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anyone feel like this in school/college

i have friends, but only a close few. i only have 4 close friends. and thats it. well im happy with them, but does anyone feel like they could have more.
the thing is i try to be friends with other people, but they just dont seem to be bothered, cos they all have their own cliques and friendship groups.?

Reply 1

BlackCoffee

Anonymous

i have friends, but only a close few. i only have 4 close friends. and thats it. well im happy with them, but does anyone feel like they could have more.
the thing is i try to be friends with other people, but they just dont seem to be bothered, cos they all have their own cliques and friendship groups.?

I think most people feel like that at some point during their life. It's easy to assume that there are some people who have a lot of friends, about a million more than you do, and for you to want to get that sort of popularity for yourself. The thing is, that it depends on the sort of friends you want. Very few people have armies of close friends. They have armies of acquaintances who liked them well enough but don't really have any attachment to them, and I think that plenty of very popular people probably long for 'just' 4 close friends who really matter to them. What I'm saying is: just because you have few friends than other people, doesn't mean that you get less out of your life because of it.

But if you do want to make more friends, persevere. Could you try inviting a couple of new people into your OWN group, maybe to go see a film or something if the opportunity comes up? Then it's just expanding your social circle whilst keeping your other friends, not trying to push yourself into other groups solo or singling out one person in particular to be friends with and then having more to lose if it doesn't work out? Most people want to go out more, and are up for hanging out with other people as long as they know someone else who's going to be there.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

that summed it up perfectly. thank you, that helped. you really did read between the lines and you do understand lol.

Reply 3

Jonah Ramone

19

Mate, I have like two proper friends, about four in total I hang out with. Now I'm at uni I have found it much easier to make friends because there's a much wider variety of people.

The way I see it, if people don't want to be your friends, then that's their loss.

Reply 4

joz12345

1

defintly i have a close group of friends,family, boyfriend and am very happy im 19 and work full time. you can be happy wit just a few friends , and yea you will always feel like u want more and sumtimes u will have more cuz when u split from college.school,uni, u go and work maybe a few diffrent jobs by the time u find the rite one 4 u and u meet new people and make new friends where ever u go.

Reply 5

BlackCoffee

Anonymous

that summed it up perfectly. thank you, that helped. you really did read between the lines and you do understand lol.

Good luck with things, k? :hugs:

Reply 6

Rooftopcowboy

12

a study somewhere found that people only have 6 freinds at any time, ie 6 close freinds..and not just associates they say hi to.

personally i find that quite an accurate figure

Reply 7

ßlαcksωαn

17

Yeah I've been there before...nothing to worry about though. You should be grateful you have four instead of none :smile:

I dont know if you're in school/college don't worry because once you leave you'll make heaps of new lovely friends.

Reply 8

Lucia.

16

Anonymous

i have friends, but only a close few. i only have 4 close friends. and thats it. well im happy with them, but does anyone feel like they could have more.
the thing is i try to be friends with other people, but they just dont seem to be bothered, cos they all have their own cliques and friendship groups.?

I'm the same. I only have a few very close friends but that's much better than having lots of acquaintances I'm not necessarily close to. If you reach out in friendship to someone else and they can't be bothered then that's their loss in my opinion. I've read that the average human being has 54 friends, so maybe you have more friends than you realise. :smile:

Reply 9

fairycakes

12

hey, i definately know how u feel. when i left 6th form, i only had my little clique of 5 people. but the awful thing that's happened now is that these ppl have changed and joined new cliques at home, even tho we are all at uni, so when i go back home i feel like i have no1. it's the worst feeling ever, and i never thought woul ever happen at school.

i would advise u to try to increase ure social circle whi ure still at school...i wish i tried harder, tho i did try at the time, but no1 really wanted to leave their clique at the time anyway.... (and that's why i'm only going home for 1 week this holiday!)

xxxx

Reply 10

lucyb-90

1

i only have about 3 close friends and i'm ok with that. they are the ones i know I will be friends with after school. I also know i'll make friends with people at uni with more similar interests. It's all gooood :smile:

Reply 11

*pink_sapphires*

1

this thread has really cheered me up. i don't have that many close friends. i have accquaintances who say hi every now and then, but only 4 or 5 close friends, some of whom i hardly ever see. this thread has really cheered me up though and made me realise that it's perfectly normal to only have a few friends. thank you to the OP and everyone who has posted. *hugs* x

Reply 12

britishseapower

14

Anonymous

i have friends, but only a close few. i only have 4 close friends. and thats it. well im happy with them, but does anyone feel like they could have more.
the thing is i try to be friends with other people, but they just dont seem to be bothered, cos they all have their own cliques and friendship groups.?

I have one close friend from college and 2 from uni but one dropped out so I only have one at uni now and I don't see him very often. I've been to pub crawls and stuff to try and befriend people off my course but as you pointed out, once people get into their cliques/friendship groups; their not really interested. I can live with that though.

anyone feel like this in school/college

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