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    i think most relationships have someone who kind of wears the trousers a bit more than the other partner. what personality traits do you think cause this
    i think i am a follower and seek a partner who is more in control. i find it attractive and dont like to be dominate over a guy. I mostly seek friendship and being on the same wavelength however, but i am not the bossy type.

    however, i know sort of louder girls who have quieter boyfriends and i think he probably goes for the stronger female type.

    it could even be to do with birth order. oldest children tend to be more confident and have a bossier, more sensible attitude. whereas youngest i find are more laid back.
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    In day to day things, I don't really mind. Probably her to be a bit controlling, just for jokes.

    But if **** goes down, I'll set up shop.

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    I like to be in charge most of the time

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    In charge of course.

    ...(well under the illusion. Women are secretly always in charge).
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    I'd let him think he's in charge.... But really its Me!!
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    I'm the follower. I just like the idea of being looked after. I don't have a bossy personality generally so I like my partner being in control.

    I'm a middle child but don't know if that makes a difference? Have always been the 'peacemaker' lol.
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    (Original post by NutE)
    I like to be in charge most of the time

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    Still Single or what
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    (Original post by DiceTheSlice)
    Still Single or what
    Why do you ask

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    With my ex boyfriends (early/mid-twenties), I often took charge because tbh they were more insecure/dependent/immature/needed ego soothing but I secretly resented it. I never felt like we were true equals. I felt like a 'mother' and was a bit put-off but their weakness. I could literally manipulate them into feeling good about themselves by complimenting them/etc. I was an ego-soother.

    With my current (30-year old) boyfriend, it's very different. He knows how to take care of himself, is confident, knows his own mind, doesn't need me to play 'mummy'. I really respect him, feel like he is in control and has a lot to teach me.
    He knows how to take charge but remain respectful. I literally swoon when he does it lol I prefer it that way. I also trust his decisions and have a lot of faith in his character. A lot of the time, I will only take charge because I'm challenging him to take back control or when he's hurt/vulnerable in some way - at that point primal instincts seem to kick in and I go OTT on defending/protecting him.

    I know there are many 30+ guys who are still immature though, just as there are guys in their mid-twenties who are grown men.
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    Neither. I would want it to be equal.
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    I like being equal with my partner.. but I like my guy to take charge at times.
 
 
 
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