Denying that you're in a relationship

Why would you deny that you're in a relationship?

3-4 years ago I didn't know that this forum existed and I had to do all the thinking by myself...

When I was a young, inexperienced boy, I used to be in love with a girl from another class who I knew since a few weeks. I mean real typical teenage fascination-infatuation.
She used extremely flirty with me, but I never held my hopes high since gossip and all my other classmates told me that she "flirts with everyone".
So, although I liked her as a person, I didn't care much about flirting with her. I also learned that she already had a boyfriend.
(I was never able to verify any of this gossip since I spoke to her only on our way to school.)
One day, however, while I was walking around some areas of my school I rarely visited, for a short instant I saw her, among many other people, making out with a guy.
In that same instant, she saw me and was like shocked, pushed away the guy and was red in the face, as if she had done a crime.
I didn't react and just walked on.
I later discovered that she broke up with the guy the next day.
I didn't care.
I never met her again on our usual way to school...

Many years later, similar events occured, but I was never able to say whether it is a positive sign or actually very negative (maybe she was thinking that I liked her and that I was a "stereotype nice guy" and didn't want to hurt me?). Meanwhile I've had many girlfriends, but this kind of behaviour is still a mystery to me...

A few days ago I was at an international youth competition and I wasn't in a great mood. I met a cute girl with whom I would have liked to create more connection, but I simply wasn't in the mood! I had other problems in my head! And I also noticed that there was another guy trying really hard with her, and he seemed to be having a good day.
Deja vu... I was walking around making sure everyone in my team was ok.
Then I saw him talking to her intensively. I joined them and heard her telling him "and you know, I have a boyfriend..." but as soon as she noticed me she like immediately corrected herself "I mean, I HAD a boyfriend, yeah..."

WTF! What does it mean? Is "Don't tell this guy that you have a boyfriend" written on my forehead?! Or are they just weirdo girls?

I'd wish to think positive about this, but I wouldn't want to assume too much...

Reply 1

matt@internet

It would seem to me as if both of those gals liked you.

Reply 2

Ink

A lot of times, I lie about having a boyfriend (as in, I tell them I do when I don't) if a guy seems interested and I'm not interested back. It's much easier to get rid of them when you tell them that, and you don't have to go through the whole "sorry, I'm not interested" or "here is a fake number" ordeal. It's an easy excuse.

If, however, I was trying to get rid of a guy by saying that and another guy I liked overheard me, I might correct myself. :smile: