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    I am massively the black sheep of the family...

    I live in Bristol, whilst all my family live in Swansea... I left due to all them being so close and me not so much. It all really stemmed from my father (who unfortunately passed away 14 years ago) my mothers new husband got on with him as they were willing to call him "dad" and basically act like his daughters whilst I respected him but never called or wanted to call him dad.

    I am gay (not an eccentric "camp" gay -- although that makes no difference) and my mother one said to me that she will never has the same bond to me as my sisters as they have children themselves....

    I had an argument with my mother today over something petty (which incidentally was not my fault -- basically I pay for her mobile phone contract and EE network was down in the area earlier and she assumed I had cut her off without telling her) and at the end of the call she didn't put the phone down and heard her say "I am done with him" and other various things like that....

    Anyone else the black sheep? Does it bother you?

    Yes I know how you feel! I am also a black sheep of my family, I am ignored a lot but I know they love me but I don't feel it from them, do you know what I mean? My father is dead since I was about 3 so I don't remember much about him. I am the youngest out of 5 and all my sibling and my mum treat me like I am nothing, I get bullied at school I have no life... I don't know what to do

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    I am massively the black sheep in the family.
    I just feel like the rest of the family and I are completely different.
    My family do not understand my interest in things such as reading, writing, going on walks and volunteering and do not understand why I am not very bothered about going out drinking.
    It does bother me because sometimes, I feel like my views, opinions and beliefs are simply dismissed and put aside whereas, they tend to listen to everyone else in the family.
    I feel like I am sitting in the back seat of my family.
    A lot of the time, I feel like my family do not want to get to know me because they do not understand me anyways. So half the time because they have given up getting to know who I am as person and how I have changed over the years, they instead just assume that I am the exact same person as who I was when I was 9 years old. And for that reason they make assumptions about me, surrounding who they think I am, when I am not even that person anymore. My family think they know who I am but they don;t and efforts to explain this to them just go unnoticed. For example, my mother in particular thought I was cutting myself because I was wearing jumpers in the winter, they thought I would hold it against them that I didn't have an 18 Birthday party even after efforts to explain that I didn't want an 18th Birthday Party.
    They think they know me so much but infact they don;t know me at all. Sometimes it makes me feel like I don't exist. I hate being the black sheep in the family but, I am proud of who I am and I do not want to change myself in order to fit in with them.
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