Distance - would it work?

Slim to none.

Downgrade to zero if you haven't already been going out for a number of months prior.

Reply 3

*pink_sapphires*

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personally, i don't think that they're a good idea. if you hardly ever see the person feelings can change and you can end up in difficult situations. however, that is just my opinion. a lot of people will think they're fantastic and can make them work. but personally, i would never have one.

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peaches_and_cream

I'm in a long distance relationship and this week I decided I needed some time out to try and figure out if it's really worth it; I'm in Cardiff and he's in Hampshire, 2 1/2 - 3 hours away, and I've got to the point where I'm just totally fed up with having a relationship over the phone, and only getting to see him for three days every two weeks. It officially sucks, I'm holding out for a change of heart, which will make me see why I'm with him in the first place, but it's not really happening. I'm seeing him in two weeks for the Christmas break when I go home, but I'm thinking I'll probably end it. I can't forsee being able to keep this going for the next year and a half I have left of uni. But I guess if someone's really intent on staying with someone they'll make more of an effort with seeing eachother etc.

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person 34

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Long distance relaltionships are stupid. End of.

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Good Lord, you're all so defeatist! My boyfriend and I have been together two years this Christmas. He lives in south-east France, I live in south-east England (south-west in term). We therefore live a minimum of 630 miles apart at any given time. We see each other every 6-8 weeks and we talk every night (even if all we've got to say is what we've had for tea, and not at a cost to our social lives!) . Communication is the key. Frankly, if your relationship ends 'because of the distance', chances are it would have ended anyway for some other reason, because true love gets over anything.

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Angelil

Good Lord, you're all so defeatist! My boyfriend and I have been together two years this Christmas. He lives in south-east France, I live in south-east England (south-west in term). We therefore live a minimum of 630 miles apart at any given time. We see each other every 6-8 weeks and we talk every night (even if all we've got to say is what we've had for tea, and not at a cost to our social lives!) . Communication is the key. Frankly, if your relationship ends 'because of the distance', chances are it would have ended anyway for some other reason, because true love gets over anything.

I think some of us were defeatist because we saw the post before it was edited, the long distance is not the only factor he was asking about. :smile:

Reply 8

Obviously if she already has a boyfriend it's a stupid idea. Otherwise my points still stand.

Reply 9

recneps

What are people's opinions on the viability of long distance relationships over several hundred miles?

To be quite fair, my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and we are making it work. The main principles of a long distance relationships are mainly the same as closer distance relationships but more emphasis has to be placed upon trust and communication. If you can be honest with one another and you both can be willing to make it work, then yeah it can be one of the best things you can do :smile:

good luck

Reply 10

peaches_and_cream

I'm in a long distance relationship and this week I decided I needed some time out to try and figure out if it's really worth it; I'm in Cardiff and he's in Hampshire, 2 1/2 - 3 hours away, and I've got to the point where I'm just totally fed up with having a relationship over the phone, and only getting to see him for three days every two weeks. It officially sucks, I'm holding out for a change of heart, which will make me see why I'm with him in the first place, but it's not really happening. I'm seeing him in two weeks for the Christmas break when I go home, but I'm thinking I'll probably end it. I can't forsee being able to keep this going for the next year and a half I have left of uni. But I guess if someone's really intent on staying with someone they'll make more of an effort with seeing eachother etc.

All i'm going to say to what is highlighted there is you are f***ing lucky, I don't get to see my boyfriend for months on end and hopefully when we get to uni things will be easier....you've got it easy.

Reply 11

But all this begs the question - what's the point?

If you seem them once every three months, then you might as well just give up, stop being selfish, and let both of you get on with your lives.

Reply 12

What's the point? We love each other and don't want anyone else, and you're asking what the point is? Dimwit. :rolleyes:

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Angelil

What's the point? We love each other and don't want anyone else, and you're asking what the point is? Dimwit. :rolleyes:

you just can't fall out of love. If you do think you have then the person isn't right for you.

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Somebody pass me a bucket, quick...

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person 34

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hahahaha. Yeah, why would you want a relationship with someone you can't see. Why would you chose to live your life missing?? I don't understand why anyone would purposefully want to make themselves suffer.

Reply 16

alasdair_R

Somebody pass me a bucket, quick...

**passes bucket** if you don't like the direction the thread is going in then don't click into it :smile:

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34 person

hahahaha. Yeah, why would you want a relationship with someone you can't see. Why would you chose to live your life missing?? I don't understand why anyone would purposefully want to make themselves suffer.

I actually consider myself incredibly fulfilled. What about you? You, on the other hand, seem insecure, hostile and aggressive...

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person 34

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[QUOTE="Angelil"]I actually consider myself incredibly fulfilled. What about you? You, on the other hand, seem insecure, hostile and aggressive...[/QUOTE)
Oh my God. You can analyse my personlity within two lines of a TSR post. You must be a genius! Well, thankyou for pointing out faults I didn't even know I had. You are a true TSR follower, I wish every good luck with your long distance relationship.

:smile:

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