(Original post by Anonymous)
Was it an open relationship then if you were able to sleep with other people? I think that something like that would be more suited to me, but I know my bf would never agree to it. So it leads me to the decision of wondering if I should break up with him or cheat - neither of which I want to do. I know that makes me sound like I don't love him or take the relationship seriously, which I do, I just personally more at home having casual sex than being in a relationship.
Of course for me it was an open relationship (always is) but I knew she was against that so I didn't tell her, most girls aren't happy for their boyfriend to have sex with other women. I don't think it matters, the most important thing is you take care of your partner and cater to their needs, whatever happens and whatever you do, don't forget about them. And that's what I did, I visited her almost every week and we spent time together and we were very close, I kept her happy for a while despite the distance. I put so much effort into her and into the relationship because she was always my best girl and I was very serious about her. Which is why I believe a long distance relationship can work, but only if you're prepared to make sacrifices and dedicate time and go through some pain (the pain of being apart).
You say you to more suited to you, so you really shouldn't stop yourself from doing what you want to be. Women have needs too, doesn't make sense to restrict yourself. You can still be in a relationship with your boyfriend, he doesn't have to find out because you'll be living far away form him. You can still have sex with other guys at uni, just as long as you make sure you take care of him too (if you do decide to stay in a relationship with him, it's all up to you). I definitely understand what you mean about casual sex, I'm exactly the same way. Even when I was with my girlfriend, I still needed sex from other women when she wasn't available, it's very difficult to go for a week without sex, especially as it was a long distance thing so I only saw her once every week or two. But it's not cheating, it's simply you satisfying your needs and doing what you want to do. You're a free woman.
You don't have to break up with him, if you love him and you're serious about the relationship, then you'll find a way to make an effort. You can (and should) have casual sex, doesn't make sense to stop yourself. He doesn't have to find out, and he won't. You don't have to see him every week, you can meet up whenever you feel the time is right. It can definitely work. Sort it out in your head, decide whether it's good for you to stay in a relationship and whether it's good for him to be with you. If you're both happy then that's all that matters. Forget what anyone tells you, do what you feel is right for you.