If you are overweight/ugly, you're social life and life in general is likely to SUCK!

You'll never get any attention from the opposite sex, so you're never going to be texting or socialising, let alone going out with other girls/boys.

At uni, you'll be spending vast periods of time alone, unless you are good at sport or by the odd chance have a group of friends of your own sex. But even that's difficult because very few fat people are respected. I'm not necessarily talking obese, but significantly overweight i.e. 10kg more a healthy weight. Double that and you will be a complete social outcast, guaranteed... unless you are a fat boozing rugby forward.

This leads to depression and seriously affects your every day life, including your grades. And that makes it harder to lose the weight from the depression.

Does TSR agree?

It doesn't really seem like this is the case though, a lot of people these days have a warped view on health and body weight, as they seem to be stuck with this strange belief that it's okay to be overweight, at least for females anyway, and that people who are overweight have little to no control over their weight and that it's not their fault, thinking it's all cause genes or faulty glands or stuff like that, ignoring the fact that most of these people don't make any proper effort to look after their health and the fact that if it was really genes more people would have been overweight years ago as well which isn't the case.

Then there's all those people who go on about "curvy girls" and then apply the term to people who are clearly morbidly obese, as if the two terms mean the same thing.

On top of all this it's now seen as offensive by a lot of people to call someone fat and to say anything negative about their weight, even if it's something true or helpful, yet it's okay for fat people to go around "skinny shaming". wtf so it's not okay to be a healthy weight now according to these people?

I think people have gone too far with the whole removing the stigma of being overweight, some people seem to glorify it now.

You'll never get any attention from the opposite sex, so you're never going to be texting or socialising, let alone going out with other girls/boys.

At uni, you'll be spending vast periods of time alone, unless you are good at sport or by the odd chance have a group of friends of your own sex. But even that's difficult because very few fat people are respected. I'm not necessarily talking obese, but significantly overweight i.e. 10kg more a healthy weight. Double that and you will be a complete social outcast, guaranteed... unless you are a fat boozing rugby forward.

This leads to depression and seriously affects your every day life, including your grades. And that makes it harder to lose the weight from the depression.

Does TSR agree?

Yes I agree but I really do find it hard to have much sympathy. At the end of the day being overweight is a lifestyle choice. It's really unfair on kids who had bad parents who let them eat what they wanted and didn't keep their weight in check as children. But at this age it's time to decide for yourself what you want out of life. It's really not that difficult to follow a simple exercise and healthy eating regime there are plenty of guides (couch to 5k) and plenty of blogs / recipes available online for simple healthy eating.I understand it sucks but as with most things like this the only person who can change it, is you.

Just because someone is skinny, doesn't make them healthy. Just because someone is overweight, doesn't make them unhealthy.

I'm not slim by any means, I'm chubby and I have a long-term boyfriend, had a great time at University (for a while before the course became ****) but nothing to do with me not having any friends, I have plenty of friends and a great social life so whatever OP was saying, is mostly wrong.

I had a friend who was a lot bigger than me who also had a boyfriend of 4years (give or take) and a good group of friends, mixture of boys and girls.

So honestly, OP is wrong.
And you need to understand that no one is saying it's okay for people to be morbidly obese, it's not. But there's a difference between morbidly obese/obese and chubby/even fat. Just because some people don't have an amazing body, doesn't mean they're not allowed a good social life. That's ridiculous.

Hate to say this, having experienced all of this, I can fully agree with everything said here.

I'm in year 11 and spend almost every weekend on my own watching Skins or something other than socializing. In primary school I was teased for being overweight but it never really got to me until year 8 when I realized how true what they were saying was. I'm a 6" female and went into year 7 being 5"10 at 95kg- it wasn't a beautiful sight, let me tell you that. Nothing was as bad in primary school as it is in secondary school, purely because people are way more mature to call me those names to my face. I never had attention from the other sex (which only now is starting to be a bit of a bummer at the rare gatherings I go to).

Now, I've lost 37lbs and almost at the 'healthy' weight for my height, but the people I've grown up with in school will forever see me as the 'bigger, uglier' girl like before. The thing that really sucks is hand-on-heart, I'm a good person. I love making people laugh, I'm generous, and I'm kind. However, I'm bigger. In year 9 I really started isolating myself from others, telling myself "yoo just lose a few stone in a few months and get back out there and start socializing! It'll be fine." Aaaaaand welp, I lied to myself. I've only just started really pushing myself to get back out there and socialize with the few people I'm comfortable around (vodka helps v much fyi) and I can slowly see the changes in myself; I'm no longer scared of socializing (much), I know who the kinder people are and I know that when I go to uni with a fresh set of faces I'll be seen as normal.

All I can say is you can be whoever you want. My favorite saying is "fake it til' you make it" and I live by that now. Isolating myself with negativity in year 9 and onwards was the worst decision I ever made, it made me start hating myself and I fell into such a large pool of dark and lonely thoughts. I really really really really hate to say this, but I feel like it's true; being slim will greatly aid your social life. I'm still working on my weight whilst attempting to live and stretch my life, but this honestly has scarred me and despite fitting in to size 14 (not the smallest size, but starting off as a 20 you should understand my utter pride), I'll always think of myself as a larger person and think I can't socialize due to that.

If you see a slightly 'unattractive' person, please involve them like you would with an 'attractive' person. It could save their confidence in this ugly society.

Ergh, I cannot wait until uni. School is filled with judgmental pricks and I hate it so much! I wanna go to uni and socialiiizzzzeeeeee

I am a 17 year old female and imo what you have said is not necessarily true because I am skinny and don't feel like this adds to anything with regards to making friends because People, well the ones I know will socialise with those who they engage with regardless of their weight. This could just be my personal experience as I am a shy person at times

Also everyone has their own standards. You should try to embrace yourself, I know this is hard but once you start doing this, your mentality will change.

I hope things work out.

As somebody who went from fat to thin my view is that it's not much of a factor with regards to friendships however it's certainly a factor with the opposite sex and so i both disagree and agree with you.

Uni really changed how I looked at myself. Everything got a LOT better once I went to Uni, yeah I left because my uni was **** etc etc, but it wasn't because of how I was feeling about myself. I became so much more confident, I met my boyfriend, I grew to love myself and everything else fell in place. I'm now in the process of a complete lifestyle change, eating healthier etc. So it's all looking good for me and I'm sure it will for you too! Everyone at Uni is an adult, sure there are some people who are still immature, but the good thing about uni is that you're going to meet so many people, there's bound to be a whole bunch of them who are lovely and will treat you like the beautiful person you are <3

You'll never get any attention from the opposite sex, so you're never going to be texting or socialising, let alone going out with other girls/boys.

(1) At uni, you'll be spending vast periods of time alone, unless you are good at sport or by the odd chance have a group of friends of your own sex. (2) But even that's difficult because very few fat people are respected. I'm not necessarily talking obese, but significantly overweight i.e. 10kg more a healthy weight. Double that and you will be a (3) complete social outcast, guaranteed... unless you are a fat boozing rugby forward.

(4) This leads to depression and seriously affects your every day life, (5) including your grades. And that makes it harder to lose the weight from the depression.

Does TSR agree?

Just because someone is skinny, doesn't make them healthy. Just because someone is overweight, doesn't make them unhealthy.

I'm not slim by any means, I'm chubby and I have a long-term boyfriend, had a great time at University (for a while before the course became ****) but nothing to do with me not having any friends, I have plenty of friends and a great social life so whatever OP was saying, is mostly wrong.

I had a friend who was a lot bigger than me who also had a boyfriend of 4years (give or take) and a good group of friends, mixture of boys and girls.

So honestly, OP is wrong.
And you need to understand that no one is saying it's okay for people to be morbidly obese, it's not. But there's a difference between morbidly obese/obese and chubby/even fat. Just because some people don't have an amazing body, doesn't mean they're not allowed a good social life. That's ridiculous.

Hello! Argh I'm sorry about that I personally think my experiences were the lowest of the low- I was with the wrong people at the wrong time. It's all about the people in your surroundings and how they act, so I guess I was unlucky here which has created this mindset of my own. I completely agree and understand when people disagree with me based on their own experiences!

Yup I'm attempting that, but it's way easier said than done! It's taken pretty much my whole life, but I can feel myself starting to accept myself a lot more now. The mind is such a weird thing- you can trick it to believe absolutely anything...