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    I'm currently in Year 11 at an all male secondary school. For Sixth form I am moving to a 6th form that specialises in the subjects I like and mainly consists of girls. I am really nervous about it as I am so so bad at speaking to and meeting new people, I get extremely anxious and nervous. I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced something like this and how did you overcome it? How can you come across as a nice person to others and make new friends and not feel very nervous?

    Thanks in advance!
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    The only 3 things you need are posture, pronunciation and a mankini, trust me it'll work - Borat
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    Eat pringles while waiting for class, talk to surrounding people, offer pringle.

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    Profit.

    In all seriousness, eating relaxes you, as humans we feel comfortable knowing were doing stuff that stops us from dying, when you dont know what to say in a convo through nerves just pop a pringle and chew but make some sort of noise of agreement.
    Offer pringle, if they say no, reply ah come on! I dont want them in my bag after opening blah blah.
    When they chew, you bring up your own topic of conversation.

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    (Original post by Mushto)
    The only 3 things you need are posture, pronunciation and a mankini, trust me it'll work - Borat
    And pringles

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    Do not worry about coming across as a nice person, that will come naturally as you seem very considerate to me
    I know that in practise it's harder, but there are 3 simple tips I usually try to stick to if I'm suffering anxiety at school. These are: 1. Stay confident in your own head. If you're starting to feel anxious, think to yourself "it'll be fine, there's more to life than 2 years of sixth form". Remain positive and think positive thoughts. I'll bet there are lots of people coming in for sixth form feeling just like you! 2. Remember, you are at school to learn and get good grades for the uni of your dreams. You have picked a school that specialises in subjects you enjoy, which I think is really wise. The great thing about sixth form I found (I'm at the end of year 13 now) though obviously it does vary school to school, is that everyone in your lessons has also explicitly chosen to do that subject. This means that even if you don't have much in common socially, you know that everyone else in your classes also enjoys that subject so you'll always have that as conversation e.g. If you like History maybe they've been watching Wolf Hall, if you like the Natural Sciences maybe they've heard of NASA's new heart-beat detecting invention that saved lives in Nepal. 3. You're not alone! I can't stress this enough, even if you don't find them in the very first week, you will find like-minded people! Even if it's just that you both watch Game of Thrones, there will always be something you have in common with people. So please don't worry about meeting new people You mention that you're moving to a school with girls so I wonder if that's contributing to your nervousness? I still get a bit awkward when I'm in a class full of just guys, but I found that you get used to it pretty quickly. We're all human
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    Eat pringles while waiting for class, talk to surrounding people, offer pringle.

    ????

    Profit.

    In all seriousness, eating relaxes you, as humans we feel comfortable knowing were doing stuff that stops us from dying, when you dont know what to say in a convo through nerves just pop a pringle and chew but make some sort of noise of agreement.
    Offer pringle, if they say no, reply ah come on! I dont want them in my bag after opening blah blah.
    When they chew, you bring up your own topic of conversation.

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    How come I felt so uncomfortable watching Russel Brand drinking water? Maybe it's because I'd rather he didn't drink for 4 days or so?
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    Do not worry about coming across as a nice person, that will come naturally as you seem very considerate to me
    I know that in practise it's harder, but there are 3 simple tips I usually try to stick to if I'm suffering anxiety at school. These are: 1. Stay confident in your own head. If you're starting to feel anxious, think to yourself "it'll be fine, there's more to life than 2 years of sixth form". Remain positive and think positive thoughts. I'll bet there are lots of people coming in for sixth form feeling just like you! 2. Remember, you are at school to learn and get good grades for the uni of your dreams. You have picked a school that specialises in subjects you enjoy, which I think is really wise. The great thing about sixth form I found (I'm at the end of year 13 now) though obviously it does vary school to school, is that everyone in your lessons has also explicitly chosen to do that subject. This means that even if you don't have much in common socially, you know that everyone else in your classes also enjoys that subject so you'll always have that as conversation e.g. If you like History maybe they've been watching Wolf Hall, if you like the Natural Sciences maybe they've heard of NASA's new heart-beat detecting invention that saved lives in Nepal. 3. You're not alone! I can't stress this enough, even if you don't find them in the very first week, you will find like-minded people! Even if it's just that you both watch Game of Thrones, there will always be something you have in common with people. So please don't worry about meeting new people You mention that you're moving to a school with girls so I wonder if that's contributing to your nervousness? I still get a bit awkward when I'm in a class full of just guys, but I found that you get used to it pretty quickly. We're all human
    Thanks that is very kind of you! Yeah I'm moving from a school of 100 percent guys to mainly girls, think this could be an idea that is making me nervous as it is such a drastic change to what I'm used to. Thank you very much for the advice, will try to put it into practice when I start in September
 
 
 
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