is it bad to be 15 and slept with 5 or more people?
- Thread Starter
- 10-05-2015 17:01
- 10-05-2015 17:05
It is immoral to sleep with one person outside of marriage. However it doesn't make you bad for doing so.
- 10-05-2015 17:07
- 10-05-2015 17:12
Well in the eyes of the Law, it's illegal so yes it is wrong in that sense.
When I was 15, sleeping with one person was unheard of, let alone 5!
As long as you're being safe then it isn't an issue, I'm sure you don't want to be another underage pregnancy statistic so try to keep it that way.
- 10-05-2015 17:13
If it was all consensual, with people your own age and with protection, there's nothing inherently bad about it.
- 10-05-2015 18:01
An old friend of mine had slept with 11 guys by the time she was 15
- 10-05-2015 18:08
- 10-05-2015 19:50
Wow... 15 and already slept with 5 people? It's bad in the sense that it's illegal. Actually, it's bad no matter how you look at it. Good luck though. Or good luck to whoever is in that position.
- 10-05-2015 20:16
Well, actually, I have concern over this and perhaps you do too. First, you don't say it you are the guy or the girl and I am making the assumption that you are speaking about heterosexual encounters.
- If you are the guy, have you viewed a lot of porn? Do you see these experiences as sexual conquests? Does having multiple partners give you validation? You may be a perfectly normal 15 yo - with better than average luck (haha) but do you have a healthy attitude toward sex and the girls you are with?
Definitely keep to your own age group!!!! (Hugely important at 15).
Also, you run the risk of getting a bad reputation with the girls. I'm at uni and a guy (much older than you) had a crush on me and I didn't go out with him because several friends told me of his reputation of getting with girls and I didn't want to be just a number for him. Even though I think he liked me on a different level than just a count I didn't want other people to view me as probably just another number if they saw us out together. Plus guys like that tend to cheat. Maybe that wasn't fair but it was the decision that I made based on his multiple sex partner reputation.
Now, if you are the girl I have the same questions. Does it give you validation when you end up with a new partner? Are you keeping to your age group? Are you searching for a long term relationship and find yourself giving everything only to be left? Are you seeking love therefore giving sex? Maybe you just enjoy the sex, and that is okay, but you might want to consider your potential reputation amongst your peers. Girls can be merciless toward other girls and believe me people talk!
So whether you are male or female what is your motivation for sex - beyond the obvious physical enjoyment? If you are having sex just because it feels good I don't think you'd come on the TSR and ask the question - but maybe you would!! Maybe you're just bragging!! :-)
BUT.....*Having multiple sexual partners at an early age can also be an indicator of someone who has been sexually or physically abused.* If that is the case please seek professional help immediately.
Having sex is great, no question, but 5 partners by 15 I find concerning. Sorry but that is my opinion and you asked. I hope you are engaging in safe sex for all the right reasons and not trying escape something else in your life - like abuse or the feeling of inadequacy if the answer is yes to any of the questions you should considering finding some counseling.