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When is it a relationship?

I know there is no uniform answer to this, just wanted a bit of advice. I found out recently a guy, who I thought wasn’t interested in me, does in fact like me and would have asked me out 2 months ago, if he had thought I liked him :rolleyes:

Anyways we have been texting each other a lot and have gone out together twice, I was just wondering when people defined when a relationship started i.e at the start of dating or after a couple of weeks, as I am all :confused:

at the moment.

Reply 1

Fleece

15

When you've had 'the chat'.

Reply 2

blissy

15

Yeah, it's you two who have to define it. Have the chat.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Cheers, I look forward to 'the chat'

Reply 4

Sweyn Forkbeard

19

Depends on what you mean by a relationship. I think what a relationship is, and whether two people are in one, is decided by how they both define a relationship and their attitude towards each other. If your attitudes and definitions are similar then I think you could be described as being in a relationship.

I know what I mean, but I realise that that probably looks like nonsense to everyone.

Reply 5

gracie88

14

I never had 'the chat' :confused:

I think it's when he/she starts introducing or reffering to you as their 'partner'. Me and my bf didn't ever define ourselves as a couple properly as far as i can remember... meh he never even asked me out!

Reply 6

Nix!

11

Hmm I've never had 'the chat', I'm a little curious what you mean by it...

Reply 7

tldevil

1

the chat probably goes along the lines of "are we official"

Reply 8

blissy

15

I think ours went along the lines of:
him: I told my mum I came to visit you last week
me: Oh really?
him: Yeah. She asked whether you were my girlfriend
me: And what did you say?
him: I said yeah.
me: Really?
him: Yeah
me: Cool. Does that make you my boyfriend then?

Maybe people who are that bit older and who kiss/go on dates more without it meaning you're automatically OMG GF/BF!! do 'the chat'.

Reply 9

Nix!

11

Well, I've usually just taken it easy and after a while kinda assumed it but by no means rushed into that conclusion. Never had the need for 'the chat'

Reply 10

g2da3

11

when you have had the chat and also i think the kiss seals it i think :smile:

Reply 11

CheesyBeans

1

I've never had 'the chat'. I think after seeing eachother for about 5 months or so, and we'd both developed strong feelings for eachother, it was pretty obvious that it was 'official'.

Reply 12

Nix!

11

CheesyBeans

I've never had 'the chat'. I think after seeing eachother for about 5 months or so, and we'd both developed strong feelings for eachother, it was pretty obvious that it was 'official'.

Hmm maybe it's different for different personalities or something.

Reply 13

blissy

15

I also think it has a lot to do with if there are any "complicating factors" which the OP seems to have. If you're just two free, single people who fall together and are still together a few months later you can probably safely assume you're bf and gf. Sometimes those assumptions are changed by circumstances, so they can't be made easily.

Reply 14

Nix!

11

blissy

I also think it has a lot to do with if there are any "complicating factors" which the OP seems to have. If you're just two free, single people who fall together and are still together a few months later you can probably safely assume you're bf and gf. Sometimes those assumptions are changed by circumstances, so they can't be made easily.

Actually, I think you may have hit the nail on the head there. I can relate to that from experience :wink:

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