Stressed and need adviceWatch
This afternoon I had a revision class with my head of sixth form and I just kept shutting everything off as I feel like I just don't know anything. He knows this is a problem of mine and despite his and my best efforts I can't seem to get out of this mindset. He then told me he needed to speak to me after and after having another meltdown he basically told me that I need to be more positive and stop closing everything off. I told him that I was worried of a repeat of last year and that I feel so stressed. He said by my behaviour and attitude wasn't normal and I need to speak to my doctor for some temporary help. I'm usually very positive and happy. He asked if my parents knew of the pressure and stress I am feeling and he told me I need to tell them or he was going too. My mum is on holiday and my dad doesn't really understand so I can't talk about it too him. I just really don't know what to do as I don't want to let my parents down by not doing very well and by telling them I don't want them to worry about me. My biggest problem is that I seem like I'm okay when in fact I just want to cry all the time and give up. I know a lot of people feel like this but at the moment I've been feeling really sick and today, twice I've tried to make myself be sick as this is the only way it will stop. I don't want to tell my teachers this as not only do I not think this is serious, I also do not want my parents to find out about this.
I really don't want my friends to know either as at the moment they have some issues with one of their A levels and I don't want them to think I'm just being dramatic.
Now I'm going to be blunt and say you can't completely cure these emotions; but there are many ways to dampen and manage them.
First understand that emotions are just emotions. They aren't a physical thing and you can, at least partially, ignore the emotions by distracting yourself with other work.
Second learn what will make these feelings better or worse.
Reduce stress and worry
Revise plenty, but take regular breaks.
Setup a revision timetable so you can see how much you are doing.
Focus on the here and now, not on your exams.
Remember that there are backup options if things don't go so well.
Increase stress and worry (avoid these!)
Revise constantly with no breaks. AVOID
Don't socialise or relax enough. AVOID. Talk to others and see that they are in the same situation as you.
Procrastinate. AVOID. This may provide short term relief, but in the long run it will worsen things.
Sleep in too much. AVOID. Get plenty of sleep and do lie in for a bit if you want to, but getting started on work early in the day can quell feelings of stress and prevent them from recurring later in the day too.
Remember why you are doing this and where you want to be in the future. This work will lead you there. Do the work. Get the grades. Everything will be fine