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Anon for obvious reasons.

Dear Citizens of TSR. I am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend of more than a year. We are both at university, although quite far apart, but with exams upcoming and all we have not managed to meet up as often as we would. We are quite sexually active, although the lack of her physical presence has gotten me sexually frustrated.

Anyways, long story short, my solution to this has been masturbation (never felt the need to do this before), and I have been knocking a few out over pictures of girls online, some of which are pictures of her, some pictures of her friends, and others are of random girls. It is crazy the vast amount of very revealing pictures girls of todays modern society regularly post on public domain accessible through means of Facebook, Twitter or whatever.

Would you consider this as cheating? I have not made physical contact with another girl. I have heard various explanations; some saying that it is acceptable if it over random women, like a celeb, but unacceptable if it is say her friends or someone you know. So I turn to the wise wisdom of TSR on this matter.

I welcome responses from both genders on this matter.
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Not at all.
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Anonymous #1
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Also girls, would it bother you more if your boyfriend was masturbating over your friends rather than random people online? Or would you see it as the same?
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Not really. There's a good chance she's done it too, not that they talk about it as much.
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I would definitely be upset if my boyfriend masturbated over my friends but I do not mind even a little bit if he masturbated over celebs and pornstars etc.
It's entirely disgusting to know that my boyfriend has been masturbating over my friends, makes me feel like he prefers them to me
And no, you haven't cheated IMO. But every girl is different and your girlfriend may or may not mind your act.


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(Original post by n.safar4)
I would definitely be upset if my boyfriend masturbated over my friends but I do not mind even a little bit if he masturbated over celebs and pornstars etc.
It's entirely disgusting to know that my boyfriend has been masturbating over my friends, makes me feel like he prefers them to me
And no, you haven't cheated IMO. But every girl is different and your girlfriend may or may not mind your act.


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But I do not understand why? Being with a girl and finding her friends sexually attractive are not mutually exclusive. I did not say anything about preferring them to her, but I cannot that deny that some of them are hot.
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Because I am not physically seeing another girl and no one is getting hurt? (Well at least, as long as I do not tell her...)
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Because I am not physically seeing another girl and no one is getting hurt? (Well at least, as long as I do not tell her...)
Trust us and just stick to celebrities and strangers ☺️


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So you are practically having sex with your gf's friends, how sick of you OP! Imagine the horror the poor girl would go through if she found out!
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(Original post by n.safar4)
Trust us and just stick to celebrities and strangers ☺️


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Soo what makes it fine if it is a stranger and not if it is her friend? You are still getting off over someone that is not her in either case and there is still opportunity for jealousy or hurt feelings to arise.

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So you are practically having sex with your gf's friends, how sick of you OP! Imagine the horror the poor girl would go through if she found out!
No am I not having sex with her friends, please learn to read.
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Ok well, if your man has a cleared browsed history, you can know what hes been up to...
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Soo what makes it fine if it is a stranger and not if it is her friend? You are still getting off over someone that is not her in either case and there is still opportunity for jealousy or hurt feelings to arise.



No am I not having sex with her friends, please learn to read.
But you're pretty much getting happy thoughts over them, and the end result... so you might as well as have already screwed them in the first place.
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Basically, if you're ******* over her friends you want to **** them. Imagine her telling you she wanted to **** your friends and then giving you a list of those she preferred - how would you feel?
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I may be the only girl that may side with u here...
But you're in a ldr and you're going to be sexually frustrated. That's understandable. And whether girls want to know, or admit it or otherwise, lads will **** over celebs, porn stars, your friends, anyone they find sexually attractive.
It is just a animalistic instinct. Girls will do it too, just not as much, or admit it.
I just think if you're not actually doing the dirty and cheating then fine. You're not talking to these girls, you're not flirting with them with the hopes of more and you aren't meeting up and kissing other girls.
I'd say fair play for keeping it in your pants in a ldr.


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No, it's just creepy and implies that you might want to.
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(Original post by hannahhaworth)
Basically, if you're ******* over her friends you want to **** them. Imagine her telling you she wanted to **** your friends and then giving you a list of those she preferred - how would you feel?
In today is hyper-sexualised world where girls regularly promote themselves in skimpy-clothing uploading them by the dozen, its like they want us to **** over them in the first place. If you look on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or whatever social media these are the pictures which attract the most likes and they know it. What am I supposed to do about it? If I find them attractive I find them attractive. If she finds them attractive she finds them attractive.

Again, I never mentioned anything about me preferring them to her, so I do not know why you and some over poster above feel the need to assume I do?
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In today is hyper-sexualised world where girls regularly promote themselves in skimpy-clothing uploading them by the dozen, its like they want us to **** over them in the first place. If you look on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or whatever social media these are the pictures which attract the most likes and they know it. What am I supposed to do about it? If I find them attractive I find them attractive. If she finds them attractive she finds them attractive.

Again, I never mentioned anything about me preferring them to her, so I do not know why you and some over poster above feel the need to assume I do?
At no point did I mention her preferring them over you. I was saying imagine that she went through her 'wankbank' of your mates with you -how would that make you feel? Something you've avoided answering.
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Girrl, high 5 me
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(Original post by deviant182)
I may be the only girl that may side with u here...
But you're in a ldr and you're going to be sexually frustrated. That's understandable. And whether girls want to know, or admit it or otherwise, lads will **** over celebs, porn stars, your friends, anyone they find sexually attractive.
It is just a animalistic instinct. Girls will do it too, just not as much, or admit it.
I just think if you're not actually doing the dirty and cheating then fine. You're not talking to these girls, you're not flirting with them with the hopes of more and you aren't meeting up and kissing other girls.
I'd say fair play for keeping it in your pants in a ldr.


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Judging from this thread so far all the guys so far have said it is fine, and all the girls (barring you) said no.

What I mainly do not understand is why these seem to suggest that doing it over her friends means that I prefer them over her. But under that logic, it would mean I also prefer random people over her too which they somewhat seem fine with instead. So it is like them telling me they would be fine if I preferred random person XYZ over them but not if I preferred one of their friends over them. Baffles me.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Judging from this thread so far all the guys so far have said it is fine, and all the girls (barring you) said no.

What I mainly do not understand is why these seem to suggest that doing it over her friends means that I prefer them over her. But under that logic, it would mean I also prefer random people over her too which they somewhat seem fine with instead. So it is like them telling me they would be fine if I preferred random person XYZ over them but not if I preferred one of their friends over them. Baffles me.
If you genuinely didn't think you'd done wrong you wouldn't have made this thread. And please learn to read; I never said you preferred your gf's friends to her. Go to bed and stop ******* over your partner's mates' instagrams. That or answer my last question.
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