Muslim girl sick of never being good enough!

K, this is going to be a bit of a rant and maybe most of u will be thinking I'm out of order but I need to vent.

I've always been what u would call a 'good girl' in that I never went against my parents and my conscience never allowed me to do anything deemed unsuitable - in religion or otherwise.

I just think that whatever I do, I'm never good enough! I never used to cover my hair but was told to by parents so I did when I was 11. I was constantly told to pray 5 times a day and I did but then was told to change how I dress. I then chose to wear long garments to dress more modestly but then was told it would be better to cover my face. I'm always met with some lecture or another by someone about religion and it sucks bcos I'm always guilted into everything.

Granted, I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but I always try to be nice and don't go out of my way to displease anyone. Yet, somehow these aren't enough. I'm constantly told how I'm supposed to be and no matter how much I adapt, there is always another hoop to jump through.

It depresses me sometimes. I have anxiety and don't socialise much but all these restrictions are making it harder for me have the confidence to do that. I get that we can't speak to guys but then that makes me think I will spend my whole life not talking to the opposite gender as it's seen as sinful, even when it's just friendly. It just makes me scared that my future husband will be the only outside man I'll have interaction with and the fact that he will be my first experience of socialising with the opposite gender terrifies me. Just think it may be detrimental to my already low self esteem.

I've had a pretty sheltered life and it's getting me down that I never had any sort of independence or freedom just because I happened to be born a female - I would rather be a man tbh.

K, this is going to be a bit of a rant and maybe most of u will be thinking I'm out of order but I need to vent.

I've always been what u would call a 'good girl' in that I never went against my parents and my conscience never allowed me to do anything deemed unsuitable - in religion or otherwise.

I just think that whatever I do, I'm never good enough! I never used to cover my hair but was told to by parents so I did when I was 11. I was constantly told to pray 5 times a day and I did but then was told to change how I dress. I then chose to wear long garments to dress more modestly but then was told it would be better to cover my face. I'm always met with some lecture or another by someone about religion and it sucks bcos I'm always guilted into everything.

Granted, I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but I always try to be nice and don't go out of my way to displease anyone. Yet, somehow these aren't enough. I'm constantly told how I'm supposed to be and no matter how much I adapt, there is always another hoop to jump through.

It depresses me sometimes. I have anxiety and don't socialise much but all these restrictions are making it harder for me have the confidence to do that. I get that we can't speak to guys but then that makes me think I will spend my whole life not talking to the opposite gender as it's seen as sinful, even when it's just friendly. It just makes me scared that my future husband will be the only outside man I'll have interaction with and the fact that he will be my first experience of socialising with the opposite gender terrifies me. Just think it may be detrimental to my already low self esteem.

I've had a pretty sheltered life and it's getting me down that I never had any sort of independence or freedom just because I happened to be born a female - I would rather be a man tbh.

Decide how you want to live your life and stick with it. Life's too short.

K, this is going to be a bit of a rant and maybe most of u will be thinking I'm out of order but I need to vent.

I've always been what u would call a 'good girl' in that I never went against my parents and my conscience never allowed me to do anything deemed unsuitable - in religion or otherwise.

I just think that whatever I do, I'm never good enough! I never used to cover my hair but was told to by parents so I did when I was 11. I was constantly told to pray 5 times a day and I did but then was told to change how I dress. I then chose to wear long garments to dress more modestly but then was told it would be better to cover my face. I'm always met with some lecture or another by someone about religion and it sucks bcos I'm always guilted into everything.

Granted, I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but I always try to be nice and don't go out of my way to displease anyone. Yet, somehow these aren't enough. I'm constantly told how I'm supposed to be and no matter how much I adapt, there is always another hoop to jump through.

It depresses me sometimes. I have anxiety and don't socialise much but all these restrictions are making it harder for me have the confidence to do that. I get that we can't speak to guys but then that makes me think I will spend my whole life not talking to the opposite gender as it's seen as sinful, even when it's just friendly. It just makes me scared that my future husband will be the only outside man I'll have interaction with and the fact that he will be my first experience of socialising with the opposite gender terrifies me. Just think it may be detrimental to my already low self esteem.

I've had a pretty sheltered life and it's getting me down that I never had any sort of independence or freedom just because I happened to be born a female - I would rather be a man tbh.

I can see how much good you are by ranting out about your parents here on an online website filled with people who totally would say what you want to hear. But the truth is, if you were really that depressed then you should have read Quran and Hadeedh to find the best answers which surely you didn't so you don't know much. I dun know what advice to give you here but instead of complaining here maybe you should talk to your parents about this.

are you mad... she is clearly depressed her parents are the cause of this because of their extreme loyalty to their religion

Talking to her parents will make it worse, they will never understand

for them it is whatever they do is best for her the moment she complains she will be condemned for not knowing what is best for herself

Are you stupid?

So you want her to make a decision of her own and not follow Islam and live a life like she wants to so that she could put their names to shame in the family and give them a reason to hate her for her actions.

Talking to her parents is the best option so that she can talk about her situation.

err no she should do what makes her happy. No one should have to live up to the expectations of others. Her parents and community should respect her for who she is not bully her into following their expectations.

K, this is going to be a bit of a rant and maybe most of u will be thinking I'm out of order but I need to vent.

I've always been what u would call a 'good girl' in that I never went against my parents and my conscience never allowed me to do anything deemed unsuitable - in religion or otherwise.

I just think that whatever I do, I'm never good enough! I never used to cover my hair but was told to by parents so I did when I was 11. I was constantly told to pray 5 times a day and I did but then was told to change how I dress. I then chose to wear long garments to dress more modestly but then was told it would be better to cover my face. I'm always met with some lecture or another by someone about religion and it sucks bcos I'm always guilted into everything.

Granted, I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but I always try to be nice and don't go out of my way to displease anyone. Yet, somehow these aren't enough. I'm constantly told how I'm supposed to be and no matter how much I adapt, there is always another hoop to jump through.

It depresses me sometimes. I have anxiety and don't socialise much but all these restrictions are making it harder for me have the confidence to do that. I get that we can't speak to guys but then that makes me think I will spend my whole life not talking to the opposite gender as it's seen as sinful, even when it's just friendly. It just makes me scared that my future husband will be the only outside man I'll have interaction with and the fact that he will be my first experience of socialising with the opposite gender terrifies me. Just think it may be detrimental to my already low self esteem.

I've had a pretty sheltered life and it's getting me down that I never had any sort of independence or freedom just because I happened to be born a female - I would rather be a man tbh.

K, this is going to be a bit of a rant and maybe most of u will be thinking I'm out of order but I need to vent.

I've always been what u would call a 'good girl' in that I never went against my parents and my conscience never allowed me to do anything deemed unsuitable - in religion or otherwise.

I just think that whatever I do, I'm never good enough! I never used to cover my hair but was told to by parents so I did when I was 11. I was constantly told to pray 5 times a day and I did but then was told to change how I dress. I then chose to wear long garments to dress more modestly but then was told it would be better to cover my face. I'm always met with some lecture or another by someone about religion and it sucks bcos I'm always guilted into everything.

Granted, I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but I always try to be nice and don't go out of my way to displease anyone. Yet, somehow these aren't enough. I'm constantly told how I'm supposed to be and no matter how much I adapt, there is always another hoop to jump through.

It depresses me sometimes. I have anxiety and don't socialise much but all these restrictions are making it harder for me have the confidence to do that. I get that we can't speak to guys but then that makes me think I will spend my whole life not talking to the opposite gender as it's seen as sinful, even when it's just friendly. It just makes me scared that my future husband will be the only outside man I'll have interaction with and the fact that he will be my first experience of socialising with the opposite gender terrifies me. Just think it may be detrimental to my already low self esteem.

I've had a pretty sheltered life and it's getting me down that I never had any sort of independence or freedom just because I happened to be born a female - I would rather be a man tbh.