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    (Original post by BeDirectWomen)
    A lot of sex in monogamous relationships gets dull and routine. There are only so many ways you can **** one person before it becomes a bit repetitive. That's why casual sex with different people is more exciting.
    What can you possibly do in bed with a single stranger that you can't possibly do with a partner in a monogamous relationship? Hell, if you'd do some things with a strange that I'd happily do with a partner then IMO you trust strangers way to much.
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    (Original post by BeDirectWomen)
    I have no idea why people still practice monogamy. Largely I think it's just down to people being socially conditioned to believe that a relationship must be monogamous other it's not a real relationship, which is bull**** of course. Human beings definitely aren't monogamous at the core, so trying to be monogamous is like fighting our own natural instincts. Monogamy doesn't work. I wrote a good post on here recently about why monogamy fails and the advantages of non-monogamy/open relationships.
    Do you have any sort of proof at all that human beings aren't monogamous to the core? It sounds like you think that just because you do something it must be right. Trust me, my natural instincts want to be in a monogamous relationship, it really is as simple as that.

    What's to say the only reason you don't want to be monogamous is because you think society will see you in the way you want to be seen because of it?
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    (Original post by BobTheSinger)
    I'm still suprised theres still people in 2015 who practice old fashioned monogamy lol, everyone I know is in open relationships or polyamorous. Who are these people still practicing monogamy in 2015? :confused:
    Judging by this thread and similar ones that you and others have started, seemingly a large portion of the TSR community still practise "old fashioned monogamy" as you so patronisingly put it. There's nothing old fashioned about it, loving someone will always be in fashion.
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    (Original post by Dheorl)
    Do you have any sort of proof at all that human beings aren't monogamous to the core? It sounds like you think that just because you do something it must be right. Trust me, my natural instincts want to be in a monogamous relationship, it really is as simple as that.

    What's to say the only reason you don't want to be monogamous is because you think society will see you in the way you want to be seen because of it?
    Your best bet is to read my previous post 'In A World Of Failing Monogamy & Marriage, Are Open Relationships The Way Forward?'. I explain everything there. Other than that, google the subject for yourself, and read the book 'The myth of monogamy'.

    I don't agree that your natural instincts are to be monogamous. Even when you're in a monogamous relationship, you are still attracted to other women. Case closed.
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    4) - I'm Christian, and my sexuality is perceived by many, including myself, as sinful. I will have a platonic heterosexual marriage, hopefully with 2 children (God-willing).
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    (Original post by BeDirectWomen)
    Your best bet is to read my previous post 'In A World Of Failing Monogamy & Marriage, Are Open Relationships The Way Forward?'. I explain everything there. Other than that, google the subject for yourself, and read the book 'The myth of monogamy'.
    Fancy quoting it here so it's easy to reference? Or seeing as you seemingly know so much about it link to an article online that you specifically agree with because I doubt I'll agree with it and it would be helpful if you linked something specific so you could answer any questions there might be about it.

    I don't agree that your natural instincts are to be monogamous. Even when you're in a monogamous relationship, you are still attracted to other women. Case closed.
    I'm not though. I'll concede that I look at a woman and think "yea, she's good looking" but I'm not attracted to her. I really am naturally monogamous.
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    (Original post by Dheorl)
    Fancy quoting it here so it's easy to reference? Or seeing as you seemingly know so much about it link to an article online that you specifically agree with because I doubt I'll agree with it and it would be helpful if you linked something specific so you could answer any questions there might be about it.

    I'm not though. I'll concede that I look at a woman and think "yea, she's good looking" but I'm not attracted to her. I really am naturally monogamous.
    I would post some links, but I don't think links are allowed in the 'relationships' forum. Correct me if I'm wrong. But search my posts for that post.
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    (Original post by BeDirectWomen)
    I would post some links, but I don't think links are allowed in the 'relationships' forum. Correct me if I'm wrong. But search my posts for that post.
    Why not just make everything simpler and quote it here? If not actual links then maybe some specific article titles?
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    (Original post by BeDirectWomen)
    Why would you have an open relationship if you're weren't sexually adventurous? The whole point of open relationships is to keep them non-monogamous so you can sleep with other people if you want to.
    'car keys in the fruit bowl ' wife swapping ... not necessarily adventurous especially by the standards of what people do in sexually focused play in the wider world of kink ..
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    (Original post by ColouredTights)
    This is a stupid scale. I'd say that I am the most adventurous person I know, literally will try anything and talk about everything that I have done with anyone. However, I can't do casual sex- it just isn't for me and my personality. I don't think that that makes me prefer bland sex.

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    which is why i said my my reply it;s multi dimension 'space'

    with axes that could be labelled in combinations various ways

    e.g.

    - promiscuity
    - kinkiness
    - gender of partner flexibility
    - likelihood of permanent effect
    - risk / hazard
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    (Original post by Dheorl)
    Judging by this thread and similar ones that you and others have started, seemingly a large portion of the TSR community still practise "old fashioned monogamy" as you so patronisingly put it. There's nothing old fashioned about it, loving someone will always be in fashion.
    Nearly every woman that's replied in this thread isn't monogamous, they are all in open relationships or non monogamous arrangements. Isn't that telling you something? I don't know any monogamous relationships within my social circle, personally I think it's extremely rare for anyone to be in a monogamous relationship in 2015, you sir are a tiny minority and a dying breed. Goodluck finding a monogamous woman in 2015, something tells me you need a time machine to go back to the 50's.
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    (Original post by BobTheSinger)
    Nearly every woman that's replied in this thread isn't monogamous, they are all in open relationships or non monogamous arrangements. Isn't that telling you something? I don't know any monogamous relationships within my social circle, personally I think it's extremely rare for anyone to be in a monogamous relationship in 2015, you sir are a tiny minority and a dying breed. Goodluck finding a monogamous woman in 2015, something tells me you need a time machine to go back to the 50's.
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3294771

    You really don't have a leg to stand on here, sorry. You've failed at coming up with anything coherent to say against every other point I've made. I'm not sure if you're terrible at debating or just don't really believe in what you're saying.
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    (Original post by Dheorl)
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3294771

    You really don't have a leg to stand on here, sorry. You've failed at coming up with anything coherent to say against every other point I've made. I'm not sure if you're terrible at debating or just don't really believe in what you're saying.
    Nope you're just stuck in the past. Nearly every woman that replied in here is in an open relationship or is non monogamous, i'm more inclined to believe them than some poll which any anon person can vote on.
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    (Original post by BobTheSinger)
    Nope you're just stuck in the past. Nearly every woman that replied in here is in an open relationship or is non monogamous, i'm more inclined to believe them than some poll which any anon person can vote on.
    As apposed to some thread in which any person can comment? Whilst going to two unis I've known maybe 3 people who genuinely aren't into monogamy. Tbh if I'm "stuck in the past" I really don't care. It's what I enjoy and there's nothing unnatural about it. If some people like sleeping around and never really getting to know one single person then that's fine, but in no way is one option more progressive/liberated/better than the other.
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    (Original post by Dheorl)
    As apposed to some thread in which any person can comment? Whilst going to two unis I've known maybe 3 people who genuinely aren't into monogamy. Tbh if I'm "stuck in the past" I really don't care. It's what I enjoy and there's nothing unnatural about it. If some people like sleeping around and never really getting to know one single person then that's fine, but in no way is one option more progressive/liberated/better than the other.
    More progressive and liberated yes, better no. I never said anything about sexually liberated people being better. That's fine enjoy your life, and best of luck finding any woman that's monogamous in 2015 you'll need it.
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    (Original post by Dheorl)
    Why not just make everything simpler and quote it here? If not actual links then maybe some specific article titles?
    This is the article
    http://www.bedirectwithwomen.com/blo...he-way-forward
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    (Original post by Dheorl)
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3294771

    You really don't have a leg to stand on here, sorry. You've failed at coming up with anything coherent to say against every other point I've made. I'm not sure if you're terrible at debating or just don't really believe in what you're saying.
    That's not a big enough sample of women to produce a result that is representative of how women in society today feel about monogamy vs non-monogamy. 18 women on a student forum saying they prefer monogamy is not proof of anything.
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    (Original post by BobTheSinger)
    More progressive and liberated yes, better no. I never said anything about sexually liberated people being better. That's fine enjoy your life, and best of luck finding any woman that's monogamous in 2015 you'll need it.
    How is it more liberated? And don't worry, I haven't had any trouble so far.
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    (Original post by BeDirectWomen)
    That's not a big enough sample of women to produce a result that is representative of how women in society today feel about monogamy vs non-monogamy. 18 women on a student forum saying they prefer monogamy is not proof of anything.
    Neither are the answers in this thread but some seem to think it's a reasonable sample.
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