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Should I come out at sixth form?
Not sure if this is the right forum so sorry if it isn't.
I'm gay and 18. I told my mum on thursday, she didn't seem to care at all, to the point where it was werid. I asked her 'Does it not bother you?' and she laughed and replied 'I haven't been bothered about you for years''. Not quite sure how to interpret that.
Four of my close friends already know so I know I'll definitly have support to fall back on. I live in a small town in Norfolk though, where homphobia is quite widespread. I know I'll loose at least... 5 friends if I come out (I'm straight acting so they have no idea), but at the same time I am not in anyway ashamed of myself and don't see why I should hide it. I'm a strong person and I can verbally stick up for myself but still, having irrational hate to put up with on top of exam stress could be a bit much.
What should I do? I DO want to come out, but would it be the best idea? Any advice would be great, especially people who have been/ seen others in the same situation. Many thanks!
I'm gay and 18. I told my mum on thursday, she didn't seem to care at all, to the point where it was werid. I asked her 'Does it not bother you?' and she laughed and replied 'I haven't been bothered about you for years''. Not quite sure how to interpret that.
Four of my close friends already know so I know I'll definitly have support to fall back on. I live in a small town in Norfolk though, where homphobia is quite widespread. I know I'll loose at least... 5 friends if I come out (I'm straight acting so they have no idea), but at the same time I am not in anyway ashamed of myself and don't see why I should hide it. I'm a strong person and I can verbally stick up for myself but still, having irrational hate to put up with on top of exam stress could be a bit much.
What should I do? I DO want to come out, but would it be the best idea? Any advice would be great, especially people who have been/ seen others in the same situation. Many thanks!
Reply 1
Go for it.
:O WTF at this though? Your mother sounds like a c***. What a horrible thing to say.
Anonymous
I'm gay and 18. I told my mum on thursday, she didn't seem to care at all, to the point where it was werid. I asked her 'Does it not bother you?' and she laughed and replied 'I haven't been bothered about you for years''. Not quite sure how to interpret that.
I'm gay and 18. I told my mum on thursday, she didn't seem to care at all, to the point where it was werid. I asked her 'Does it not bother you?' and she laughed and replied 'I haven't been bothered about you for years''. Not quite sure how to interpret that.
:O WTF at this though? Your mother sounds like a c***. What a horrible thing to say.
Reply 2
She was laughing when she said it and she's also a bit thick and clumsy with her words, so I don't think she meant it in a spiteful way.
Reply 4
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She was laughing when she said it and she's also a bit thick and clumsy with her words, so I don't think she meant it in a spiteful way.
ahh ok, it sounded very malicious. so it's not a problem then?
Reply 5
I don't think so.
She was more worried that I'd get myself beaten up or something, so she obviously cares about me.
She was more worried that I'd get myself beaten up or something, so she obviously cares about me.
Reply 6
Go for it.
I've come out to as few friends at Sixth Form - well, only because they guessed me and my boyfriend were going out - and they've accepted it well. It's also made me feel a lot better, as I can be 'myself', as it were - I don't have to put up a false pretence of fancying girls, and I can talk openly about how I like guys. Plus, me and my boyfriend can be a lot closer together in public.
I really think I made the right choice.
I've come out to as few friends at Sixth Form - well, only because they guessed me and my boyfriend were going out - and they've accepted it well. It's also made me feel a lot better, as I can be 'myself', as it were - I don't have to put up a false pretence of fancying girls, and I can talk openly about how I like guys. Plus, me and my boyfriend can be a lot closer together in public.
I really think I made the right choice.
Anonymous
I asked her 'Does it not bother you?' and she laughed and replied 'I haven't been bothered about you for years''. Not quite sure how to interpret that.
Maybe she meant that you being gay didn't bother her - and that she had actually already figured it out years ago.
I know you say you're straight-acting but she's your mum - and mums know everything ;yes;
Seriously though, I know a few gay people who think they don't appear gay but tbh it's actually quite obvious.
Reply 9
Anonymous
Not sure if this is the right forum so sorry if it isn't.
I'm gay and 18. I told my mum on thursday, she didn't seem to care at all, to the point where it was werid. I asked her 'Does it not bother you?' and she laughed and replied 'I haven't been bothered about you for years''. Not quite sure how to interpret that.
Four of my close friends already know so I know I'll definitly have support to fall back on. I live in a small town in Norfolk though, where homphobia is quite widespread. I know I'll loose at least... 5 friends if I come out (I'm straight acting so they have no idea), but at the same time I am not in anyway ashamed of myself and don't see why I should hide it. I'm a strong person and I can verbally stick up for myself but still, having irrational hate to put up with on top of exam stress could be a bit much.
What should I do? I DO want to come out, but would it be the best idea? Any advice would be great, especially people who have been/ seen others in the same situation. Many thanks!
I'm gay and 18. I told my mum on thursday, she didn't seem to care at all, to the point where it was werid. I asked her 'Does it not bother you?' and she laughed and replied 'I haven't been bothered about you for years''. Not quite sure how to interpret that.
Four of my close friends already know so I know I'll definitly have support to fall back on. I live in a small town in Norfolk though, where homphobia is quite widespread. I know I'll loose at least... 5 friends if I come out (I'm straight acting so they have no idea), but at the same time I am not in anyway ashamed of myself and don't see why I should hide it. I'm a strong person and I can verbally stick up for myself but still, having irrational hate to put up with on top of exam stress could be a bit much.
What should I do? I DO want to come out, but would it be the best idea? Any advice would be great, especially people who have been/ seen others in the same situation. Many thanks!
We can't really tell you what will make you happy and not. if you want to come out and your ready, then go for it.
Some of my freinds know that im gay, some don't and neither do my parents know. and i'm 20. so from my experience, its a gradual process.
What i suggest is that you tell some of your freinds who you know won't have a problem with it and then work your way to the ones you suspect will have a problem. and i know it sounds horrible, but if they are not prepared to accept you for who you are, they are not proper freinds. they are just freinds of convinience!
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