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Arguably criticizing them in a respectful manner isn't as important as with a serious partner, but I think even if you'renot in a relationship with someone you should treat them well.

The guy I have sex with isn't very experienced and I think porn has shaped his expectations about sex more than my other partner (I'm not very experienced either, lol). He seems to think that being good at sex = drilling my pussy for as long as possible. I still enjoy sex with him a lot but I want to make it known to him that other stuff (e.g rubbing my clit) is more important (this seems obvious to me so idk if he just doesn't care). I don't wanna ruin the mood during sex but I'm also not sure how to bring this up in general conversation lol. Help please.
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Tell him
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Find another guy
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I'm sure he'll learn, you just gotta go with the flow I guess If you tell him he's bad, it would make things between you and him super awkward
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Have a talk about how you can make the experience better for the both of you. Say it casually so it seems like you want to make things better for him instead of hinting about you.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Arguably criticizing them in a respectful manner isn't as important as with a serious partner, but I think even if you'renot in a relationship with someone you should treat them well.

The guy I have sex with isn't very experienced and I think porn has shaped his expectations about sex more than my other partner (I'm not very experienced either, lol). He seems to think that being good at sex = drilling my pussy for as long as possible. I still enjoy sex with him a lot but I want to make it known to him that other stuff (e.g rubbing my clit) is more important (this seems obvious to me so idk if he just doesn't care). I don't wanna ruin the mood during sex but I'm also not sure how to bring this up in general conversation lol. Help please.
have sex with someone else, I'm sure there are no shortage of guys who want to sleep with you.
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have sex with someone else, I'm sure there are no shortage of guys who want to sleep with you.
I like him tho It's not just the sex
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I like him tho It's not just the sex
Ive been in this situation before, maybe you just arent sexually compatible? its harrd to accept sometimess but maybe its better to just be BFFs
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Communication is the solution to almost every relationship issue.
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Tell him and teach him how to be better! Show him what you want him to do, even guide his hand etc. :dontknow:
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Probably end it
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Arguably criticizing them in a respectful manner isn't as important as with a serious partner, but I think even if you'renot in a relationship with someone you should treat them well.

The guy I have sex with isn't very experienced and I think porn has shaped his expectations about sex more than my other partner (I'm not very experienced either, lol). He seems to think that being good at sex = drilling my pussy for as long as possible. I still enjoy sex with him a lot but I want to make it known to him that other stuff (e.g rubbing my clit) is more important (this seems obvious to me so idk if he just doesn't care). I don't wanna ruin the mood during sex but I'm also not sure how to bring this up in general conversation lol. Help please.
tell him what to do lol.

Or rub your own clit.

Do you just lay there silently on the bed like a dead fish and expect him to know exactly what to do? haha
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Probably end it
And that will surely make him feel fantastic about himself :/
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And that will surely make him feel fantastic about himself :/
How would he know?
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You've got fingers, why can't you stimulate your own clit during sex?
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You've got fingers, why can't you stimulate your own clit during sex?
It's nicer having someone else do it, if I wanted to masturbate I wouldn't bother getting in bed with someone
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You sound a bit like a pussy (no pun intended)

if you want something done you articulate your feelings
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Tell him and teach him how to be better! Show him what you want him to do, even guide his hand etc. :dontknow:
Aren't you a virgin? This is probably the best response to this thread! Go you haha!

But yeah OP you should talk to him about it, he's never going to get better if nobody tells him. He won't think it's selfish if you tell him things you'd like him to do to you, guys love it when they know they're pleasing the girl
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You ditch them obviously as they could be easily replaced.
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Aren't you a virgin? This is probably the best response to this thread! Go you haha!

But yeah OP you should talk to him about it, he's never going to get better if nobody tells him. He won't think it's selfish if you tell him things you'd like him to do to you, guys love it when they know they're pleasing the girl
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I was just thinking about how I'd feel if the situation was me and a guy, I'd feel so crap if I got dumped for being inexperienced :emo: If no one is willing to teach you then how is one ever to learn :erm:
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