Boyfriend worries :(

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I'm actually shaking right now I'm that mad/upset/scared! My bf works in a nightclub and at New Year these girls that he went to school with were there so he ended up talking to them and got their numbers coz they told him if they were ever in the area they would take me and him a run up to his old village (where they stay). So he's been texting one of them for the past couple of days a little. I've let him as I don't want to be too controlling and he said this girl is fat and ugly so he wouldn't go near her in that way. Also, I've read most of the texts and they are innocent. Of course, I've still been really jealous and made remarks but always told him I'm not going to stop him texting her.
But, about 20 minutes ago his sister-in-law (who works at the same nightclub as him) phoned me and told me that this girl text him tonight starting with "Hiya hunni" which in my mind is a sign that something's either going on or she is wanting something to go on. She also told me that this girl asked him to phone her which he did and she said she would be coming down this way in her mates car this weekend and he said he would be going out a run with them then. So I phoned him at work and said his sister-in-law phoned me and told me he was meant to be going out with these girls and he said yes he was but that I was going with him. Great of him to volunteer me to go wasn't it :rolleyes:

. Anyways so then I said about the "Hiya hunni" texts and he just said "That's not true" and that his sister-in-law is just saying that so we fight, that she told him she was going to do that, etc. But why would she go out of her way to phone me and tell me that. She has told me stuff before like that he was chatting girls up but she has always done it when she has seen me and not went out of her way to do it and I've always known she was joking then coz she has told me eventually that she's just winding me up.
Anyways, I never got a great explanation off of him coz he said he had to go before he got the sack for being on the phone at work so I just said bye and hung up.
Sorry this was so long but basically I just want advice on what the hell to do and how to go about this?
He's the kind of guy that if I sounded remotely like I was accusing him of something he would just go mental and turn it on me which I don't want so I need to go about this carefully.
Again sorry this was so long but thanks to anyone that bothered to read it and can give me advice.

Reply 1

theflcgal

sounds like you're being way way way too overprotective! theres nothing wrong to start texts saying hi hunni. ok maybe its a bit insensitive of her considering your boyfriend is taken, but shes probably just being friendly! let your boyfriend have female friends, its perfectly natural. chill out a bit and whatever you do, dont go yelling at your boyfriend cos hes probably completely innocent and overprotective girls completely put off most guys ive found.

Reply 2

Tinkers

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I wouldnt get two worked up hun. I txt my males mates quite a bit calling them hunny, darling, baby and stuff. It doesnt mean any thing thats just what i do. And its not as if he is going for a spin with out you.
Just take what his sister in law says with a pinch of salt.

Reply 3

Harv616

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theflcgal

sounds like you're being way way way too overprotective! theres nothing wrong to start texts saying hi hunni. ok maybe its a bit insensitive of her considering your boyfriend is taken, but shes probably just being friendly! let your boyfriend have female friends, its perfectly natural. chill out a bit and whatever you do, dont go yelling at your boyfriend cos hes probably completely innocent and overprotective girls completely put off most guys ive found.

We'll i still think he should have told her about the phone call and stuff...but yeah you might be being a tad over protective.

Reply 4

bubu

Go with him and show that his with YOU and not them

Reply 5

need_money

OP

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Thanks

. I do know that I can be a bit over-protective with him but I really do love him and I'm just scared I'll lose him. The thing that's really bothering me though, is that he went out of his way to use a mates phone to phone this girl even though if it had been me that had text him asking him to phone me I doubt he would have done that. Also, if he had found out guys were texting me calling me hunni he would have immediately flipped his lid with the excuse that "he knows the way guys think". I just hate it that he can get away with stuff like this and I can't and also the fact that I wouldn't want to act the way he is because the only person I care about is him.

Reply 6

need_money

OP

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bubu

Go with him and show that his with YOU and not them

Yeah but the thing is I don't even know if I can go. And if I can't there is no way on this earth that I'm letting him go. Whether that sounds too controlling or not I honestly don't care. It just ain't happening.

Reply 7

bubu

need_money

Yeah but the thing is I don't even know if I can go. And if I can't there is no way on this earth that I'm letting him go. Whether that sounds too controlling or not I honestly don't care. It just ain't happening.

Maybe were both controlling then because i wouldn't either.

but try your best to go with him
if then they stop calling/texting then you know they was after him

Reply 8

need_money

OP

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At least I know I'm not alone then :smile:

lol

Reply 9

Profesh

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BhArJ

We'll i still think he should have told her about the phone call and stuff...but yeah you might be being a tad over protective.

But for a burgeoning concern with ascertaining precisely how suspicious, cynical and mistrusting she is in regards to him.

Reply 10

need_money

OP

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Also, what should I say to him tomorrow when I see him? I can't just act like nothing at all has happened coz I've been really upset about this tonight but since I've come across as quite over-protective I don't want to make a big fuss. Basically I just want reassurance off of him, so what could I say to him for this?

Reply 11

bubu

need_money

Also, what should I say to him tomorrow when I see him? I can't just act like nothing at all has happened coz I've been really upset about this tonight but since I've come across as quite over-protective I don't want to make a big fuss. Basically I just want reassurance off of him, so what could I say to him for this?

First ask him if your unable to go would he not go as thats what you would like, tell him your feeling insecure about these girls as you know what girls are like(like he would say if it was other way round)

Reply 12

need_money

OP

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Heh good idea. Thanks :smile:

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