Emotional sex without a relationship??

You seem very messed up..

Have you tried a male escort?

If someone likes you and you're having sex they will seek a relationship if it continues.

I am a female and I am 21 years of age.

I want a guy I can hook up with when I feel like it but with the guy having sex with me because he has geniune feelings for me.

I am pretty good at telling when people are faking emotions because I do it often therefore I can tell the difference between a guy who is trying to get me into bed and a guy who actually likes/loves me.

Having a guy who is emotionally invested in you and will have sex with you when you feel like it is hard to find without there actually being a relationship. I dont want a relationship as I have not yet found out how to show emotions or feel them back and it gets pretty boring after a while.

I'm not a slut, I've just been very sexually frustrated lately because all the emotional guys want a relationship after sex and I hate the whole awkward bit when I have to explain that I dont actually like them and sorry if I tagged them along.

Guys are really bad at faking emotionally interest and I can tell pretty fast. I normally will talk to the guy I want to have sex with a couple days before and study them and show fake interest which then eventually leads to the bedroom.

But I am running out of guys. Most of the ones left only want sex (they have no interest in me) and so I only get to the "Lets start making out on the bed before we take off our clothes" bit before I leave.

How to I find more guys who will like me but not want a relationship?

Does anyone else feel this way? (Females in particular)

Sorry if this post was really messy!!

Thanks!

You seem very messed up..

No wan who is emotionally invested will accept a 'friends with benifits' realationship.

Could you elaborate more on what you mean by that?

Wait, so you want to sleep with a guy who genuinely likes you. But you don't want a relationship. Well that's difficult to get, because when people like people they usually want a relationship. And when you invite an emotionally invested man into the bedroom, you're kinda inviting them to ask you out for a relationship. I believe your mentality is wrong and quite selfish (without sounding rude). If you don't like the guy yourself, I don't see why you should use them. If I was you, I'd find a fwb - no emotion but hey, don't use a man

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Dude, this is pretty much impossible. Why would you want a guy to become invested in you emotionally if you don't want to become emotionally invested in him?

Wait. Actually, I think I get you. You don't want to be used sexually, so you want emotional investment to ensure the guy isn't seeing you as just a shag?

I can kind of identify. My relationship with my first (and so far only!) boyfriend started as a one-night stand. I didn't want to feel I'd been used, so started dating him - I kinda needed to know that we could have something more than just sex and I wasn't just some girl to him. Later on, once I got to know him a bit better I wanted him to fall for me. As soon as he confirmed his emotional investment I was less sure/not as interested. Anytime he seems distant with me I set about pulling him back again.

So actually I think I get you. It has to be a power/control thing. It's not healthy, but it's the way some people's minds work. My boyfriend is a great guy and I don't want to make it sound like I've reeled him in under false pretences because I really like him. I just prefer being the one who can call the shots is all.