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    This weekend I went out for the night with my friends and partner and I ended up drinking far too much. I don't remember a lot of the evening but I do remember some guy chatting me up at the bar and he bought me a drink. Instead of telling him that I had a boyfriend, I let him get me a drink and was being quite flirty.

    I now feel extremely guilty. In my drunken state I just saw it as harmless fun and knew that it wouldn't lead to anything as deep down I am happy with my relationship.

    When I've had drink I seem to enjoy male attention. I didn't have a father figure growing up and while this isn't an excuse, it's he only reason I can think of for my selfish behaviour and wanting attention from men.

    Long story short, my boyfriend got extremely angry and upset with me (justifiably). He said that I was rubbing it in his face and this guy was stroking my arm - honestly didn't realise at the time. I feel horrible because I must have also given the guy my number as a text came through apologising from him for the trouble he had caused.

    I know what I did was really wrong but it's like at the time I didn't see it. I'm not going to let myself get that drunk again and let my inhibitions slip. I also deleted his number straight away. Just feel like even though my partner has forgiven me, I can't forgive myself and it's eating me up inside.

    So bottom line is, should I stop feeling guilty and just make sure I never happens again or am I right to feel this horrible?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This weekend I went out for the night with my friends and partner and I ended up drinking far too much. I don't remember a lot of the evening but I do remember some guy chatting me up at the bar and he bought me a drink. Instead of telling him that I had a boyfriend, I let him get me a drink and was being quite flirty.

    I now feel extremely guilty. In my drunken state I just saw it as harmless fun and knew that it wouldn't lead to anything as deep down I am happy with my relationship.

    When I've had drink I seem to enjoy male attention. I didn't have a father figure growing up and while this isn't an excuse, it's he only reason I can think of for my selfish behaviour and wanting attention from men.

    Long story short, my boyfriend got extremely angry and upset with me (justifiably). He said that I was rubbing it in his face and this guy was stroking my arm - honestly didn't realise at the time. I feel horrible because I must have also given the guy my number as a text came through apologising from him for the trouble he had caused.

    I know what I did was really wrong but it's like at the time I didn't see it. I'm not going to let myself get that drunk again and let my inhibitions slip. I also deleted his number straight away. Just feel like even though my partner has forgiven me, I can't forgive myself and it's eating me up inside.

    So bottom line is, should I stop feeling guilty and just make sure I never happens again or am I right to feel this horrible?
    Feeling guilty about what happened is a good sign, because it shows that you do care about your boyfriends feelings. You have to forgive yourself though, things happen and you didn't cheat - but you clearly broke the trust. You need to prove to your boyfriend now that you can be trusted again - not getting drunk will definitely help so you're on the right track.
 
 
 
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