Does it matter how you lost your virginity?
It's a question that's been on my mind since unfortunately I'm still a virgin. I know women say a man should be confident but I'd be lying if I said it didn't sometimes bother me to be a virgin at my age (27).
For those of you wondering why, it's a bit of a long story. I wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend when I was younger. My parents came to the US from Pakistan and they were pretty strict about interacting with girls. I remember my mother would make us turn our faces if a man and women kissed on tv. I know that probably sounds crazy to those of you who didn't grow up with that background but that's how conservative they were.
I didn't really have a problem with it until I reached my 20's. I decided I didn't want to have an arranged marriage and wanted to date. Unfortunately I was obese and shy and the few times I got the courage to ask a woman out I got turned down.
I've been trying to lose weight and get my life together. I'm hoping to join the Air Force within the next year so hopefully having a real job will add to my confidence.
My preference would be to lose my virginity in a relationship. Maybe I'm being too idealistic but having a woman go slow with me and show me the ropes sounds pretty hot. Having said that I realize at my age not many women will want to deal with it. I mean I could probably just stay quiet about it and try to wing it which is a possibility I'm seriously considering. My final option would be to just hire an escort for a few sessions and get some practice. I've never kissed a woman before either so lord knows I need it.
So does it matter which of these options I choose? Does it matter how you lose your virginity? Which choice do y'all think is the best?
For those of you wondering why, it's a bit of a long story. I wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend when I was younger. My parents came to the US from Pakistan and they were pretty strict about interacting with girls. I remember my mother would make us turn our faces if a man and women kissed on tv. I know that probably sounds crazy to those of you who didn't grow up with that background but that's how conservative they were.
I didn't really have a problem with it until I reached my 20's. I decided I didn't want to have an arranged marriage and wanted to date. Unfortunately I was obese and shy and the few times I got the courage to ask a woman out I got turned down.
I've been trying to lose weight and get my life together. I'm hoping to join the Air Force within the next year so hopefully having a real job will add to my confidence.
My preference would be to lose my virginity in a relationship. Maybe I'm being too idealistic but having a woman go slow with me and show me the ropes sounds pretty hot. Having said that I realize at my age not many women will want to deal with it. I mean I could probably just stay quiet about it and try to wing it which is a possibility I'm seriously considering. My final option would be to just hire an escort for a few sessions and get some practice. I've never kissed a woman before either so lord knows I need it.
So does it matter which of these options I choose? Does it matter how you lose your virginity? Which choice do y'all think is the best?
You're a virgin at 27? **** me
Original post by ThreadPoster
My preference would be to lose my virginity in a relationship. Maybe I'm being too idealistic but having a woman go slow with me and show me the ropes sounds pretty hot. Having said that I realize at my age not many women will want to deal with it.
As long as your not picky about them being a virgin or anything then you really shouldn't have a problem, i imagine a lot of women find it cute or just quaint (not ideal but, hey, beggars cant be choosers) how you broach the subject during 3rd date i don't have a clue.
Original post by ThreadPoster
I mean I could probably just stay quiet about it and try to wing it which is a possibility I'm seriously considering. My final option would be to just hire an escort for a few sessions and get some practice. I've never kissed a woman before either so lord knows I need it.
Nope. No. Non. Won't give you what you want and your future partner may ask how you lost your virginity, this would not be the ideal answer.
Original post by ThreadPoster
So does it matter which of these options I choose? Does it matter how you lose your virginity? Which choice do y'all think is the best?
Yes it does matter in my opinion. I'm like you, but a few years younger so im not giving this opinion as someone whos been dating since 16.
I suppose at the end of the day my opinion doesn't matter its yours that matters. Do what you feel is right for you.
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Nope. No. Non. Won't give you what you want and your future partner may ask how you lost your virginity, this would not be the ideal answer.
Nope. No. Non. Won't give you what you want and your future partner may ask how you lost your virginity, this would not be the ideal answer.
Do women actually ask their boyfriends how they lost their virginity? I didn't realize it was a common topic for conversation.
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OP, I don't think you'll be happy if you go to an escort or prosititute to lose your virginity - sure there's the possibility it may actually all be very pleasant and helpful and whatnot and you might find it a satisfying experience, but it's more likely than not that losing your virginity to someone you've paid to have sex with you will leave you feeling disappointed and regretful.
Of course it's very unusual for a man to be a virgin at 27, but please don't feel bad about it (and ignore those people making horrible jokes about it). I come from a family where I wasn't supposed to have anything to do with boys and was 24 before I lost my virginity - it just means you have a lot of making up to do once you do lose it!
If you explain the situation to a girl, the strict family etc etc, you'll find some who will be understanding. I wouldn't say you've been waiting for the perfect girl or anything that makes it sound as if you really romanticise the whole thing, but I think a lot would respect you if you just said you've never had the opportunity growing up to date and you've never particularly wanted to sleep with random girls who don't mean anything to you.
Of course it's very unusual for a man to be a virgin at 27, but please don't feel bad about it (and ignore those people making horrible jokes about it). I come from a family where I wasn't supposed to have anything to do with boys and was 24 before I lost my virginity - it just means you have a lot of making up to do once you do lose it!
If you explain the situation to a girl, the strict family etc etc, you'll find some who will be understanding. I wouldn't say you've been waiting for the perfect girl or anything that makes it sound as if you really romanticise the whole thing, but I think a lot would respect you if you just said you've never had the opportunity growing up to date and you've never particularly wanted to sleep with random girls who don't mean anything to you.I'm 28 and still a virgin
It's definitely up to the person. I am in a similar situation but I am only 22 right now. I haven't got an excuse off having strict parents, I was just an awkward high schooler, a nerdy college student and since I've been told that I am either too nice and get friendzoned or to aggressive and get binned instantly, I am well built and physically fit, and I don't feel hideously ugly!
I've for some reason developed high standards for girls to end up in a relationship with and have turned down near certain sex 3 times! (I know wtf is wrong with me).
It is all about your morals. Yes the idea situation is to get into a relationship with your ideal girl and losing it with her, perhaps using, "I've not done it in a VERY long time as an excuse for your inexperience" (to start with, perhaps 3 years down the road, tell her). OR if you just want to lose it, go see a Prostitute. Can tell her whatever you want, and she'll use her talents to make it as easy and fun as possible. Perhaps when the virgin odour goes away, the girls will want to come to play.
I am in 2 minds as I am going to Amsterdam soon and no where better to loose it than in Amsterdam, IF it has to come to it like this!
I've for some reason developed high standards for girls to end up in a relationship with and have turned down near certain sex 3 times! (I know wtf is wrong with me).
It is all about your morals. Yes the idea situation is to get into a relationship with your ideal girl and losing it with her, perhaps using, "I've not done it in a VERY long time as an excuse for your inexperience" (to start with, perhaps 3 years down the road, tell her). OR if you just want to lose it, go see a Prostitute. Can tell her whatever you want, and she'll use her talents to make it as easy and fun as possible. Perhaps when the virgin odour goes away, the girls will want to come to play.
I am in 2 minds as I am going to Amsterdam soon and no where better to loose it than in Amsterdam, IF it has to come to it like this!
Original post by ThreadPoster
It's a question that's been on my mind since unfortunately I'm still a virgin. I know women say a man should be confident but I'd be lying if I said it didn't sometimes bother me to be a virgin at my age (27).
For those of you wondering why, it's a bit of a long story. I wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend when I was younger. My parents came to the US from Pakistan and they were pretty strict about interacting with girls. I remember my mother would make us turn our faces if a man and women kissed on tv. I know that probably sounds crazy to those of you who didn't grow up with that background but that's how conservative they were.
I didn't really have a problem with it until I reached my 20's. I decided I didn't want to have an arranged marriage and wanted to date. Unfortunately I was obese and shy and the few times I got the courage to ask a woman out I got turned down.
I've been trying to lose weight and get my life together. I'm hoping to join the Air Force within the next year so hopefully having a real job will add to my confidence.
My preference would be to lose my virginity in a relationship. Maybe I'm being too idealistic but having a woman go slow with me and show me the ropes sounds pretty hot. Having said that I realize at my age not many women will want to deal with it. I mean I could probably just stay quiet about it and try to wing it which is a possibility I'm seriously considering. My final option would be to just hire an escort for a few sessions and get some practice. I've never kissed a woman before either so lord knows I need it.
So does it matter which of these options I choose? Does it matter how you lose your virginity? Which choice do y'all think is the best?
For those of you wondering why, it's a bit of a long story. I wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend when I was younger. My parents came to the US from Pakistan and they were pretty strict about interacting with girls. I remember my mother would make us turn our faces if a man and women kissed on tv. I know that probably sounds crazy to those of you who didn't grow up with that background but that's how conservative they were.
I didn't really have a problem with it until I reached my 20's. I decided I didn't want to have an arranged marriage and wanted to date. Unfortunately I was obese and shy and the few times I got the courage to ask a woman out I got turned down.
I've been trying to lose weight and get my life together. I'm hoping to join the Air Force within the next year so hopefully having a real job will add to my confidence.
My preference would be to lose my virginity in a relationship. Maybe I'm being too idealistic but having a woman go slow with me and show me the ropes sounds pretty hot. Having said that I realize at my age not many women will want to deal with it. I mean I could probably just stay quiet about it and try to wing it which is a possibility I'm seriously considering. My final option would be to just hire an escort for a few sessions and get some practice. I've never kissed a woman before either so lord knows I need it.
So does it matter which of these options I choose? Does it matter how you lose your virginity? Which choice do y'all think is the best?
It only matters if it matters to you. It's an individual thing.
When I read the title of this thread I was just gonna answer with a simple "no it doesn't matter how you lose your virginity" aaaannnd.. now I think I'll just keep it at that actually
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