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Is ill-mental health a genuine excuse for rudeness? watch

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    I was in a very bad relationship half a year ago. He suffered from depression and psychosis.

    He always used to use his ill-mental health to excuse his behaviour. He would always put me down and never apologise after. When confronted, he would say 'you should be more understanding about my mental health problems and know that I have to think about myself and not anybody else'.

    He would use mental health as an excuse for small things such as not doing work to big things like consistently pressuring me into sex.

    I have suffered with an anxiety disorder for years and I've had bad tumbles where I've gone against the people I love, but I apologise and am genuinely sorry because I don't want to hurt them. I understand that everybody, regardless of mental health, can have bad days but where is the line crossed?

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    No. I've had people do the same to me.

    There's one thing saying "I've got depression which means I may have really **** days where I'm in a bad mood" fine. But I've had someone use it as an excuse to harass me. Not ok, ever and neither is pressuring you into sex.
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    Bad mental health is never an excuse to pressurise someone into something they dont want to do, i think that is where you ve definitely crossed the line
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