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Anyone ever had a crush on somebody they work with?
No prizes for guessing that's my current situation.
How did you handle it? Did you do anything about it?
At the moment I'm going through horrible crush stage where it's lingering and I want to get over it- but can't. Not the nice feeling you get when you first fancy somebody.
Also, when I first fancied him I thought he'd be ok for a one night stand/fling/**** buddy. But now I've got to know him a bit and he's actually so nice. And I'm falling in deeper. How do I get over it before I turn into a mental woman?!?!?!?!?
No prizes for guessing that's my current situation.
How did you handle it? Did you do anything about it?
At the moment I'm going through horrible crush stage where it's lingering and I want to get over it- but can't. Not the nice feeling you get when you first fancy somebody.
Also, when I first fancied him I thought he'd be ok for a one night stand/fling/**** buddy. But now I've got to know him a bit and he's actually so nice. And I'm falling in deeper. How do I get over it before I turn into a mental woman?!?!?!?!?
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Reply 1
Anybody?
Reply 2
Lol, me too, help us.
Tall, dark, handsome, lovely, what can you do.
Thing is, it'd all be so unprofessional...
I figure, i'll leave it, see how it develops on his side, focus on other things and other people unless i'm really sure something could work out...
But hes quite a lot older than me aswell you see (bout 3/4 years, doesn't really bother me but could make things even more awkward)
So yeh, i'm just enjoying the eye candy and hoping maybe things could work otu but otherwise keeping emotional distance, you know?
Tall, dark, handsome, lovely, what can you do.
Thing is, it'd all be so unprofessional...
I figure, i'll leave it, see how it develops on his side, focus on other things and other people unless i'm really sure something could work out...
But hes quite a lot older than me aswell you see (bout 3/4 years, doesn't really bother me but could make things even more awkward)
So yeh, i'm just enjoying the eye candy and hoping maybe things could work otu but otherwise keeping emotional distance, you know?
Reply 3
Anonymous
Anyone ever had a crush on somebody they work with?
No prizes for guessing that's my current situation.
How did you handle it? Did you do anything about it?
At the moment I'm going through horrible crush stage where it's lingering and I want to get over it- but can't. Not the nice feeling you get when you first fancy somebody.
Also, when I first fancied him I thought he'd be ok for a one night stand/fling/**** buddy. But now I've got to know him a bit and he's actually so nice. And I'm falling in deeper. How do I get over it before I turn into a mental woman?!?!?!?!?
No prizes for guessing that's my current situation.
How did you handle it? Did you do anything about it?
At the moment I'm going through horrible crush stage where it's lingering and I want to get over it- but can't. Not the nice feeling you get when you first fancy somebody.
Also, when I first fancied him I thought he'd be ok for a one night stand/fling/**** buddy. But now I've got to know him a bit and he's actually so nice. And I'm falling in deeper. How do I get over it before I turn into a mental woman?!?!?!?!?
Reminding yourself how unprofessinal it would be and the fact he will have his bad points, nobody is perfect and as you want to get over it, then you know deep down theres good reasons for you to do that.
In time you will get over him, right now you probablly dont know any other guys who come close to him. So he seems even more amazing, when you meet another real nice guy youll wonder why you liked him so much.
Reply 4
17
lol @ you two.
Are these crushes your bosses or peers?
Are these crushes your bosses or peers?
Reply 5
Ahh. You all make so much sense.
However I currently lack logic and the work unprofessional sounds like a foreign language to me. Not only is my heart (did I say heart? I meant to say lust) saying 'must... have...' my head is aswell. Go figure.
And I hardly meet decent guys. Probably just hang with the wrong crowd. Or the ones I do know who are decent are already taken.
I know he has bad points... but everybody does. Like me... falling for the wrong person.
Also he's not my boss! Just a coworker. And he's my age. I would not sink so low as my manager- well, not because I have morals as such, but because she's female.
One plus though. As he has exams in January and I do not, his work hours have been cut down, so he is only working 1 day a week on the weekend, and I work the other day of the weekend. So I probably won't see him for a couple of weeks. And maybe I'll get over it. I guess I have a 'out of sight, out of mind' type crush. Shall I just slap (some sense into) myself and vow to get over it?
On the other hand, our work part is coming up after christmas. He shall be liquored up, and he claims he's a lightweight, which means... I know, I am having bad thoughts. Somebody stop me. Please.
However I currently lack logic and the work unprofessional sounds like a foreign language to me. Not only is my heart (did I say heart? I meant to say lust) saying 'must... have...' my head is aswell. Go figure.
And I hardly meet decent guys. Probably just hang with the wrong crowd. Or the ones I do know who are decent are already taken.
I know he has bad points... but everybody does. Like me... falling for the wrong person.
Also he's not my boss! Just a coworker. And he's my age. I would not sink so low as my manager- well, not because I have morals as such, but because she's female.
One plus though. As he has exams in January and I do not, his work hours have been cut down, so he is only working 1 day a week on the weekend, and I work the other day of the weekend. So I probably won't see him for a couple of weeks. And maybe I'll get over it. I guess I have a 'out of sight, out of mind' type crush. Shall I just slap (some sense into) myself and vow to get over it?
On the other hand, our work part is coming up after christmas. He shall be liquored up, and he claims he's a lightweight, which means... I know, I am having bad thoughts. Somebody stop me. Please.
Reply 6
Maybe youll find he is a total jackass when he's drunk and that might help you get over him 
Whatever you do dont take advantage, because chances are it will backfire and youll feel 10 times as bad as you are now.
Just remind yourself that realistically theres plenty other guys out there just as nice who you can have.
You will thank yourself for being abit patient waiting for someone else
Whatever you do dont take advantage, because chances are it will backfire and youll feel 10 times as bad as you are now.
Just remind yourself that realistically theres plenty other guys out there just as nice who you can have.
You will thank yourself for being abit patient waiting for someone else
Reply 7
MNBStyle
Maybe youll find he is a total jackass when he's drunk and that might help you get over him
Whatever you do dont take advantage, because chances are it will backfire and youll feel 10 times as bad as you are now.
Just remind yourself that realistically theres plenty other guys out there just as nice who you can have.
You will thank yourself for being abit patient waiting for someone else
Whatever you do dont take advantage, because chances are it will backfire and youll feel 10 times as bad as you are now.
Just remind yourself that realistically theres plenty other guys out there just as nice who you can have.
You will thank yourself for being abit patient waiting for someone else
Good point. Maybe he'll be a drunken arse. And things always backfire on me. Adding alcohol to the equation will probably do something like speed it along, knowing my luck. As you can tell, I'm not very patient. I need to become more patient.
What if he were to leave this job... Do you think it would be acceptable then? He mentioned it a few weeks ago, when someone mentioned they were leaving and he said 'Yeh I think I've been here too long too I'm thinking of getting a new job in the new year'.
Reply 8
Anonymous
What if he were to leave this job... Do you think it would be acceptable then?
Well its acceptable now if hes not yur boss or something like that, but a couple working together so early in a relationship would be difficult when your young.
Course it would be acceptable if he left his job, but i sense something else is stopping you.
See how things go over the next month or so and see how your feelings go, they may go quicker than you think and youll be wondering what the fuss was about
Reply 9
MNBStyle
Well its acceptable now if hes not yur boss or something like that, but a couple working together so early in a relationship would be difficult when your young.
Course it would be acceptable if he left his job, but i sense something else is stopping you.
See how things go over the next month or so and see how your feelings go, they may go quicker than you think and youll be wondering what the fuss was about
Course it would be acceptable if he left his job, but i sense something else is stopping you.
See how things go over the next month or so and see how your feelings go, they may go quicker than you think and youll be wondering what the fuss was about
True.
What's stopping me is my overwhelming shyness. Aswell I don't know if he likes me back.
I'd also like to state that usually when I fancy a guy I overplay the whole 'hard to get' thing alot, and so end up pushing them away. I don't know whether it's because I work with him and have to be amicable or because I am just over that phase but I am not like that with him at all. And I feel less awkward with him than other boys I have fancied in the past. Maybe because I do actually get to have proper conversations with him, and it's not just about me thinking 'omg he's quite fit'. Though I think that aswell
Reply 10
Anonymous
True.
What's stopping me is my overwhelming shyness. Aswell I don't know if he likes me back.
What's stopping me is my overwhelming shyness. Aswell I don't know if he likes me back.
Well how long you known him now??? with most guys especially ones you work with, it don't take long to be able to tell if they like you or not.
Most likely it would seem he just sees you as a friend/work colleague.
I still suggest seeing how your feelings go over the next month or so thoe, as you know right now its just a crush.
Reply 11
MNBStyle
Well how long you known him now??? with most guys especially ones you work with, it don't take long to be able to tell if they like you or not.
Most likely it would seem he just sees you as a friend/work colleague.
I still suggest seeing how your feelings go over the next month or so thoe, as you know right now its just a crush.
Most likely it would seem he just sees you as a friend/work colleague.
I still suggest seeing how your feelings go over the next month or so thoe, as you know right now its just a crush.
About 2 months.
That's true. If he did like me he'd be more obvious/I shoulda pick up on it.
Seems like it.
Ahh. Never mind. New year, new boys.
Usually my crushes last a whole of a nanosecond so this one sprung me by surprise, you see.
Reply 12
Anonymous
About 2 months.
That's true. If he did like me he'd be more obvious/I shoulda pick up on it.
Seems like it.
Ahh. Never mind. New year, new boys.
Usually my crushes last a whole of a nanosecond so this one sprung me by surprise, you see.
That's true. If he did like me he'd be more obvious/I shoulda pick up on it.
Seems like it.
Ahh. Never mind. New year, new boys.
Usually my crushes last a whole of a nanosecond so this one sprung me by surprise, you see.
2 months is enough time for you to get any kind of signs he likes you, so i would say he just sees you as what i said in the last message.
And i guess if right now you really don't have other real nice guys to compare him it would take you by surprise.
But like you say new year, new boys and you seem a real nice sweet girl so you should be fine.
Reply 13
10
yeaahhh but... he might be really shy?
not trying to get your hopes up unnecessarily but i don't really think him not going up to you and outrageously flirting means that he doesn't like you...
what's your instinct op? a girl's instinct is hardly ever wrong. if i'm not famous around here for saying that already, i should be.
not trying to get your hopes up unnecessarily but i don't really think him not going up to you and outrageously flirting means that he doesn't like you...
what's your instinct op? a girl's instinct is hardly ever wrong. if i'm not famous around here for saying that already, i should be.
Reply 14
ph9
yeaahhh but... he might be really shy?
not trying to get your hopes up unnecessarily but i don't really think him not going up to you and outrageously flirting means that he doesn't like you...
what's your instinct op? a girl's instinct is hardly ever wrong. if i'm not famous around here for saying that already, i should be.
not trying to get your hopes up unnecessarily but i don't really think him not going up to you and outrageously flirting means that he doesn't like you...
what's your instinct op? a girl's instinct is hardly ever wrong. if i'm not famous around here for saying that already, i should be.
My instinct and imagination play minds games with me and just morph into one. No point asking either.
I shall sleep on it. Wake up, have a clear head, then see him at work and turn into a pile of mushy goo thinking about him and his hot-ness/sweet-ness/everything-ness.
Dear lord I hope he's shy.
I bid yee all goodnight.
Reply 15
Anonymous
everything-ness..
Now you know deep down thats not true
Night Night xxxxx
ph9
yeaahhh but... he might be really shy?
True and i was going to say that, but based on Anon replys like them having proper conversations suggests hes not shy in my opinion.
But i do see your point but even for a shy guy you can still get small hints they may like you after 2 months.
Reply 16
MNBStyle
2 months is enough time for you to get any kind of signs he likes you, so i would say he just sees you as what i said in the last message.
And i guess if right now you really don't have other real nice guys to compare him it would take you by surprise.
But like you say new year, new boys and you seem a real nice sweet girl so you should be fine.
And i guess if right now you really don't have other real nice guys to compare him it would take you by surprise.
But like you say new year, new boys and you seem a real nice sweet girl so you should be fine.
Did you read my first post where I just thought about ****ing him? LOL.
Again, I bid yee all goodnight.
Reply 17
Giliwoo is in a similar situation. He would act on it with no compunction too, if the chance arose. But he would do so knowing not to expect anything from it. Word of advice: Never date anyone you can't run away from.
Reply 18
10
awww this is like that girlie chat we had a few weeks back
yeah, anon i was in the exact same position as you. except school, not work. and it's still sort of going on, but it's toned down a lot. A LOT.
i hardly think about him as much, and even when i do, it's not as obsessive. or maybe it is a bit. but it's less frequent! i think it comes to a point where you just think, you know what, nothing's happened, maybe nothing will. focus on work, forget him. all these thoughts must have occurred in my mind, i just don't remember it maybe it's a sub-conscious thing
i do find myself missing dreamily staring at the back of his head whilst pretending to be looking at the white board instead though
yeah, anon i was in the exact same position as you. except school, not work. and it's still sort of going on, but it's toned down a lot. A LOT.
i hardly think about him as much, and even when i do, it's not as obsessive. or maybe it is a bit. but it's less frequent! i think it comes to a point where you just think, you know what, nothing's happened, maybe nothing will. focus on work, forget him. all these thoughts must have occurred in my mind, i just don't remember it
maybe it's a sub-conscious thingi do find myself missing dreamily staring at the back of his head whilst pretending to be looking at the white board instead though
Reply 19
Anonymous
Did you read my first post where I just thought about ****ing him? LOL.
Again, I bid yee all goodnight.
Again, I bid yee all goodnight.
Yes but we all go through that stage of, is it just a sex thing or do i genuinally like this person.
So i stick by my comments about you
Night Night xxxx
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