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Reply 60

13

Not a chance. You could take everything away from me and I'd just get angry and kill you.

Unless looking at ugly people counts, that physically hurts me but I dont do it intentionally...its more like WHOAMFG MY EYES.

Reply 61

supernova2

11

The_Bear

Not a chance. You could take everything away from me and I'd just get angry and kill you.

Unless looking at ugly people counts, that physically hurts me but I dont do it intentionally...its more like WHOAMFG MY EYES.

Looking in a mirror is your idea of self harm?

hohoho

Reply 62

tanusha-tomsk

18

What would you class as mental self-harm?

Reply 63

Anonymous #6

People seem to want reasons as to why people self harm, what it is gets people into that sort of situation where it seems an option. What people forget is that depression is essentially a chemical imbalance in the brain, that is why it can be treated, with counciling, by anti depressants, they restor the chemical balance. The imbalance can be caused by traumatic events, but also by physical illnesses compeltly unrelated. Leading a very priviledged life doesnt remove you from these possibilities, as it did not with me.

Self harm did seem to be a relase of emotions when I used to do it a few years ago, but it was more than that. Depression seemed to slow my brain down to the level that I was compeltly removed from the world, it was as if, although I was alive, I essentially counldn't connect with anything around me. Physical pain was a very real thing, and something I could easily feel. I didnt do it to release emotion, but to gain some. Perhaps this is just another way of looking at the argument.

As to the media attention to self harm, I think there is much too much. when I did it, I didn't know that it existed or had a name, but soon my friends cottened on to the excess attention in the media and they did it too. Perhaps that is why so many teenagers do it, as we, rightly or wrongly, are easily impressionable.

I hope this adds another level to the debate

Reply 64

Anonymous #7

I first self harmed four years ago, and it gradually got worse and worse till I decided to get help (or rather my friend pretty much forced me into it). When i started councelling 6 months ago, I couldn't see a way of stopping. It was just too big a deal. I wasn't exactly sure why I harmed, just to get stuff out of me, and as a form of punishment, or as a way of trying to feel something when I felt so low I felt nothing. After talking things through I understand why I did it more, and now, I'm stopping. Theres been a few mishaps but I now realise I just have to accept that they're going to happen and move on from them.
I've only told two people about my s/h, and am terrified that someone will find out. Although it seems to be almost fashionable? to do it among younger 'emo' kids, none of my friends are like that, and I don't know of anyone in my year who has s/h. I'm worried that if they knew they'd think of me as some form of freak, turn their backs on me, or be angry or call me attention seeking- which I'm not. I didn't harm to get attention, it was a very private and personal thing for me.
However, I am worried about the increase in people doing it. It seems silly but if it becomes more acceptable it would make me feel as if it were ok to do more of it, and worse of it.
Sorry, random rant there :/

Reply 65

eclmmcca

i self harmed at 15 -19 then i stoped and now me cousin died last week and i got a letter at the end and my aunt sayin it from my dad.my mum laughing like it made up.i just got back to uni and slashed my arms to bits .almost topped myself.like the blood trickling dowm me arm was pure good like .my friend saw my arms at the gym and went mad. i said i got in afight but dont think ill be believed like.cant be doing this.like people say its so bad to cut yourself but i dont see it as bad like.just need to stop though!!

Reply 66

WokSz

17

First of all, please stop talking in sms language. You're at University and I think you can do better than that.

Secondly, if slashing makes you feel better than I really think you need to see someone about it. It's not supposed to give pleasure.

Reply 67

Thud

17

thirdly don't post the exact same thing in 3 threads?

Reply 68

Titch89

14

supernova2

I dont really get why so many people do it. It just seems like a bit of a waste of time to me more than anything else. Someone explain!

This is probably one of those things where unless you've done it, you're not going to be able to understand why anyone does it.

Reply 69

h82think

14

Never, as I love myself way too much :love:

But I do tend to scream at other people quite a lot when I am upset or angry.

Reply 70

~ Purple Rose ~

19

I've self-harmed since I was 18, although I don't do it as much as I used to.

Reply 71

Anonymous #8

Self harmer for about 10 months now :s:

time goes fast..

Reply 72

Anonymous #9

self harmer for 2 years and i now have to cut deeper and deeper to get rid of the pain

Reply 73

Anonymous #10

I've self-harmed for the last 4 years. It's not something I'm proud of at all and I know it's not healthy but it's my way of coping. I personally don't feel any pain when I cut but it still acts as a release for me. I've spent 10 months in hospital because of that and suicide attempts. However, I'm now on medication that is helping my depression and I have a counsellor who really helps. I'm currently 3 weeks 1 day self-harm free - the longest in over 3 years. I wish I'd never picked up the blade that first time but I can't go back and change that now.

Reply 74

xXMessedUpXx

15

I feel strange seeing people say they've done it for a few months or maybe 2 years

:frown:

its coming up to 11 years for me

To anyone whos started doing it recently try and stop. Don't be like me and let it take over your life :frown:

i'm trying to stop, its been nearly a months and i intend that to be the last time.

Reply 75

supernova2

11

Anonymous

self harmer for 2 years and i now have to cut deeper and deeper to get rid of the pain

Isn't it ironic?

Reply 76

Titch89

14

xXMessedUpXx

i'm trying to stop, its been nearly a months and i intend that to be the last time.

Good luck. I'm almost 7 weeks free and it's feeling weird now. (in a good way)

Reply 77

Anonymous #11

I did before, a few times about 5 years ago, when I felt guilty like I'd hurt other people. Not with a knife or whatever, just scratching my nails on the back of my hand. Which made it harder to not do it because it's not like you can get rid of your nails. Then I had to wear a long sock over my hand to cover it up until it healed and nobody knew. I carried around tesco antiseptic cream. It has scarred though because I think I scratched right through to the tendons. I sorta confessed it to my boyfriend at the time and he made me stop doing it by checking me and saying he'd do it to himself if I didn't stop.

If anyone asks I just say I accidentally scraped my hand on the wall.

I guess this is a different type of self harm to others, more as punishment when I felt like I hated myself.

Reply 78

Anonymous #12

I've cut myself on and off for the last 6 years. I didn't realise it had been that long until I just counted. I have spoken to very few people about it and feel as though it will always be a part of me as I have no other coping mechanism. I hate myself even more after I do it and I really wish I could kick the habit. The scars which are all over my upper arm and stomach make me feel worse. I wish I knew what had started it all and I could go back to that day and not do it.

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