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How normal is it to have mixed feelings sometimes when someone is affectionate towards you, even though you've been involved with them for months? Like my boyfriendish thing called me his lovely little baby the other day and said that he missed cuddling me (we've not had the chance to meet for awhile) and it was nice and it makes me happy when he says affectionate things ...but at the same time it kind of makes me, idk, uncomfortable. And I think he probably feels the same way too when I like say I miss him sometimes. Is this normal if you're not in a relationship with a person? Cos saying 'I miss you my darling' etc doesn't seem too FWBy to me. But I think if it was actually a relationship I'd know about it.
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It's like your teacher calling you "love" even though you're never going to be in a relationship with him, it's happened to me once 
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(Original post by shawn_o1)
It's like your teacher calling you "love" even though you're never going to be in a relationship with him, it's happened to me once
It's like your teacher calling you "love" even though you're never going to be in a relationship with him, it's happened to me once
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(Original post by Anonymous)
How normal is it to have mixed feelings sometimes when someone is affectionate towards you, even though you've been involved with them for months? Like my boyfriendish thing called me his lovely little baby the other day and said that he missed cuddling me (we've not had the chance to meet for awhile) and it was nice and it makes me happy when he says affectionate things ...but at the same time it kind of makes me, idk, uncomfortable. And I think he probably feels the same way too when I like say I miss him sometimes. Is this normal if you're not in a relationship with a person? Cos saying 'I miss you my darling' etc doesn't seem too FWBy to me. But I think if it was actually a relationship I'd know about it.
How normal is it to have mixed feelings sometimes when someone is affectionate towards you, even though you've been involved with them for months? Like my boyfriendish thing called me his lovely little baby the other day and said that he missed cuddling me (we've not had the chance to meet for awhile) and it was nice and it makes me happy when he says affectionate things ...but at the same time it kind of makes me, idk, uncomfortable. And I think he probably feels the same way too when I like say I miss him sometimes. Is this normal if you're not in a relationship with a person? Cos saying 'I miss you my darling' etc doesn't seem too FWBy to me. But I think if it was actually a relationship I'd know about it.
that's a new one. The lovely little baby part sounds a bit creepy in my opinion. I guess if you are so uncomfortable with him being affectionate when you aren't in a relationship, you should let him know.
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(Original post by miser)
Maybe you want to be FWB, but he wants to be cuddle buddies?
Maybe you want to be FWB, but he wants to be cuddle buddies?
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hehehehehehheheheheheheheheheheh ehe i like your boyfriend 
he can be my little baby and cuddle buddy
he can be my little baby and cuddle buddy
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(Original post by Anonymous)
What are "cuddle buddies"?
What are "cuddle buddies"?
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Lmao your boyfriendish thing
that's a new one. The lovely little baby part sounds a bit creepy in my opinion. I guess if you are so uncomfortable with him being affectionate when you aren't in a relationship, you should let him know.
Lmao your boyfriendish thing
that's a new one. The lovely little baby part sounds a bit creepy in my opinion. I guess if you are so uncomfortable with him being affectionate when you aren't in a relationship, you should let him know.
He was being really affectionate on Saturday and idk why (I asked if he was drunk when he initiated the first convo that day/late Fri night and he said no). I have mixed feelings which is why I don't wanna say anything. It does annoy me a bit that he engages in baby talk with me because I don't know where we stand as a result of it (among other things), but at the same time I can't complain too much when I also sometimes call him 'baby', say I'm his -embarrassing pet name he has for me-, etc. (But in my defence he is the one who started with 'baby' and petnames.)
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(Original post by miser)
It's being friends with someone, but you also cuddle with them and are affectionate.
It's being friends with someone, but you also cuddle with them and are affectionate.
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when he says things like i miss you, i miss cuddling you etc. maybe you didn't miss him that much and that's why it made you uncomfortable?
i think in the beginning of a relationship it's normal to feel uncomfortable with (new) nicknames and being affectionate, but if you have been together for a long time and you are invested in this relationship you should just be able to say it makes you feel weird when he baby talks to you.
i think in the beginning of a relationship it's normal to feel uncomfortable with (new) nicknames and being affectionate, but if you have been together for a long time and you are invested in this relationship you should just be able to say it makes you feel weird when he baby talks to you.
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(Original post by remitwo)
when he says things like i miss you, i miss cuddling you etc. maybe you didn't miss him that much and that's why it made you uncomfortable?
i think in the beginning of a relationship it's normal to feel uncomfortable with (new) nicknames and being affectionate, but if you have been together for a long time and you are invested in this relationship you should just be able to say it makes you feel weird when he baby talks to you.
when he says things like i miss you, i miss cuddling you etc. maybe you didn't miss him that much and that's why it made you uncomfortable?
i think in the beginning of a relationship it's normal to feel uncomfortable with (new) nicknames and being affectionate, but if you have been together for a long time and you are invested in this relationship you should just be able to say it makes you feel weird when he baby talks to you.
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In an indeterminate relationship where the status of the relationship is left vague and mainly unspoken about, I think it's predictable that one person is going to be more affectionate than the other person is entirely comfortable with. I suggest you talk it through with him and decide exactly what the two of you want to be to each other. If you decide to be just friends, hopefully he'll stop being uncomfortably overaffectionate; if you decide to be more, maybe that will make the affection more comfortable.
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(Original post by miser)
It's being friends with someone, but you also cuddle with them and are affectionate.
It's being friends with someone, but you also cuddle with them and are affectionate.
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