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Putting Myself Into Boyfriend Dilemma

I'll try and explain as best as I can.

Basically, I'm a bisexual guy. I met my current boyfriend (who I'll call A) at my new sixth form in September. At the time, he was with another guy (B). However, I still desparately fancied A and hoped I could eventually get together with him. At the start of October, I told A my sexuality, as up until that point he thought I was straight. However, it didn't look like he and B would split up.

In the middle of October, A said that he had a good guy to set me up with, C. He gave me C's MSN address and we got talking, and got on really well. However, a few days later, A told me that C wasn't as good a person as he thought, and advised me to block him. I didn't, but told A that I did. I continued chatting with C until the end of October, when A split up with B. Seeing as I wanted to get together with A, I distanced myself from C, and after about a week, me and A got together. I blocked C from MSN.

Two months on, and I'm very happy together with A. However, recently, I've started thinking about C, and what I could have had with him. Although my bf is good looking, C is just so hot, and he seems a really nice guy. Yesterday, i unblocked C from MSN and was talking to him... and I just really want to be with him. Although I am so happy with A, a relationship with C seems to be really attractive now, and I want it. There are obvious pros to my current relationship, aside from the fact that I'm happy with it : A goes to my school while C doesn't, I haven't even met C in the flesh before

But I don't know ... I know I'm digging myself into a hole to even consider cheating on A with C ... but I don't know.

:frown:

Sorry, I just felt like I needed to tell someone.

Reply 1

Harv616

9

Lust Vs Love....

And you cant really be happy with A if your considering other guys over him. If you get these feelings for other people this early on, it doesn't look like there is a future for you and A.

Reply 2

Alewhey

*reads first paragraph*

From topic title, that wasn't what I expected at all. I was looking forward to posting a sarcastic How-To.

/ramble

Reply 3

Ross_j

9

grass is always greener on the other side.....take love over lust

Reply 4

bunthulhu

14

I vote A.

Reply 5

blondielilangel

You said you havent met C in the flesh before only spoken to him on msn.. so he may be a different person to what you expect in real life. Its fair enough to have feelings for someone else as you cant help your emotions, but as BhArJ said, it may just be a case of lust. Dont let it get in the way of your better judgement, just because C is 'so hot'
You really need to think about your feelings for A. If you did cheat on him with C and he found out & you broke up - you would i hope, being a decent person, have it on your conscience & feel guilty for betraying him, even if you dont care for him as much as you for C. But it may only be then that you discover how you really feel for A, then you could end up hurting both of you.
As you say you are happy with A personally i think you really need to give your relationship a shot unless obviously you genuinely think that your feelings are stronger for C.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
x

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Alewhey

*reads first paragraph*

From topic title, that wasn't what I expected at all. I was looking forward to posting a sarcastic How-To.

/ramble

At least that made me laugh!

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

blondielilangel

You said you havent met C in the flesh before only spoken to him on msn.. so he may be a different person to what you expect in real life. Its fair enough to have feelings for someone else as you cant help your emotions, but as BhArJ said, it may just be a case of lust. Dont let it get in the way of your better judgement, just because C is 'so hot'
You really need to think about your feelings for A. If you did cheat on him with C and he found out & you broke up - you would i hope, being a decent person, have it on your conscience & feel guilty for betraying him, even if you dont care for him as much as you for C. But it may only be then that you discover how you really feel for A, then you could end up hurting both of you.
As you say you are happy with A personally i think you really need to give your relationship a shot unless obviously you genuinely think that your feelings are stronger for C.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
x

Yeah, someone else has said about not meeting C in the flesh before. You're right, he could be a totally different person.
I don't just like C because o his looks, he has a good personality and stuff too. However, as you said, he could be different in real life.
:s-smilie:

Reply 8

blondielilangel

Anonymous

Yeah, someone else has said about not meeting C in the flesh before. You're right, he could be a totally different person.
I don't just like C because o his looks, he has a good personality and stuff too. However, as you said, he could be different in real life.
:s-smilie:

Sorry didnt mean to sound that as it came out :smile:

im sure it wasnt just cos of his looks that you like him - obviously over msn you could argue you get to know more a persons personality since you cant always see them unless you have a webcam, but yeh there is a chance he is different..

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