Love & commitment

Hi all. I am 18, as is my girlfriend. I am so completely in love with her. Cannot imagine myself with anyone else. We have discussed marriage and even what our house would look like. She means so much to me. I am just wondering, this seems so very weird for 18 yr olds. I cannot even begin to imagine cheating on her, or anything such like. I even felt v guilty after dreaming i kissed another girl (who i don't like at all). It seems like if you mentioned commitment to an 18 yr old, they would run a mile. Am i just weird?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

no you're not weird. just naïve. Love´s beautiful!

Reply 2

Talya

16

No, you are not weird. My bf and I hope we will be together forever, and I can't speak for him but I personally cannot see myself ever being with anyone else :smile:

Reply 3

Phantom Phoenix

13

No, you're not weird at all! My boyfriend's 18, I'm 20, and we've already talked about marriage and kids and where we're going to live. Oh, and we're going to have a cat named Godfrey. :p:

I'm glad someone else is having similar thoughts because I was starting to think we were a bit strange... :biggrin:

(and yes, most 18 year olds can and will run a mile at the mention of commitment, but there are apparently a few who are mature beyond their years :smile:

)

Reply 4

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

Give it a couple of years! :P

Reply 5

Phantom Phoenix

13

Oh God yes, I don't think kids and a med degree would go too well together... :wink:

Reply 6

Fleece

15

Nah that's pretty much normal when you're in love.

Reply 7

Phantom Phoenix

13

I don't know, I never have been before :redface:

Reply 8

BlackCoffee

It's not weird at all. It would really only be a problem if just ONE of you wanted those things and the other was terrified by the idea. You and your gf are in the same emotional place and want the same things in your lives. That seems like something to be pretty thrilled about rather than worried about.

Reply 9

Fleece

15

Wish someone would feel that way about me.

Reply 10

ZigZag

11

Anonymous

Hi all. I am 18, as is my girlfriend. I am so completely in love with her. Cannot imagine myself with anyone else. We have discussed marriage and even what our house would look like. She means so much to me. I am just wondering, this seems so very weird for 18 yr olds. I cannot even begin to imagine cheating on her, or anything such like. I even felt v guilty after dreaming i kissed another girl (who i don't like at all). It seems like if you mentioned commitment to an 18 yr old, they would run a mile. Am i just weird?

If you think that's weird you should've heard the "discussion" I had with my grilfriend last night about whether she'd be okay about me going into space.

Reply 11

username47781

20

little_red_sox

Give it a couple of years! :P

Agreed give it a bit of time yet don't rush, you want to enjoy life and see some of the world etc first.

Reply 12

joz12345

1

iam 19 and myboyfriend is 20 but we have ben together for 1 nd a half years now nd we cant picture ever being apart we love each other more than we ever thot possible, we have our kids names,pets, house , etc all picked out and plan to get engaged at new year.

Reply 13

Anonymous #3

I'm 18 ad spoken about those tings with my boyfriend...but have an agreement it won't be happneing for a few years. Haven't discussed house or pets etc because although we both love dogs he has a soft spot for cross breed rescues and I love my pure bred pedigrees :smile:

so we tend not to talk about that disagreement. As for house, he wants to live in NZ and I want to live here in UK....not going well realy is it? lol

Reply 14

joz12345

1

lol if you wait a few years all of the things u nd him perhaps didnt want the same u will end up very happy together where ever u are and the longer ur wit sum one the more they want to give u the world if u understand me.

Reply 15

Segat1

16

No, please stop using txt spk lolzzz

Reply 16

ßlαcksωαn

17

Weird? no
Mature? yeah probably
Bit Silly? sure
Remember marriage is (or should be) a life long decision, don't rush into anything, that's all I have to say.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Ye i dont think we are rushing into anything, been together for a yr, close friends for a while before that. Its hard because due to religious/cultural differences in our families mean that it is very unlikely we shall be accepted as a couple. I dunno, guess i shall gamble the next few years of my life for her :smile:

Reply 18

ßlαcksωαn

17

Anonymous

Ye i dont think we are rushing into anything, been together for a yr, close friends for a while before that. Its hard because due to religious/cultural differences in our families mean that it is very unlikely we shall be accepted as a couple. I dunno, guess i shall gamble the next few years of my life for her :smile:

A year (or a few) isn't that long really. And why should you let religion limit your lives? I disagree with that whole concept sorry.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

Mate no disrespect but you just don't understand. We have absolutely no problem with each other's religions, but we do have a problem with completely breaking our parents' hearts, and (in their eyes) bringing shame upon our families. To me a few years is a long time, as I have given her all of my heart and i don't think i'd get over her (naive as that may sound)

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