Polyamory

Do you think it is possible/advisable to love more than one person? There is an undergroup community whose express purpose is for the furtherance of such a notion. The classic response is the vexed question of jealousy, yet it has also been noted that there may be a quite different response, compersion, drawing love from others love of someone else.

Opinions? Is monogamy merely a matter of culture (after all others have rather differing estimations of the matter) or is it a part of human nature?

Reply 1

Horatio Caine

Of course it's possible.

In my opinion anyway, I'm surprised no smart arse has replied with something like, 'I love my mum and dad, therefore loving two people.' But what about people who go off and have an affair? It starts off small but they both fall in love?

It's easy. A man/woman isn't getting what they want from the marriage - but they still love their partner. They are attracted to someone at work and it turns into a passionate affair. Over time them two people fall in love - but the man/woman is still in love with their partner.

It's possible but not advisable.

Reply 2

Ourkid

The term love is bandied around like anything these days. The actual defintion of love gets tampered with so much and means different things to different people that I don't like the word.

Right I've been sitting here for a couple of minutes trying to come up with a justified analysis of this topic, but it's impossible. Love is both wonderous yet EVIL.

All I know for sure is that I love pro evo... and hence am going to make love to it.

w00tt

Reply 3

bunthulhu

For me personally, being in love is about devoting yourself to that one special person, doting on them, giving them your undivided attention and getting the same in return :smile:

So I wouldn't be able to be polyamorous. If others choose to then obviously I'm not going to stop them.

Reply 4

Christo

What's the story with polyamory?

Reply 5

Tyrannosaurus Cal

bunthulhu

For me personally, being in love is about devoting yourself to that one special person, doting on them, giving them your undivided attention and getting the same in return

I'm inclined to agree, but it depends what kind of love you mean, whether the romantic love for another, (I would think only one person) or the platonic love for friends.

Reply 6

Tyrannosaurus Cal

Christo

What's the story with polyamory?

Wouldnt you like to know...

Reply 7

Chumbaniya

It's certainly possible, and polyamorous relationships can be just as strong as monogamous ones; there are good examples of this. Like any preference in relationships, polyamory isn't going to be suitable for everyone, but for those whom it suits it can work very well.

1066's example is misleading; that isn't polyamory, that's just having an affair. Polyamory involves a group (more than 2) of people who are all consenting to the non-exclusive nature of the relationship between themselves. Likening polyamory to cheating in a monogamous relationship is just plain false.

For those who say that love is all about devoting yourself to one person; that might well be the case for you, but what qualifies you to generalise a personal sentiment to all of humanity? If there are people who are capable of romantic love for more than one individual simultaneously - and there are - then polyamory can be a sensible choice for such people. Indeed, such a person being in a monogamous relationship could be hurtful for both them and their partner.

Reply 8

Isen

bunthulhu

For me personally, being in love is about devoting yourself to that one special person

Does this truely derive from a psychic act of self-determination, or are you simply accepting your culture's notions of love? Or, stated differently, who is to say you are not able to do all the said amatory acts on multiple personages?

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