Birthday Blues

It's my 18th birthday soon and I don't know what to do. My friends are a bit babyish and are into going to the cinema etc but that all seems very 13 year old. I'd like to go out clubbing/drinking but they're not the type. Sooo I'm in a predicament. Shall I go out to what they want to do while thinking "this is so immature" or...not go out...or....somehow end up doing something more exciting.

I've realised this doesn't make much sense. Basically, I fear my 18th birthday is gonna be crap 'cause my friends aren't very "socially aware". How do I remedy this?

Reply 1

dh00001

16

ask them if they will go out for your birthday because you want to try it?

Reply 2

Louenn

Why not try a compromise? Clubbing isn't all that fantastic (imho, anyrate).

If they'll want to go to the cinema, or go bowling, then do that, but as it is your birthday, state to them that it is your intentions to go to a pub afterwards.

Don't tell them that you think their wishes childish. But don't force them into doing something they don't want to do, make a compromise, and you will enjoy spending your birthday with your friends.

Reply 3

FyreFight

14

I'm having my 18th on Saturday, I don't have a clue what I'm gonna do either. Oh well!

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Mm maybe not clubbing, but just something a lil more grown up. Grr I dunno!

Nsiky - mine's on Friday. Hope you have fun whateber you do! woop!

(actually, i should take that advice myself..)

Reply 5

dh00001

16

go to an all you can eat buffet they always turn fun :smile:

and you can drink if thats what you want

Reply 6

Misogynist

18

The cinema and other stuff will be more fun than going to some club. Clubs are so overrated, really. In this case I'm all in with your friends, I'd prefer doing something relaxed much much more than a noisy club!

Reply 7

g2da3

11

you know i what did for my 18th
i called up all my old school friends from eg primary school and etc lol we all just meet up

like 30 guys all down west end it was crazy we went every where just go out with lots of friends some one out of them must want to drink after that :smile:

Reply 8

Mattmoy_2000

9

I reckon that only about 1 in 5 (or less) 18th birthdays are massive parties. There'll be a few people who have massive parties, and everybody else will feel like they're missing out because they're not having one. The truth is that you have more fun at other people's parties because there's not a load of attention on you. Wait until you're 21, all your friends are grown up and you can have a good night out. Getting totally smashed isn't really a great way to spend your 18th birthday - you'll want to remember it after all.

Reply 9

recneps

10

18th is always awkward - half ur friends will be too young to get into a lot of places so you can only go somewhere that lets underage people in! Perhaps try to organise a house party somewhere to avoid that problem?

Either that or try to arrange a joint 18th party later in the year to celebrate everyone's 18th

Reply 10

Laika

1

House party/gathering is the answer. Provide drink and music and encourage people to bring other friends to flesh out the numbers.

Reply 11

paperclip

18

let me open with, i hope you have a brilliant birthday

Louenn

Why not try a compromise? Clubbing isn't all that fantastic (imho, anyrate).

If they'll want to go to the cinema, or go bowling, then do that, but as it is your birthday, state to them that it is your intentions to go to a pub afterwards.

Don't tell them that you think their wishes childish. But don't force them into doing something they don't want to do, make a compromise, and you will enjoy spending your birthday with your friends.

this seems the best idea yet, go to a good bowling alley and the ones i've been to will have a bar nearby, get some pints and have a laugh. Then hit a pub, not for a piss up but a sociable pint, they usually have a pool table to which will be fun.
Then, if you still wanna hit a club do so by all means, the above stuff is early evening stuff anyway, why not do somthing for the rest of the evening. You'll have more fun with your mates then without

Reply 12

jay1234

1

pm me a po box and i'll send you some 5-MeO-AMT. Happy birthday, its all downhill from here

Reply 13

abc101

17

Cinema and stuff ain't babyish! I'd rather do that than go to a club! :biggrin:

Why don't you do something like laser quest, paintballing, or as others have suggested, bowling? You'll all have a laugh together. Or if you want something sophisticated, you could get your mates together and go for a posh meal at a swish restaurant. Have a good one whatever you do!

Reply 14

Sianey

Whaaa!? You people are all crazy! I love going clubbing. My 18th was on Thursday, that night I went for a meal with my family and boyfriend, on Friday I had a huge fancy dress party at the local rugby club, cheap drinks and serves everyone. We basically danced and drank, was a great night. Then on Sunday had a champagne party at home with my extended family plus family friends. All in all a fabulous birthday.

Most of my friends are still underage so we'll go clubbing more later in the year. Going for a big night out in Manchester with my boyfriend and his friends at uni after January modules though.

Reply 15

Mattmoy_2000

9

Cheers Sianey, I'm guessing that's made the OP feel fantastic.
Like I said, people like this ^^ are in the minority.

Reply 16

Jonesy_LJ

I dunno, I think some of what she said made a reasonable amount of sense.

Party at a local rugby club or village hall or something of that description with all your friends, possibly followed by a club is great way to spend your 18th.

Failing that, just hit the local pub that's not too fussy about I.D. and have a few pints (various other alchoholic beverages if the OP is a girl) and a good laugh. If your friends really aren't up for an all out rave, then surely they can at least make the effort for a quiet drink.

Reply 17

beach surf babe

14

Like most things-new years eve, prom etc 18th birthdays are over rated. Everyone goes on about how its a big birthday and that you've got to do something fabulous to celebrate. I had a very quiet 18th-a few friends round and a takeaway that made me ill...good huh?! :biggrin:

Why not talk to your friends and come to some sort of compromise? It is your birthday after all. Perhaps a meal out or something? You do have the problem that even though you might be 18, your friends aren't and most pubs/clubs are pretty strict on checking I.D so that will limit what you do.

You could always have a house party/ social gathering :p: