Feel so lonely! :(

Hi so I'm 19, in my first year at uni and feel really lonely :frown:

I spent the majority of my teenage years isolating myself and staying at home so don't have any close friends from school etc. Isolating myself has done nothing but make me painfully shy and socially awkward, so now I can't stand clubbing or going to pubs. I feel so sorry for myself :frown:

any advice?

Reply 1

Ahmed21

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Original post by princesspeach99

Hi so I'm 19, in my first year at uni and feel really lonely :frown:

I spent the majority of my teenage years isolating myself and staying at home so don't have any close friends from school etc. Isolating myself has done nothing but make me painfully shy and socially awkward, so now I can't stand clubbing or going to pubs. I feel so sorry for myself :frown:

any advice?

I feel for you, I wish I could help you boo but I feel the same way too, sorry I can't help.

Reply 2

Lionheart96

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Original post by princesspeach99

Hi so I'm 19, in my first year at uni and feel really lonely :frown:

I spent the majority of my teenage years isolating myself and staying at home so don't have any close friends from school etc. Isolating myself has done nothing but make me painfully shy and socially awkward, so now I can't stand clubbing or going to pubs. I feel so sorry for myself :frown:

any advice?

Don't really have advice other than the usual but i can relate somewhat living off campus in my first year i havent been able to make any real friends, just acquintances and rarely get invited out anywhere :frown:

Reply 3

bownessie

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Original post by princesspeach99

Hi so I'm 19, in my first year at uni and feel really lonely :frown:

I spent the majority of my teenage years isolating myself and staying at home so don't have any close friends from school etc. Isolating myself has done nothing but make me painfully shy and socially awkward, so now I can't stand clubbing or going to pubs. I feel so sorry for myself :frown:

any advice?

Socities are a great way to meet people and establish yourself at unis. Bigger societies allow you to work yourself in slowly, while smaller ones may be easier to make friends in. Just take it slow and try a few- hopefully you'll find a few and you'll make friends/get used to more social situations. You may find something like hiking useful as you can kind of choose if and when and the extent to socialise with people as you go along. It'd also get you out and get you active, and given you sound like you are in a bit of a slump, exercise and being outside can help counter that. Good luck and always feel free to pm if you want to talk- a lot of us have been in your position and it gets better :smile:

Reply 4

fajitamunch

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Original post by Lionheart96

Don't really have advice other than the usual but i can relate somewhat living off campus in my first year i havent been able to make any real friends, just acquintances and rarely get invited out anywhere :frown:

Which uni you at?

Reply 5

Lionheart96

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Original post by fajitamunch

Which uni you at?

aston. you?

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fajitamunch

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Original post by Lionheart96

aston. you?

Warwick, shame... I would have chilled with you :biggrin:

Reply 7

fajitamunch

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Original post by princesspeach99

Hi so I'm 19, in my first year at uni and feel really lonely :frown:

I spent the majority of my teenage years isolating myself and staying at home so don't have any close friends from school etc. Isolating myself has done nothing but make me painfully shy and socially awkward, so now I can't stand clubbing or going to pubs. I feel so sorry for myself :frown:

any advice?

What uni are you at?

Reply 8

princesspeach99

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Original post by fajitamunch

What uni are you at?

Brighton

Reply 9

Lionheart96

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Original post by fajitamunch

Warwick, shame... I would have chilled with you :biggrin:

haha

Reply 10

DeadEnd_96

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Original post by princesspeach99

Hi so I'm 19, in my first year at uni and feel really lonely :frown:

I spent the majority of my teenage years isolating myself and staying at home so don't have any close friends from school etc. Isolating myself has done nothing but make me painfully shy and socially awkward, so now I can't stand clubbing or going to pubs. I feel so sorry for myself :frown:

any advice?

WOW! You are just like me. I have mild social anxiety too and I struggle at social situations. I also spent most of my teenage years at home as well and never went out with friends to birthday parties or other social events because I am socially awkward. I even found it difficult to just say "Hi" to people. However, I am making slow progress and becoming less shy. I just find it that the only way to solve the issue is just to throw yourself out there and force yourself to be in social situations E.g joining university societies or clubs. I hated myself for doing that, but in the end I just had this great feeling of accomplishment. I knew that if I didn't take action now, then I would be shy and socially awkward for the rest of my life, and the thought of that just scares me! Don't worry you will get better at social situations as long as try and never give up. If you don't try, you won't succeed. Good Luck! :smile:

Feel so lonely! :(

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