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The chances for me getting a girlfriend for an unemployed socially awkward below average looking loser with no life goals and no social life like myself is very slim. I never been on a date, I never had sex, I never kissed, I never cuddled and I never even came close holding hands with a girl. I'm a shy person especially towards girls. I'm gutted to say that not many girls find me attractive and I know for fact that most girls in today's society are so shallow they judge guys by the way they look not by their heart. I'm not a very good looking guy but I have a down to earth personality but its shame that I appear invisible to most girls.I'm not good looking (most girls think I'm ugly and weird), not popular, hardly have any friend, no job but I got offered a foundation Art and Design. My life gets more and more pointless every year. What's the point being in this **** planet if you're still going round in circles accomplish nothing but failure.I got picked on at school, I got called ugly and years I often get told that I can't get a girlfriend.I joined dating sites/social networking sites in the past such as Tagged, Meet Me, Badoo etc but I deleted my accounts because most of the girls on there were shallow and always my friend request declined which most girls think I'm unattractive. They judged me by physical appearance before they even get to know me.
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maybe if you were less bitter and stopped calling all women shallow..
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So....what do you want us to do about it?
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The chances for me getting a girlfriend for an unemployed socially awkward below average looking loser with no life goals and no social life like myself is very slim. I never been on a date, I never had sex, I never kissed, I never cuddled and I never even came close holding hands with a girl. I'm a shy person especially towards girls. I'm gutted to say that not many girls find me attractive and I know for fact that most girls in today's society are so shallow they judge guys by the way they look not by their heart. I'm not a very good looking guy but I have a down to earth personality but its shame that I appear invisible to most girls.I'm not good looking (most girls think I'm ugly and weird), not popular, hardly have any friend, no job but I got offered a foundation Art and Design. My life gets more and more pointless every year. What's the point being in this **** planet if you're still going round in circles accomplish nothing but failure.I got picked on at school, I got called ugly and years I often get told that I can't get a girlfriend.I joined dating sites/social networking sites in the past such as Tagged, Meet Me, Badoo etc but I deleted my accounts because most of the girls on there were shallow and always my friend request declined which most girls think I'm unattractive. They judged me by physical appearance before they even get to know me.
First of all, don't worry!
I know somebody exactly like you except he's 19. He'd never had a girlfriend, no girls ever liked him etc. Eventually things turned round for him, and he found a long term job and a girlfriend during the same week! He found a girl that didn't judge on looks, and fell in love with his personality which is what a relationship should be about. I know this because I'm that girl.
You really shouldn't feel upset because so many people don't have their first girlfriend/boyfriend until they're older; it's not abnormal for you to have not had a girlfriend. If it troubles you a lot, I would recommend maybe seeing a counsellor/doctor? I know it might sound daunting but it may help
Also with you mentioning the Art & Design course, you may very well meet somebody!
Hang on in there and don't worry, not everyone finds themselves in a relationship at such a young age.
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Take things one step at a time dude , there is no magic formula that'll make you wake up one day all extroverted and confident ! Your design course is a good place to start , yes you're there to learn but it'll get yourself out there , to meet new people and make new friends . Try and keep your head up , no everyone is blessed with beautiful looks but that isn't all that matters in this world , if art and design is what you wanna do throw yourself into it and flourish .
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I didn't say all women are shallow I said the high number of them are based on my personal experience. I'm not saying that guys not shallow I know there just as much as shallow guys out there as well.
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First of all, don't worry!
I know somebody exactly like you except he's 19. He'd never had a girlfriend, no girls ever liked him etc. Eventually things turned round for him, and he found a long term job and a girlfriend during the same week! He found a girl that didn't judge on looks, and fell in love with his personality which is what a relationship should be about. I know this because I'm that girl.
You really shouldn't feel upset because so many people don't have their first girlfriend/boyfriend until they're older; it's not abnormal for you to have not had a girlfriend. If it troubles you a lot, I would recommend maybe seeing a counsellor/doctor? I know it might sound daunting but it may help
Also with you mentioning the Art & Design course, you may very well meet somebody!
Hang on in there and don't worry, not everyone finds themselves in a relationship at such a young age.
Thank you very much for the kind response because so many people on here are sarcastic ignorant c***s. Well that guy actually got lucky congratulations to him and congratulations to you as well but about the Art and Design it's only a foundation course because apparently I couldn't even get in the uni level courses even though I did BTEC level 3 in Photogrpahy and got a DMM. I'm currently taking a gap year but so far I did nothing because I feel so trapped a confused. I really want to work but I never worked in my life and jobs mainly look for experience but I don't have experience in jobs because I never worked before and how am I supposed to get the experience. By the way I'm sorry for going off topic just needed to get it off my chest.
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Thank you very much for the kind response because so many people on here are sarcastic ignorant c***s. Well that guy actually got lucky congratulations to him and congratulations to you as well but about the Art and Design it's only a foundation course because apparently I couldn't even get in the uni level courses even though I did BTEC level 3 in Photogrpahy and got a DMM. I'm currently taking a gap year but so far I did nothing because I feel so trapped a confused. I really want to work but I never worked in my life and jobs mainly look for experience but I don't have experience in jobs because I never worked before and how am I supposed to get the experience. By the way I'm sorry for going off topic just needed to get it off my chest.
Don't worry at all! I'm happy to listen. I know how difficult it is to get into work. I've volunteered at a charity shop to get experience and that helped me get a job afterwards. I'd maybe suggest try doing that if possible. It also might take your mind off things a little bit. Also well done for getting those grades! I don't understand why you have to go through a foundation course, but at least it'll help you get onto a programme afterwards.
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Don't worry at all! I'm happy to listen. I know how difficult it is to get into work. I've volunteered at a charity shop to get experience and that helped me get a job afterwards. I'd maybe suggest try doing that if possible. It also might take your mind off things a little bit. Also well done for getting those grades! I don't understand why you have to go through a foundation course, but at least it'll help you get onto a programme afterwards.
Thanks again and by the way I do go the gym about 4-5 days a week if that helps. I never worked in my life so where do I start? I think I ended in foundation because of the lack work I had at the interview because strangely I thougtht a portfolio is 20 A3 images of your choice but it turned there is more to it such as sketch books etc. I never heard of foundation before until today so I'm just wondering what it is, is it worth doing and what can I get out of it.
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The chances for me getting a girlfriend for an unemployed socially awkward below average looking loser with no life goals and no social life like myself is very slim. I never been on a date, I never had sex, I never kissed, I never cuddled and I never even came close holding hands with a girl. I'm a shy person especially towards girls. I'm gutted to say that not many girls find me attractive and I know for fact that most girls in today's society are so shallow they judge guys by the way they look not by their heart. I'm not a very good looking guy but I have a down to earth personality but its shame that I appear invisible to most girls.I'm not good looking (most girls think I'm ugly and weird), not popular, hardly have any friend, no job but I got offered a foundation Art and Design. My life gets more and more pointless every year. What's the point being in this **** planet if you're still going round in circles accomplish nothing but failure.I got picked on at school, I got called ugly and years I often get told that I can't get a girlfriend.I joined dating sites/social networking sites in the past such as Tagged, Meet Me, Badoo etc but I deleted my accounts because most of the girls on there were shallow and always my friend request declined which most girls think I'm unattractive. They judged me by physical appearance before they even get to know me.
(I'm a girl) and honestly I've never been drawn to someone solely on looks. Sometimes I find it strange that I can only begin to like someone through their personality. I'm not huge on looks and I see them only as plus. I know there aren't a lot of people like this but I can at least assure that we exist; consider that other people may be shy as hell too, you never know who's been admiring you when your back's turned! In my opinion dating sites aren't worth it if you don't want to be judged on looks first, I don't think they would suit your 'dating needs' if what you say is true.
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Thanks again and by the way I do go the gym about 4-5 days a week if that helps. I never worked in my life so where do I start? I think I ended in foundation because of the lack work I had at the interview because strangely I thougtht a portfolio is 20 A3 images of your choice but it turned there is more to it such as sketch books etc. I never heard of foundation before until today so I'm just wondering what it is, is it worth doing and what can I get out of it.
Do you know of any charity shops where you live? Maybe a Scope, British Heart Foundation etc. If you pop in, or call them asking about a voluntary placement, they'll help you out. You get all the training you need and they'll understand you won't have experience. It's a very relaxed environment and it's not actually as scary as it sounds.
As for the foundation; from what I know it's a step up from BTEC/A Levels which then helps you get onto an undergraduate degree course.
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If you want to pursue your interest in art/photography then I definitely recommend you sit a foundation course. If you've never heard of it then look it up. My friend (that I met on a Graphic Design Extended Diploma) did a foundation course to gain more experience and she is so grateful that she did. It basically is an opportunity for you to spend a good amount of time concentrating your efforts on improving your skills and portfolio. It also helps as a step into university, but the main benefit you will experience is in the skill development. I don't know if her foundation course was different to any others but she found it to be intense and packed full of work, so be prepared to spend a lot of time on it. Until you start the course though, I definitely recommend finding a volunteering position. It'll give you work experience, a reason to go out and about and will enable you to talk to loads of people and maybe get a few friends. The foundation course is also likely to bring you new friends if you're open and friendly to people. Take any opportunity you can get that will either improve your skills or get you to meet new people. Girlfriends will come in time, but I wouldn't concern yourself with never having had one before now.
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Sorry that hear that man. I'm going to state the obvious, there is someone for you, you just haven't found each other yet. Don't look down on yourself man, you got to think positive. If you keep calling yourself ugly, a loser etc, how do you think girls will see you afterwards? Do you find it hard to make eye contact with a girl, just wondering?
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I'm 21, reasonably good looking, have a job and girls all love me. Honestly like every girl I meet instantly likes me.

What's the difference between us? I make an effort. I wasn't happy with being a bitter, fat, socially awkward misanthrope, so I changed. I lost weight, got a nice haircut, starting dressing well, and more than anything changed my attitude. I make an effort to be nice to people, I act confident even though inside I might be bricking myself, I go out and socialise even though my brain is telling me to stay in my room and play LoL. I got a job instead of playing games all day. And I'm much, much happier. Believe me man, you can do almost anything if you want it enough, you just have to be willing to take the hard route.

Also stop hating people. It's hard to let go, believe me I know, but resenting other people only holds you back. If you start trying to like people it will help you make more friends and be happy, other people are the route to happiness .

Good luck dude.

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The chances for me getting a girlfriend for an unemployed socially awkward below average looking loser with no life goals and no social life like myself is very slim. I never been on a date, I never had sex, I never kissed, I never cuddled and I never even came close holding hands with a girl. I'm a shy person especially towards girls. I'm gutted to say that not many girls find me attractive and I know for fact that most girls in today's society are so shallow they judge guys by the way they look not by their heart. I'm not a very good looking guy but I have a down to earth personality but its shame that I appear invisible to most girls.I'm not good looking (most girls think I'm ugly and weird), not popular, hardly have any friend, no job but I got offered a foundation Art and Design. My life gets more and more pointless every year. What's the point being in this **** planet if you're still going round in circles accomplish nothing but failure.I got picked on at school, I got called ugly and years I often get told that I can't get a girlfriend.I joined dating sites/social networking sites in the past such as Tagged, Meet Me, Badoo etc but I deleted my accounts because most of the girls on there were shallow and always my friend request declined which most girls think I'm unattractive. They judged me by physical appearance before they even get to know me.
I actually find it really attractive when a guy has never been involved with other girls... You honestly sound like the perfect guy in my opinion! I'm an art student and I've never had a boyfriend so I suppose I'm slightly biased but don't think negatively about yourself! Also, I really like your name, which is a bonus.
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Becoming less bitter and angry about life and your situation will make you much more attractiv
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Sorry that hear that man. I'm going to state the obvious, there is someone for you, you just haven't found each other yet. Don't look down on yourself man, you got to think positive. If you keep calling yourself ugly, a loser etc, how do you think girls will see you afterwards? Do you find it hard to make eye contact with a girl, just wondering?
I've been called ugly and most girls think I'm invisible which indicates that I'm ugly and wouldn't want anything to do with me. I'm very shy person especially towards girls. Yes I'm not very good with eye contact it's always been an issue I can't even look at a girls eyes. So why ask me that?
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I actually find it really attractive when a guy has never been involved with other girls... You honestly sound like the perfect guy in my opinion! I'm an art student and I've never had a boyfriend so I suppose I'm slightly biased but don't think negatively about yourself! Also, I really like your name, which is a bonus.
That's a very upopular opinion but it does make me feel better about myself. It turns out there are nice people on here because I've been on here for about 5 months and a lot of people I came across are ignorant c**ts who love to make fun certain people. Why do you like my name is you don't mind asking?
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The chances for me getting a girlfriend for an unemployed socially awkward below average looking loser with no life goals and no social life like myself is very slim. I never been on a date, I never had sex, I never kissed, I never cuddled and I never even came close holding hands with a girl. I'm a shy person especially towards girls. I'm gutted to say that not many girls find me attractive and I know for fact that most girls in today's society are so shallow they judge guys by the way they look not by their heart. I'm not a very good looking guy but I have a down to earth personality but its shame that I appear invisible to most girls.I'm not good looking (most girls think I'm ugly and weird), not popular, hardly have any friend, no job but I got offered a foundation Art and Design. My life gets more and more pointless every year. What's the point being in this **** planet if you're still going round in circles accomplish nothing but failure.I got picked on at school, I got called ugly and years I often get told that I can't get a girlfriend.I joined dating sites/social networking sites in the past such as Tagged, Meet Me, Badoo etc but I deleted my accounts because most of the girls on there were shallow and always my friend request declined which most girls think I'm unattractive. They judged me by physical appearance before they even get to know me.
Its really your perception on everything that matters. You must change that first. And, i know its easier said than done. But, you must do it otherwise you might get depressed, like, clinically depressed. Which would cause other multiple effects and events in your life which may lead to certain results. :|
So yeah dude, you have your whole life ahead of you! You dont know whats around the corner for you. Try to see the glass half full rather than half empty! You hear me?
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There are alternatives if you're that desperate.
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