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    It was too long so I did not want to read: Sex isn't everything.

    I don't understand how some people are like "I'm so horny!" and "I've so frustrated, I've not had sex for x amount of time!" Why can't they just deal with it. I've never really felt like that I dislike hearing or reading sexual things, I barely think about being sexual with a female I've never looked at a female and thought "I want to have sex with that female and do "insert sexual things here" to her!" It makes me feel sick. I barely get any erections either I don't remember the last time I looked at a female and my penis engorged itself with blood due to the dilation of the arteries in my penis

    I also don't like how some makes treat females, the "lad" culture, I don't understand why they think that a female is just for sex, where did their parents go wrong?
    I also dislike the language and people use... They make me feel sick.. I've never said any of these words...

    I did used to watch porn when I was younger, but I never masturbated to it, I never felt like it, even though my body was stimulated by the visual stimuli, I never saw the point in it, I only watched it when I was bored, now I barely watch it at all.

    On the subject of masturbation, I dislike the idea of thinking about someone (it doesn't matter if you know or don't know the person) and using them to ejaculate, isn't that objectifying them? People aren't sex objects for other people to use.

    What's wrong with cuddling your partner? That's intimate, that shows you that you love them AND you get to kiss them! You don't need to insert your penis into a vagina to show love... Cuddles release Oxytocin, that makes you and your partner closer! There are so many things you could be doing instead of penis in vagina time

    And if you all are wondering, I am NOT an asexual even though some of you may think I am. I am attracted emotionally, physically and mentally to females. I've never called a female "sexy" or "hot" however I also dislike like it when I look at breasts or buttocks... I feel really bad, I wish I could control that...

    That is all
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    Lots of people are sexual and talking about sexual issues can lead to safer sex and healthier lifestyle choices. Irresponsible sexual behaviour isn't encouraged on here.

    if you have such a problem with sex, stop posting in a forum in which the majority of members are sexual or practice sex. Or get over it. There's nothing wrong with sex.

    habing sex with someone you love is no more objectifying than cuddling someone. You do both to give and receive. For many, sex is an incredibly tender and loving act, and you have no right to detract from that just because you don't agree. People don't jump down your throat all the time so give us the same respect.

    You're also EXTREMELY judgemental. Having sex and being intimate via cuddling and cute things aren't mutually exclusive. You can do both, most loving couples do. Stop judging us by your standards - you don't like being judged so quit going on at us.
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    Sex isn't everything but it isn't disgusting either. You need to get some moderation, boy

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    Sure you're a male of this species? Ever felt urges to be of the opposite gender?
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    (Original post by AvaAdore)
    For many, sex is an incredibly tender and loving act, and you have no right to detract from that just because you don't agree. People don't jump down your throat all the time so give us the same respect.

    You're also EXTREMELY judgemental. Having sex and being intimate via cuddling and cute things aren't mutually exclusive. You can do both, most loving couples do. Stop judging us by your standards - you don't like being judged so quit going on at us.
    This, sex is perfectly healthy and normal and you shouldn't judge people for being sexual in a healthy loving relationship.
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    (Original post by ArundelRanger)
    Sure you're a male of this species? Ever felt urges to be of the opposite gender?
    Yes, I am a ame I've not had any urges to have sexual interocuse yet
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    (Original post by AvaAdore)
    Lots of people are sexual and talking about sexual issues can lead to safer sex and healthier lifestyle choices. Irresponsible sexual behaviour isn't encouraged on here.

    if you have such a problem with sex, stop posting in a forum in which the majority of members are sexual or practice sex. Or get over it. There's nothing wrong with sex.

    habing sex with someone you love is no more objectifying than cuddling someone. You do both to give and receive. For many, sex is an incredibly tender and loving act, and you have no right to detract from that just because you don't agree. People don't jump down your throat all the time so give us the same respect.

    You're also EXTREMELY judgemental. Having sex and being intimate via cuddling and cute things aren't mutually exclusive. You can do both, most loving couples do. Stop judging us by your standards - you don't like being judged so quit going on at us.
    I'm not judging anyone
    Cuddling someone isn't using the You're giving them affection and they are too
    Doing cute things is nice
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    (Original post by MylittlePlusle)
    I'm not judging anyoneCuddling someone isn't using the You're giving them affection and they are tooDoing cute things is nice
    whats the difference? Both intimate, both loving, both parties give and receive? Stop judging everyone - your opinion isn't fact.
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    People talk about it like it's this brand new thing - no, it's been around for a billion years thanks
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    (Original post by AvaAdore)
    whats the difference? Both intimate, both loving, both parties give and receive? Stop judging everyone - your opinion isn't fact.
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    Cuddles make me feel warm and fuzzy
    You are clothed wen you have cuddles
    Cuddles and make someone feel safe
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    I'm not judging anyone
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    To be fair, we need "penis in vagina time" to keep the population going
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    (Original post by MylittlePlusle)
    And if you all are wondering, I am NOT an asexual even though some of you may think I am. I am attracted emotionally, physically and mentally to females. I've never called a female "sexy" or "hot" however I also dislike like it when I look at breasts or buttocks... I feel really bad, I wish I could control that...
    You do sound asexual. You can be aesthetically attracted to women but not sexually attracted to them - which is what asexuality includes or what is called 'heteroromantic.'
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    (Original post by MylittlePlusle)
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    Cuddles make me feel warm and fuzzy
    You are clothed wen you have cuddles
    Cuddles and make someone feel safe
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    I'm not judging anyone
    Making love tenderly can make you feel warm and fuzzy. It can make you feel the most safe you've ever been. You can also cuddle naked and not be sexual at all - a naked body isn't inherently sexual in all situations. You can have sex with clothes on too pal. You are stating things as facts and they simply aren't.

    You aren't an authority, even if someone could be, you definitely couldn't because you've never had sex. You have no idea how loving and romantic it can be. It's time to shut up about this or go post somewhere else. Stop belittling something that to some is a very tender, romantic intimate and loving act. You have no right to tell them their experience and definition is wrong just because it's not the same as yours.

    Most couples are very intimate and sweet and cute and cuddly and have sex. Both are normal and just because you have sex doesn't make you less cute or loving. Back off.
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    No, sex isn't everything, and it does irritate me when people act like it's the be all and end all and how glamourised (is that a word?) it is in movies etc.

    But sex is fun, it's intimate. A time you forget about all your flaws and hang-ups, clear your mind and just enjoy the moment. And it feels damn good. There's nothing wrong with being a sexual person. I understand you may not be particularly sexual, but don't make yourself out to be superior to those that are. There is nothing wrong with finding somebody sexually appealing, and saying "wow he/she's hot" and wanting to sleep with someone (obviously there are limits, when it starts becoming harassment as oppposed to a compliment). So don't make that out to be something bad as well.

    There are people who put sex above everything, those who can't control their urges so cheat on their partners. But sex within a loving relationship is a wonderful thing*. And post-sex cuddles are equally as wonderful.

    *not saying sex out of a relationship is bad, just isn't my cup of tea.
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    (Original post by AvaAdore)
    Making love tenderly can make you feel warm and fuzzy. It can make you feel the most safe you've ever been. You can also cuddle naked and not be sexual at all - a naked body isn't inherently sexual in all situations. You can have sex with clothes on too pal. You are stating things as facts and they simply aren't.

    You aren't an authority, even if someone could be, you definitely couldn't because you've never had sex. You have no idea how loving and romantic it can be. It's time to shut up about this or go post somewhere else. Stop belittling something that to some is a very tender, romantic intimate and loving act. You have no right to tell them their experience and definition is wrong just because it's not the same as yours.

    Most couples are very intimate and sweet and cute and cuddly and have sex. Both are normal and just because you have sex doesn't make you less cute or loving. Back off.

    Woah woah.. Calm down. Yeah sex is great and all but you have to understand where he's coming from. I suspect him to be asexual (asexuals are capable of romantic feelings by the way OP) and its just a feeling he was born with (like being gay). I just think he has a difficulty understanding why people enjoy sex so much. I don't think he's trying to force his opinions on anyone. He is just saying his feelings

    As for OP, there are a lot of people who feel the same way you do. You aren't alone
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    (Original post by Carpe Vinum)
    No, sex isn't everything, and it does irritate me when people act like it's the be all and end all and how glamourised (is that a word?) it is in movies etc.

    But sex is fun, it's intimate. A time you forget about all your flaws and hang-ups, clear your mind and just enjoy the moment. And it feels damn good. There's nothing wrong with being a sexual person. I understand you may not be particularly sexual, but don't make yourself out to be superior to those that are. There is nothing wrong with finding somebody sexually appealing, and saying "wow he/she's hot" and wanting to sleep with someone (obviously there are limits, when it starts becoming harassment as oppposed to a compliment). So don't make that out to be something bad as well.

    There are people who put sex above everything, those who can't control their urges so cheat on their partners. But sex within a loving relationship is a wonderful thing*. And post-sex cuddles are equally as wonderful.

    *not saying sex out of a relationship is bad, just isn't my cup of tea.
    This exactly

    You shouldn't think you are superior to the people who actually enjoy sex. Just like straight people shouldn't feel superior to gays just bc they think its unnatural.
    Everyone is different. It might be difficult to live in such a hypersexualised(?) world but we have to learn to be tolerant
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    I hope you don't mind but I'd like to ask you the following questions:

    1) How old are you?
    2) Are you single?
    3) Are you religious/adhere to any sort of belief system?
    4) Where are you from?

    I just didn't ever come across a guy saying things like that because to be honest while I may not seem like it I feel exactly like that and have always wanted to be with someone who things like that and is respectful like that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I hope you don't mind but I'd like to ask you the following questions:

    1) How old are you?
    2) Are you single?
    3) Are you religious/adhere to any sort of belief system?
    4) Where are you from?

    I just didn't ever come across a guy saying things like that because to be honest while I may not seem like it I feel exactly like that and have always wanted to be with someone who things like that and is respectful like that.
    This is the OP having a conversation with himself
 
 
 
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