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Why has he taken rejection so badly Watch

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    About six months ago a guy I know asked me out. I said that I was not interested in a relationship at that time and asked if we could just be friends, to which he replied that he didn't think he would be able to be friends with me (essentially issuing an ultimatum of all or nothing). After much arguing we decided that we would not speak, as it was getting clearly upsetting for both of us.
    Keeping in mind that this was six months ago, I am obviously long over this argument and am happy enough to be civil. However, he had deleted me off Facebook, refused to be in the same room as me (to the extent that we cannot be at the same party/ in a group of friends), he told all of his friends that the hates me and that I am a horrible person and a week after I told him I did not want to be with him he decided to start sending naked pictures to one of our close mutual friends.
    Why has he chosen to take this rejection SO badly?
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    That doesn't sound as though his taken it badly.
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    1. He is definitely an *******.

    He probably really liked you and was devastated by being rejected. Regardless of what it is, it does not excuse his behaviour. What exactly do you mean when you said he started sending nudes? Were they of yourself or of him?
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    He and a close friend of mine started sending pictures (of themselves to each other).
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    (Original post by -maddy-)
    He and a close friend of mine started sending pictures (of themselves to each other).
    that's none of your business though. he now likes your friend and it would seem she likes him back. live your life, let him live his.
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    No I appreciate that, but I still found it a little odd two days after I rejected him.
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    I understand being distant with a girl you like after being rejected, but he seems childish.

    Ignore and stop caring.

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    (Original post by -maddy-)
    No I appreciate that, but I still found it a little odd two days after I rejected him.
    can you use the reply feature in replying to posts.

    what did you expect? that he stayed forever single after you rej him? ppl move on, you are suddenly irrelevant
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    Rejection triggers the same parts of our brain as physical pain does. It's the only emotion to do this.

    Thus, think about it this way. Someone people can undergo lots of pain and some cannot take any.
    It seems he cannot take it and thus is lashing out in the only ways he knows possible to try and mitigate the pain onto you.
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    (Original post by iAmanze)
    Rejection triggers the same parts of our brain as physical pain does. It's the only emotion to do this.

    Thus, think about it this way. Someone people can undergo lots of pain and some cannot take any.
    It seems he cannot take it and thus is lashing out in the only ways he knows possible to try and mitigate the pain onto you.
    TIL

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    Maybe it's because he's a pitiful excuse of a human being.
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    He's pathetic, that's why. It's a good thing that you've managed to avoid him.
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    He's probably one of those immature boys that think you owe them something just because they have a crush. Sounds like you're better off without him, at least until he grows up.
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    clearly he was in love with you and you destroyed his dreams.
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    (Original post by gr8wizard10)
    can you use the reply feature in replying to posts.

    what did you expect? that he stayed forever single after you rej him? ppl move on, you are suddenly irrelevant
    You sound bitter! Did you get rejected too?

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    Hmm... Tbh I don't see anything wrong with him not wanting to remain friends with you. He was rejected and now he's trying to move on? What's wrong with that.

    It might be a bit odd that he's sending nudes to another girl you both know, but like someone said above, that's their business.

    I've been in both your positions before. I rejected a girl who wanted a relationship with me and offered to be her friend. But she rejected my offer and would rather not be friends at all.

    She got with someone else, fair play to her.

    It would be selfish of me to reject someone and expect their friendship immediately. Give them time alone to get it out of their system. If they want to be friends they'll come back, if not then you have your answer.

    I would rather someone opt out of being friends with me, than stick along hoping I'll change my mind.
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    EGO - hurt.
    To be honest he sounds like the type of guy that needed to be shot down hard. He's already an air head. If his head became any bigger he'd take to the skies like a hot air balloon.
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    (Original post by StyleIcon)
    You sound bitter! Did you get rejected too?

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    on multiple occasions, im the bitterest person when it comes to relations. suddenly come to rlly dislike members of the self-entitled female community. gonna get my mum to just do arranged marriage, i rlly cba anymore.

    that and im shy
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    The people who say this is a usual reaction is on crack!

    You're skimming over pretty important details, he's telling all their friends he hates her, making her social life mega awkward to the point he refuses to go to the same functions she does...how can you act like that's a normal reaction, particularly if he's moved on to someone else? If he moved on and she's 'irrelevant' as one of you said, why keep up the hate campaign? :/
 
 
 
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