealous/upset. I don't think you'll find many girls who wouldn't.
I see, just beat her up in front of him if that ever happens, I'd find that sexy tbh
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(Original post by clare my inbox)
Some people need their privacy, you can't always be all up in their business, it can get awkward and uncomfortable.:hand:
There's a difference between having privacy and chatting up girls and deleting the messages.
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If you have to hide something, even if it's the tiniest thing ever, that's emotional cheating to me. I believe a lot of people cheat nowadays, both intimately and non-intimately. No one I've met is 100% genuine and honest, especially not the guy was dating recently. So now I think, what's the point being honest and devoted to one person, you simply cannot trust anyone. I won't ever cheat on someone intimately, but I'll definitely see about hiding things because apparently that's the norm

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